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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/26/2007 4:13:57 PM

sexyred1

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I love the term bi-sensual. It does not pigeon hole you and it is more mysterious; which I like.

I always used to say situationally-bi, since things often happen in a particular situation. I often view bisexuality as being somewhat narcissistic; I think we all have attraction to members of our own sex, but it is a matter of degree and once again, if you act upon it.

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/26/2007 4:26:35 PM

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

i guess i would wonder why anyone would worry about it and just let it happen if it's gonna happen. It's a guy's fantasy of course but i pity the poor woman who has sex with me. Can you imagine what it would feel like to have sex with someone who is disgusted with the whole thing and can barely wait for it to be over...that you are being used strictly as a "fluffer" for my Master? my first "bi" experience was exactly that... i was there as a "second" and the slave was so obvious about how disgusted she was with me, the act, and that she was somehow being punished by her Master. i never ever ever want to experience that again ever!

Just be careful that everyone is on the same page, everyone is going to have enjoyment. People have feelings.

On the other hand, the woman might get off on the fact that you are miserable. Sadism has many levels and she might enjoy taunting you. I definately agree with you that everyone should be on the same page though. I would hate finding out a partner was disgusted after the fact if I was told that the other woman was looking forward to the experience.

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/26/2007 4:28:28 PM

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ORIGINAL: littlebitxxx

I don't necessarily go looking for a woman but wouldn't turn one away for eating crackers in bed. Pussy is nice for a change but I still prefer cock.

There ya go. Now why doesn't the other side have any of these nice labels that describe the way some of us REALLY feel??

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/26/2007 5:13:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Thats describes me too. I love to play with a woman in the context of a 3some. But I am not interested in a relationship other than friendship with women. i love and adore men. Women...fun playthings for extra fun, If given the choice, manly, Manly men. YUM

I'm with you luscious! I loveeeeee men! I've had three experiences with women. The first I was the submissive and received countless nights of oral fun... the second was a mutual kinda thing... the third (just this past august) I was the giver (if you will) for the first time. My Sir wasn't there (wish He would have been), but it was fun. It was something I had always wanted to do. I look forward to sharing a submissive with my Sir someday.... oh and if we're talking about a wish list

hee hee a strap-on! I'd like to use one on a woman but I would reallllllllllly love to have one used on me! Dayum!

girly

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/26/2007 5:15:25 PM

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ORIGINAL: SilentButSexy

So I have wondered about this. I have never actually been with a female. I have thought about it, but I have never really acted on it. The closest experience I had was when two of my bi friends tied me to my bed and used one of my toys on me (It was a birthday present) However there was not really anything sexual that happened between me and my girls. So now im not real sure where I stand with the whole "Bi" thing. What is a girl to do. I think I should know what my status is if im choosing to be submissive to a male, or even a female.

Hello Silent~
Being tied to the bed and having your bi friends use it on you sounds Fing HOT!

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/26/2007 5:57:26 PM

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I am bi. I often say "very" bi. What that means to me is this: I am not a lesbian. I dig men too much. However, I love women. When I am out in a crowd, a man really has to be (my definition of) gorgeous for me to give a second look. With women, I see hot ones everywhere. I find myself noticing them and "appreciating" them all day everyday. I have had several sexual experiences with women, mostly with other men involved but not always. I love performing oral sex on both men and women but there is something extra wonderful and enjoyable for me about going down on a hot chick that is really into it.

I would love to have a poly family with another female that I could love and enjoy and who would love and serve Master as well. If, God forbid, something should happen to Master before it does me, I imagine I would seek a female friend/love with whom to live out the rest of my days. Not a dominant female, but an "equal." Basically, I enjoy being with women very much and would do it whether Master requested it or not (only with His permission of course). Some of my most thrilling memories involve wild and willin' women

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/26/2007 6:44:50 PM

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I don't think you need to know what your orientation is before you submit to someone, though it can be helpful. As long as everyone knows going into it what sorts of things you are open to or not, what curiousities you do have, then it can be fine.

Despite the rumor, bisexuals do not always need to have sexual partners of both sexes at the same time.

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/26/2007 8:03:51 PM

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i dont think i am bi-curious, i know i am not bi-sexual, maybe i would have to take that term bi-sensual. i do want to experience another girl. so maybe i am bi-curious, hell i dont know.
but i dont think i would go beyond sexual experiences, not in the long term realationship type of thing.

