thetammyjo
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I don't know whether or not the femdom scene exists in Egypt. It seems to go very hard against the things we hear about gender dynamics in Egypt or other predominantly Muslim countries over here in the USA. If half of what we hear is true, I can imagine it must be exceedingly difficult for a woman to even think about being dominant let alone try it in any way that might be BDSM.
I think there are strong, naturally dominant women all over the world throughout time but most of human history has required them to use subtle manipulations or specific social outlets to exercise any power over or from another person. Often women simply go along with what society expects because the alternative is too dangerous. Same for men though in the opposite way and a man who wanted to be submissive could always submit to god, king, or local rulers though with less effect than they might get from a het relationship that was sexual in nature.
So if you have trouble finding women in your country who know about BDSM or feel comfortable pursuing the top role I'd suggest two things other than leaving your country.
The first is immediate. Once you are in a relationship, slowly start handing over authority to your wife/girlfriend, whatever role your social and religion code says is right for you. I'd keep my expectations low because you could scare her and if you are going against strong social conventions you will need to be discrete about it.
Be honest with yourself. What you may see in Western pornography is very unlikely to happen for you unless you leave or are willing to pay a lot of money. Western porn is created in a very different society so keep that in mind. Same goes for Western erotica. Or Eastern too, such as materials from Japan or other places. You can enjoy materials and ideas from other cultures and times but at the end we can either adjust our expectations to fit what is plausible in our world or you can move on to my second suggestion below.
The second thing you can do is long term and may never have direct benefits for you but could help future generations of people with similar desires. Work for more socially acceptable role models for men and women both. More choices may result in more people feeling comfortable expressing similar desires. This may be a dangerous thing to do but as a historian I have to say that none of us develop in a vacuum, we are all products of our environment, and attitudes about sex and sexual practices change when other attitudes start to change.
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Need an answer, cos i am so tired - 
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. It's not as though any country in the world is fully accepting of BDSM or has no prejudices against women. I am sure the details of making this happen totally suck, but so does being "so tired." Achieving any major goal requires paying high prices. 
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