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Domming while pregnant? - 8/19/2005 10:33:53 PM

Ojedieu

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I've just started to stretch my wings as a Domme, but my husband and I are trying to get pregnant again. With my first, I hadn't really gotten started in the Domme side of things very much, so we just took a break from playing since we weren't extremely sure how much would be too much and didn't want to stress my body more than it already was. Coming at it from a Domme perspective, things are a bit different, so I'm not so sure I want to take a complete hiatus just yet. Also I'm sure that there are things about it that I haven't even considered yet, so I am looking for feedback from people on:

a) What you think of pregnant Dommes (good, bad, icky?)
b) Any advice you'd give to one (if you've been a pregnant Domme yourself, that is)
c) General personal experiences
d) Feedback from subs on the topic (I know, it's the Ask a Mistress forum, but I know you read this too)

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RE: Domming while pregnant? - 8/20/2005 1:58:16 AM

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i think that pregnancy and domination go hand in hand. your body is doing what ours is incapable of doing, it is showing the strength and beauty of womanhood. Allow him to massage you, rub your feet, bring you pleasure however you desire it. it might be a good time for him to learn the word "denial"...lol.....

But it doesn;t matter....dominantion should be who you are...not just how you play...imho

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RE: Domming while pregnant? - 8/20/2005 9:46:56 AM

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Pregnancy is a wonderful thing! Take full advantage of this time and get all the pampering you want, and then some!

Listen to your body, of course, and if you feel that it's time to take a break from strenuous play, do it. But, there are plenty of little things that can be fun, and easy on you. Google Jack Rinella, he has more than a few columns on his topping methods, which often have him in a reclining position. :)

Even when you are feeling exhausted, hormonal, vulnerable, YOU are the domme. You're entitled to feel as lousy as you want, or as energetic.

Good luck!

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RE: Domming while pregnant? - 8/21/2005 8:51:52 AM

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quote:

it might be a good time for him to learn the word "denial"...lol.....

Denial? Well, only if she isn't in the mood. A pregnant woman can have sex right up until her water breaks & many doctors encourage late last trimester sex to help bring on contractions. Orgasm involves the contraction of the uterine walls.

I would think this would be a perfect time to really explore more of your dominance. Your husband will instinctively seek out ways to comfort you while being pregnant. Encourage him to anticipate your needs. Praise him for knowing just what to do & when to do it. Partners that learn how to read one another bond more deeply. Do not let the pregnancy offer you an excuse to be bitchy. Do not think that being pregnant prevents you from physical activity. Though each woman is different... I myself was extremely physical (physically demanding job) during all of my pregnancies & quite sexual as well.

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RE: Domming while pregnant? - 8/21/2005 5:42:44 PM

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Of course you can still explore while being pregnant! You just have to make sure that you and he are on the same page. Make him aware that there may come times when you need a little breather in sessions. There may come times when you just don't feel that sexy, dominant, etc. Hell, I broke down and cried in front of my sub! Always be aware of how your body is feeling, don't over do it.

It is the perfect time, especially the further along you get, for him to take the proper time to pamper you.

When I was pregnant I was on another site and asked the Dommes out there if any of them had been pregnant as well as still being Domme. No reply.

Feel free to email me privately if you would like to talk more. It helps when you know someone else has gone through it too. Btw, my second son is now 8 months old.

Best wishes,

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RE: Domming while pregnant? - 8/22/2005 11:42:55 AM

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I am 12 weeks pregnant now, second child (my girl is now 7) and I must admit, my dominant feelings have gone away mostly-- I'm just not interested right now- and it's not that I feel bad, because I don't get morning sickness with my pregnancies- I'm just worried about getting baby stuff, looking up names, thinking about decorating the room, etc-

by the way- I can't wait to know what I'm having to start shopping!!!!!!!!!!

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RE: Domming while pregnant? - 8/23/2005 4:52:22 PM

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My friend Domme'd while She was pregnant.. heck if you can have sex.. you should be able to be a Domme! :)

Are you playing with other people.. or your husband... or both?

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RE: Domming while pregnant? - 8/23/2005 6:29:26 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressGrace07

My friend Domme'd while She was pregnant.. heck if you can have sex.. you should be able to be a Domme! :)

Are you playing with other people.. or your husband... or both?

Well my husband only Doms, since I'm not subbing while pregnant, we're strictly vanilla, however I do Domme others at parties we attend.

BTW, thanks to everyone who's responded. :D

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RE: Domming while pregnant? - 8/24/2005 8:02:44 PM

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I found this article on general BDSM and pregnancy

http://www.leathernroses.com/generalbdsm/powereroticspregnancy.htm

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