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 7:09:16 AM

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Here is another way to look at it:

http://www.bisexual.org/kleingrid.html

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 7:28:55 AM

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i love the term bi-sensual. That is a far better term than bi-sexual.

Every person's sexuality is as individual as their eye colour. We all fall into basic groups (like green eyes) but there are so many variants in reality.

I have always described myself as sexual. Just sexual. For me men are for relationships, women are for playing.

Go with your instincts, do what is right for you.

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 10:25:54 AM

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And then theres the likes of me. Not bi curious not bisexual or bi sensual but bi to order.

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 11:01:02 AM

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i have had a couple friends over with my Dom and myself, for them to watch me and for both of us to be spanked. Though i do not consider myself bi curious in anyway, i enjoy more of the one on one with my Dom. Both my Dom and i found out since i tend to get jealous when he is playing with another female and i'm left to my own devices. You could be curious try some things out with your friends and see what comes about it.

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 11:54:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: girlygurl

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Thats describes me too. I love to play with a woman in the context of a 3some. But I am not interested in a relationship other than friendship with women. i love and adore men. Women...fun playthings for extra fun, If given the choice, manly, Manly men. YUM

I'm with you luscious! I loveeeeee men! I've had three experiences with women. The first I was the submissive and received countless nights of oral fun... the second was a mutual kinda thing... the third (just this past august) I was the giver (if you will) for the first time. My Sir wasn't there (wish He would have been), but it was fun. It was something I had always wanted to do. I look forward to sharing a submissive with my Sir someday.... oh and if we're talking about a wish list hee hee a strap-on! I'd like to use one on a woman but I would reallllllllllly love to have one used on me! Dayum!

girly

I had 3some with 2 couples, 3 times. Bing both giver and reciever. It was loads of fun. But it wasn't in a D's situation although With the first couple there was mild D's with some ordering around and spanks. I like power exchange to be one on one. In that context I was more alpha sub.

You the giver for the first time? I bet you were a natural as was I!!! I just knew what buttons to push and beep beep!!

< Message edited by lusciouslips19 -- 12/27/2007 11:55:42 AM >

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 12:09:25 PM

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I forgot to mention that adding D/s to the mix makes things ever so much more intriguing....

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 12:19:37 PM

BBWnNC72

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i really want to suprise my trainer with a girl on girl experience. He told me once that it is nice to sit and relax while two girls are playing and enjoying themselves on the floor in front of Him.
Just not sure how to go about getting that for Him. i am more then willing to try.

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i am who i am, i am not ashamed. spank me, beat me, bite me, pull my hair, dominate me, control me, but always respect me for who i am.

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 12:48:23 PM

willowspirit

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I look at this a bit differently. People's bodies respond to stimuli regardless of the gender of the do-er. I feel that in one way W/we are ALL bi-SEXUAL. However, O/our affectionate, or emotional, or social orientations, etc. may vary within the same individual. Greeks had like FIVE (maybe more) different words for "Love" depending on the context. Philos, pathos, eros, agape, whatever... Love of humankind, empathy/sympathy, sexual love, Romantic love, family-members love...
Personally, I am sooooo straight -- to Males romantically, and socially in vanilla situations, and even within my closest personal friendships!
[Recent discovery ] --- but when I'm with lifestyle people I've noticed how I now feel I can trust other female submissives (not so much those females who only bottom, but aren't into the D/s out-of-scene part of it). AND I've never trusted vanilla females. I didn't "get" their games.
As for sexual play, in my past experience, my Dominant has tried to excite me by suggesting I take an active role in playing sexually with another female. There's just nothing there...Sorry. I can't get into it. Totally empty.
HOWEVER
When it was suggested that UNDER His CONTROL and His watch a female might play with me, and I am only on the receiving side WHAM! That did it for me. His controlling it all was the key for me, I guess. That and the idea of hearing them talk about me, not to me, is one heck of a turn on.
Bi-sexual? Bi-sensual? (great word, b.t.w.), Bi-affectionate?
Bi-curious?
Bi-social? Bi-emotional? Bi-romantic?
I don't know.

