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RE: an attempt at honsety - 8/20/2005 1:40:27 PM

lonewolf05

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normally i am supposed-to,..now,..ask Mistress before i post but i see this one as an exception.

chaining myself to the wall,........

i believe, IF indeed, you have difficulty with an honest self vs one not so nice,..

1st;
choose, by standing in front of a mirror and face yourself.
2nd'
if you made a decision,...then you are partially there.
3rd
is this person the honest one? wonderful. i am happy for you. now all you have-to-do is decide daily how much "truth" is necessary in each part of your day. i myself am too open AND too honest and i am too brash and abrasive to most people. i myself need to work on hiding some things,...like my brashness, and how much to say since i give too much info...commonly called now as TMI.

4th;
is this the real you instead and not so nice? this is okay also. just start working on how much honesty is worthwhile and ask the mrs to help..

5th

either way you are STILL a human being and if you need to talk.....i am here.

take care.

wolfie

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< Message edited by lonewolf05 -- 8/20/2005 1:42:11 PM >

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Honesty and Facades - 8/20/2005 5:01:36 PM

CalliopePurple

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Caution: Rambling, slightly off topic, post ahead.

Being honest with yourself is the best, and yet the most frightening, thing in your life. It's sometimes hard to look behind the facade you put up and discover what's on the inside because what's there may not be what you expect to find.

It's scary and relieving to admit to yourself after trying to deny it for however long that yes, you are bisexual, yes, you are kinky, yes, you are polyamorous, or even yes, that you find teenage girls extremely attractive. Knowing it does not compel you to act on it, however. Knowing your true nature - whatever that may be - only gives you more insight into why you do certain things or act a certain way.

Everyone has that facade, that front that they put up to shield other people from the innermost truths of their nature. Even if you wear your heart on your sleeve, there are just some things that will not be admitted to just anyone. I don't consider having a facade to be dishonest, it's merely a coping mechanism to get along in society.

And the people that don't appear to have anything to hide are viewed as eccentric or odd purely for the confidence it must take to be their true self at all times. If the confidence is fake, then that's the facade - seeming comfort where none to little is really there.

I lie to myself. Despite how much I know I should be honest when having internal debates, I can't always face the truth. It's frightening to know that the voice in the back of my head is right and that I'm just ignoring it to make life easier because one of these days, something is going to happen to let damn near everyone know what's I've been hiding.

My facade is optimism and innocence, when in truth there is eternal doubt, fear of the unknown, and a cruel streak most would consider me incapable of.

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RE: an attempt at honsety - 8/20/2005 6:00:21 PM

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In regards to the OP:

I spent years wandering in the wilderness, always slightly dissatisfied with life, with myself, with those around me. My life seemed to spin wildly out of control because I had no center upin which to build. Eventually I bottomed out, crashed and burned. It was a pivotal moment in my life.
In an epiphanous moment, I came to understand that if i were going to rebuild my life I must first establish who and what I wanted to be as a man. I am far from being a paragon of virtue or a sage but I am much happier with my life and myself. I am becoming the man I desire to be and that journey is intensely satisfying.
While each individual is unique, there are some commonalities. One common thought to many divergent philosophies is the idea that fulfillment requires self-knowledge. If change is what you find is appropriate for you, it is more easily accomplished if you know who you are, as well as how and why you came to be that person.
Once you understand why you are the person you are, it then becomes possible to identify those behavior patterns that are counter-productive to reaching a state of fufillment. It's a truth of the human condition that we tend to sabotage ourselves in myriad ways. If those self-imposed obstacles are removed, the way is clear for building the life you want.
As always, my standard disclaimer applies.
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