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So many emails!! - 12/23/2007 7:02:43 PM

Lovespets

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Hi, Lovespets here. I have so many emails I am not sure what to do. It seems like there are some nice online people out there. I am new to the site, not new to kink. But have never joined in any kind of group. Well, once back in Cambridge ,Mass, but just checked it out, didn't participate. I think my problem is just not being sure how involved I want to get. This 24/7 sounds like alot of work. I want to relax. I guess I could just talk with someone I like with the understanding that this will take time, then meet up with them someplace. It seems like people want things yesterday. I go slow, any good suggestions? I have always just met people who matched up with me accidently, I have never tried online. I used to love going to the village and socializing in Manhattan. But now I live in a rural bible belt area. God knows why I moved here. It is almost a cultural wasteland, but it is beautiful and I love nature. It was easy to meet people in the city, we were just drawn together, and got kinky.
My neighbor watches my house with an eagle eye and can tell me where I have had the lights on, in which room for months. Don't yuh just love small towns, lol. I like my space and living alone so perhaps this 24/7 wouldn't be good for me. I want to be adored just part- time, I think. I am a caring, stable, affectionate but demanding person, and I do have a darker side, don't we all. But don't think I want demands on me. Hmmmm, I guess I just need to think more about this.

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/23/2007 7:13:08 PM

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Hi Lovespets: just wanted to drop you a note to let you know you are not alone in being in an area where the nieghbours know what time you go to bed! This is a nice site and there are many quality people on here. On occassion you will find some wack jobs but that happens at the local grocery store! Good luck in your search!
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RE: So many emails!! - 12/23/2007 7:50:42 PM

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ORIGINAL: Lovespets

Hmmmm, I guess I just need to think more about this.

Ummm... yep, sounds like it.

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/23/2007 8:23:55 PM

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Thanks for the replies, sometimes just putting something down helps make it clearer. Loves

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/23/2007 8:39:11 PM

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I don't answer emails that have nothing specific to me. What I mean is, if it just says, "loved your profile, we have many of the same interests, please drop me a line, I'd love to talk to you", then I'm not answering. There is nothing that indicates they did not copy and paste this to every new person that popped up on the "who's new" list. Actually, that sentence is longer than many I got when I first joined. I got a two paragraph email today, and halfway thru I realized that it sounded like cut and paste, there was nothing you could pinpoint to me, and I thought, "wow, the spammers are getting better."

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/23/2007 8:50:54 PM

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Hi!

.....Welcome to the forums...Take your time,know what you want, and then put it out there..As far as being inundated with e-mail..that is to be expected for a few reasons..first, you are new..so hence, the sharks they be a circling..second, you are female, third, you are Dominant...so many male submissives, so few female Dominants to go around..you will have your pick!!..choose wisely..

..Many wonderful female Dominants here to read and grow from....enjoy!/Tempting

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/24/2007 2:56:15 AM

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You could have a nosy neighbor if you lived in the city too - they are everywhere! Don't worry about it, just live your life.

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/24/2007 3:47:07 AM

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There are some small advantages to living in a small town where everyone knows your business. After living in a very small town for about 7 years, i got this phone call at work: "Miss Christine? This is Sally down at the water department? Earl is fixin' to shut off your water due to non-payment but I know you always pay your bill right on time or early so I think your check got lost. If you tell me you'll come by tonight and put a new check in the drop box I can tell Earl not to go to your place. I know you don't get off work until after we're closed but I know you'll bring the payment after work so it will be okay." Mind you, i had never met "Sally" in my life.

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/24/2007 4:28:41 AM

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quote:

I like my space and living alone so perhaps this 24/7 wouldn't be good for me.

I understand that completely. But it is possible to engage in a transfer of power that does not include living together, yet offers the sort of dynamic you may be looking for. Control can be exerted in many ways, as can displays of submission. Just something to consider while you try to sort it out.

< Message edited by KatyLied -- 12/24/2007 4:29:08 AM >

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/24/2007 4:57:41 AM

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If you don't want 24/7 then look for dominants who don't want that either. And who cares if your neighbor snoops, that's what thick curtains are for.

If you need to start slowly, talking and dating, then just state that. And search yourself for people you find compatible. Nowhere does it say you have to sit on your tuffet waiting.

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/24/2007 5:16:09 AM

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As for emails, at the top right hand corner of your inbox there is a button "mail controls" it can be useful for reducing the amount by filtering according to your search interests.

As for the 24/7, after many years of being on my own , I started off feeling the same way you do, over the last 7 months I have change my opinions.

As for the neighbors, I have the same issues, I learned the easiest way around if they said anything to simply say I've started dating if they try to continue with the discussion I simply tell them that I am not looking for serious involvement at this time. lol it seems to stop further questions about the man they see you with and they deduce what ever conclusions they want from that though they would probaby do so even if I did not state

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RE: So many emails!! - 12/24/2007 5:54:27 AM

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As for the 24/7, after many years of being on my own , I started off feeling the same way you do, over the last 7 months I have change my opinions.

Yeah, I try to never say never about stuff. But I've been on my own for 10 years, that's a lot of freedom to overcome when considering the situation of being "on call" in a living together situation. Of course I wouldn't rule it out for someone extraordinary.

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