As for "alpha submissive" ? I'm an alpha-type by way of serving in a heirarchial structure in a household, but totally Not an alpha submissive during "play".
Does "alpha" really mean one has to enjoy, like, for instance, going down on another woman???

still trying to figure some things out....
-- willowspirit

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 12:51:57 PM

girlygurl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

quote:

ORIGINAL: girlygurl

quote:

ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19

Thats describes me too. I love to play with a woman in the context of a 3some. But I am not interested in a relationship other than friendship with women. i love and adore men. Women...fun playthings for extra fun, If given the choice, manly, Manly men. YUM

I'm with you luscious! I loveeeeee men! I've had three experiences with women. The first I was the submissive and received countless nights of oral fun... the second was a mutual kinda thing... the third (just this past august) I was the giver (if you will) for the first time. My Sir wasn't there (wish He would have been), but it was fun. It was something I had always wanted to do. I look forward to sharing a submissive with my Sir someday.... oh and if we're talking about a wish list hee hee a strap-on! I'd like to use one on a woman but I would reallllllllllly love to have one used on me! Dayum!

girly

I had 3some with 2 couples, 3 times. Bing both giver and reciever. It was loads of fun. But it wasn't in a D's situation although With the first couple there was mild D's with some ordering around and spanks. I like power exchange to be one on one. In that context I was more alpha sub.

You the giver for the first time? I bet you were a natural as was I!!! I just knew what buttons to push and beep beep!!

LOL luscious.... an old nilla boyfriend use to kid me about my tongue... He said I should have been a lesbain becasue my tongue was so long

Ha! That was back in the day before I had discovered I could use this tongue of mine in many many ways *grinz* I had a great time as the giver.. and she had even a better time!

I don't know why I thought of this...but has anyone ever seen an old porn movie where someone (male or femmale) was wearing a mask with an longggggggg nose! get it, get it hee hee! dang that was hot... and I saw this like 20 years ago, so obviously it's stuck with me. mmmmmmm I was thinking of making one myself with paper mache' but that sucker would turn to mush! HA!

girly

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 12:56:19 PM

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ORIGINAL: BBWnNC72

i really want to suprise my trainer with a girl on girl experience. He told me once that it is nice to sit and relax while two girls are playing and enjoying themselves on the floor in front of Him.
Just not sure how to go about getting that for Him. i am more then willing to try.

I'm with you! I'd love to share another sub with my Sir and perform as He sat back and watched, and of coures directed us what to do for Him mmmmmmm. It's not as easy as I thought it would be... finding another woman I mean. Oh sure...they're out there, but most live far away or we all have different schedules.... Anyone gonna be in the Salem Oregon area any time soon?????

girly

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 1:46:38 PM

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LOL luscious.... an old nilla boyfriend use to kid me about my tongue... He said I should have been a lesbain becasue my tongue was so long Ha! That was back in the day before I had discovered I could use this tongue of mine in many many ways *grinz* I had a great time as the giver.. and she had even a better time!

I don't know why I thought of this...but has anyone ever seen an old porn movie where someone (male or femmale) was wearing a mask with an longggggggg nose! get it, get it hee hee! dang that was hot... and I saw this like 20 years ago, so obviously it's stuck with me. mmmmmmm I was thinking of making one myself with paper mache' but that sucker would turn to mush! HA!

girly

Thank you Thank you! For making me really glad to have this large ethnic jewish nose! All the things I think I could do in the future. Many many a pretty girl may look upon it and blush now that you mention what can be done with it!

< Message edited by lusciouslips19 -- 12/27/2007 1:47:21 PM >

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RE: Bi or just curious - 12/27/2007 4:30:10 PM

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ORIGINAL: girlygurl

quote:

ORIGINAL: BBWnNC72

i really want to suprise my trainer with a girl on girl experience. He told me once that it is nice to sit and relax while two girls are playing and enjoying themselves on the floor in front of Him.
Just not sure how to go about getting that for Him. i am more then willing to try.

I'm with you! I'd love to share another sub with my Sir and perform as He sat back and watched, and of coures directed us what to do for Him mmmmmmm. It's not as easy as I thought it would be... finding another woman I mean. Oh sure...they're out there, but most live far away or we all have different schedules.... Anyone gonna be in the Salem Oregon area any time soon?????

girly

It has been difficult to find a girl. Since i updated my profile with what i am seeking at this time, more Doms are viewing me now!! LOL
But i wont stop, i really want to suprise Him with this or even better, some one He can do His Shibari with suspension on (non sexual of course), He loves doing that, but sadly i am too large and well, you know, gravity would not be kind to me.

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i am who i am, i am not ashamed. spank me, beat me, bite me, pull my hair, dominate me, control me, but always respect me for who i am.

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