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Brisub -> 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 2:52:55 AM)

Hi I was just wondering about 24/7 seven total power exchange, i am interested in the dynamics of this.  Does the sub totally give up his own life (job??) and become totally dependant on the dom.



CuriousLord -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 3:43:42 AM)

24/7 TPE M/s.. the slave does whatever the Master says.  Whenever.  However.

This doesn't necessarily mean giving up a "life" (such as a job, social aspects, or otherwise).  A Master may have his slave continue with a job, social arrangements, or anything else.  It's whatever he wants.

Slaves are typically advised to look for a Master who intends to have them live as they believe they would be pleased.  (One may consider this as checking for compatiability.)  Some slaves find such facts as arbitrary, concerned far more so with serving than anything else, so such a factor isn't a big deal for such an individual.



SirMichealspeach -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 3:50:49 AM)

What you "give up" totally depends on the dynamic you have and what you have agreed upon before hand.



AEslaveM -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 4:11:24 AM)

When I look at what "I've given up" versus what I have gained, it's all good!  :)



wisteriaV -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 4:21:59 AM)

Master and I live as M/s in a 24/7 relationship. We both work different jobs from home and have home offices at opposite ends of the house. I have not given up anything and I am not totally dependant on him. I make a decent living from my work as well as Master..there is no sense in sacrificing a job if it means we live better.  What 24/7 means for us is that Masters needs wants desires ect come first and foremost in my life. If Master is content and happy then I know I am doing my best to please him in what he desires of me.  Secondly we do have our private space each day. This is time for us to let loose, relax and do something separate from each other for a while..it gives us a chance to regroup and re-energize. Being 24/7 for us means interdependancy not total dependancy as the OP first asked.



Level -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 4:35:55 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Brisub

Hi I was just wondering about 24/7 seven total power exchange, i am interested in the dynamics of this.  Does the sub totally give up his own life (job??) and become totally dependant on the dom.



You'll find it depends on how everyone defines "24/7"; you'd think such terms would be inflexible as far as what they could mean, but naw........



NakedGirlScout -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 4:51:18 AM)

24/7 just means that you're together full time. It doesn't imply who works or doesn't work.

My master had to give up his job to move in with me, due to immigration, he isn't able to get back to work until the paperwork goes through. That means the Dom gave everything up to be with his 24/7 slave and is completely dependent on her. Sometimes the sub gives up working. Sometimes both don't work, or both work. It's all up to how the couple decides to live, given their specific circumstances.



hisannabelle -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 6:16:32 AM)

greetings brisub,

depends on the relationship. in our relationship it's about the mindset. we do not live together (his choice for now) but we do see each other often and for now he chooses that i continue with school, work, etc. he has the final say on everything, however, and i am always submissive to him (not just when we are together or when we are in the bedroom). to me, 24/7 doesn't mean we're together and i'm chained up all the time...it just means i'm his slave all the time. not just when it's convenient or when it makes me horny (although that's fun, too!).

respectfully,
annabelle.



MsBearlee -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 6:46:21 AM)

 
Personally, I enjoyed this thread on the topic:  http://www.collarchat.com/m_1251226/mpage_1/key_/tm.htm#1259856
 
There are many, many more here... use the 'Search' function (found in the upper right corner of each chat page); it'll give up lots of information!
 
Beverly



Faramir -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 7:01:37 AM)

How does it work?  Pretty fucking well.  I get blowjobs/massages whenever I want, if I am feeling violent I beat/rape her, so ya.  It's pretty fucking good.

Oh, and mechanically, it means she turned her life over to me.  I have her credit card, made her close her bank accounts, I supervise her schoolwork, I make her get up in the morning and get her ass in gear each day, I got rid of most of her old clothes and bought her a new wardrobe that suits me, determine when she can go to the bathroom and what she can eat or drink, and I take care of her, day to day, as my little girl and slave. 

So, give up "everything?"  I dunno.  She gave up autonomy.



TMaster2 -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 7:12:00 AM)

as hisannabelle said:
quote:

24/7 doesn't mean we're together and i'm chained up all the time...it just means i'm his slave all the time.


I see quite a few slaves and subs on CM looking for 24/7 as "domestics" and tend to think they are looking for a free ride or something.  While they may find that, at least in the short term, a sub/slave who actually "has a life" and is productive in work and life (has a job, adds to the support of the relationship) is what I see as the more successful type.  I want 24/7, but it is the mindset, not the sleeping at my feet all the time I want. 



sambamanslilgirl -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 7:24:23 AM)

i'm 24/7 to 2 dominants and neither have asked me to give up my life for them ...though it would be very difficult to do since i have UMs to care for as well as a fun career that i love to death.  i cannot see myself being totally dependent on them ...they wouldn't want me that way.  they're pleased i'm independent with certain parts of my life and completely submissive with the rest.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 7:31:58 AM)

It is different for everyone. Reality is that a slave isn't chained to their Master 24/7. People have kids, jobs and things of that nature to take care of. We don't separate BDSM from vanilla. The two are mixed and  there is no separation of the two that is what works for us. Everyone's dynamic is different. Reality is alot different than the fantasy of it that some have.

People forget anything you do can be in service. Going to the store, bank etc. It just isn't sexual or lifestyle related things.



thetammyjo -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 7:34:37 AM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: Brisub

Hi I was just wondering about 24/7 seven total power exchange, i am interested in the dynamics of this. Does the sub totally give up his own life (job??) and become totally dependant on the dom.



I, personally, do not believe that TPE exists. I do not think anyone can give away all of their power. I'm not even sure we lose our power when we die, I think we just transition to another state of existence where we again have power. Power is, after all, the ability to do something, and the last time I checked even the most submissive slave was doing things even if they aren't fully conscious of it or even if their owner is not conscious of it.

However I do live in a 24/7 owner-slave dynamic and frankly Fox and I look pretty mundane. Most people I've known who are in owner-slave dynamics do in fact seem very mundane once you get to know them.

Life isn't porn or erotica.

It's far more intense than that and at the same time far more relaxing and fulfilling in my strong opinion.



eyesopened -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 7:44:57 AM)

As others have said, it depends on the individual relationship.  i am InkedMaster's slave when i am with Him and when i am not.  i am His slave when i am cooking or cleaning or watching TV.  i serve in the kitchen the bathroom the livingroom the bedroom the workplace the grocery store or just being a comfy backrest on the Harley.  He makes the decisions, His comfort and happiness is my primary concern.  i feel like i have given up nothing and have gained everything.



salilus -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 7:47:46 AM)

I am my owner's possession and little girl all of the time, regardless of where I am or who I am around. I have only the liberties he allows and very few freedoms. I have only one close friend who 'gets it.' Everyone else we've talked about our relationship with in our local bdsm community is either shocked, appalled or intrigued by how deeply his control over me runs. I've not physically met anyone who lives quite like this, though I am lucky to know a few around the country that I've met online.

But, yes... it can work.
And our life is not 24/7 porn. It is 24/7 of him in control and me under him.



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 8:36:14 AM)

24/7 generally means that the dynamic is always "on" that there is no stop and start that no matter where they are or what they are doing- someone has authority and someone does not.

HOW you go about doing that is completely up to you.  Most Ms couples look like vanilla couples 90% of the time.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_193149/mpage_1/key_day/tm.htm#193229
a typical day for a slave

http://www.collarchat.com/m_785356/mpage_1/key_day%252Clife/tm.htm#785451
If you are 24/7 what dos a typical day in your life look like?




Mercnbeth -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 8:48:12 AM)

sometimes, it is like that little piece of real estate a few states over that grandpop left you in the will---you don't live with it, make your living off of it, physically see or touch it, provide for it, there are limits to what you can do with it, etc...but by the societal construct of property ownership, you get to say you own it, 24/7.
 
other times, ALL that was previously controlled by the submissive/slave---from if and where and when they will work to when to use the bathroom, speak or orgasm, is surrendered to the Dom/me/Master/Owner.
 
and then there's a whole lot of in between, depending on the individual relationship.



ownedgirlie -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 8:51:50 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Brisub

Hi I was just wondering about 24/7 seven total power exchange, i am interested in the dynamics of this.  Does the sub totally give up his own life (job??) and become totally dependant on the dom.



It means, in my case, he owns me and has 24/7 complete authority over me.  It means I am his slave first and everything else I do and am is part of that slavery.  He owns my body, to do with what he chooses.  He owns my mind, to do with what he chooses.  He owns my emotions, to manipulate as he chooses.

What did I give up?  Unfulfillment and lack of direction.  In exchange for giving him power over me, I have gained personal insight, self knowledge, self respect, self confidence, wisdom, happiness, and the fulfillment of living true to myself.

He does not support me.  I am expected to make a good living, go to school, and make the most of myself, while constantly working to please him and bring him contentment.  This makes my schedule quite full as I have often had assignments to complete for him in addition to work and school.  But as he says, "I am not a fan of underachievement" so I am constantly challenged to meet his requirements.  I function best like this and he is best pleased by this.

You will see that each dynamic is unique to those who are in it, however.  I thrive in this particular dynamic.  Others would not find it fulfilling at all.



Padriag -> RE: 24/7 how does it work? (12/23/2007 9:08:10 AM)

Well, I'd answer but LA and Mercnbeth pretty much already said everything I was going to.  So instead I'll just say,"What they said."



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