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Toping from the bottom - 8/20/2005 8:58:50 PM

batty24546

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So I am slightly more experienced and full of so many more ideas then my mistress is. She spends a great time learning from what i do with my play toy. (I don't consider my self to be a switch, but i enjoy playing that end once in a while. I just don't have the interested in anything more. I'm submissive by nature.) She also learns alot from things we talk about, and little rutines and rituals i've picked up and do on my own. Things i know that she likes, but am seldom ask to do.

My question is,

what are some ways a sub can go about giving a mistress new ideas on sences, methods, and such. We do comunicate well, and she bought me a book to write little notes and such in. But I mean during a sence, Because just flat out saying what i would have done, takes away from my submission, and I don't want to do that either.

Any ideas?

Batty

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RE: Toping from the bottom - 8/20/2005 10:23:34 PM

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what are some ways a sub can go about giving a mistress new ideas on sences, methods, and such. We do comunicate well, and she bought me a book to write little notes and such in. But I mean during a sence, Because just flat out saying what i would have done, takes away from my submission, and I don't want to do that either.

Any ideas?

Batty

I'd say you do your brainstorming before and after a scene, not during. In a scene simply learn to work together. If you're topping in a scene with her, then you can work as a team. If she's topping you, then you should work on mentally focusing on that, rather than letting your mind wander.

ATER the scene, as you decompress, you can certainly go over ideas you had...but let her own imagination and style flower during the scenes.

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RE: Toping from the bottom - 8/20/2005 10:39:10 PM

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Betty, I would say...Let it go. She is your Mistress and no matter what you say, she will not ony have the upper hand, but she will beat your ass as well. So, put your tail between your legs and take it like a sub!

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RE: Toping from the bottom - 8/20/2005 11:17:54 PM

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fastlane

I would love for her to beat my ass. The reason for this is that she has asked for my ideas and advice. Normally i would shut my mouth and let her lead things, the way she want. But in this case this is what she wants. I don't really want to be toping from the bottom but for now it works for us, and she dosen't seem to mind, at least untill she finds her own methods.

Hehe..." I want to just put my tail between my legs and take it like a sub", but i have no tail...

EmeraldSlave2 You are right, there is a time and place for everything. Sometimes i think i'm spending to much time and energy helping her with this i know she can figure out on her, and less time on what i need, and my desires to serve her. I guess being in love with her first has left me with that " i have to help my girl friend all the time" idea stuck in my head.

Thanks for the good advice, both of you.
Batty

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RE: Toping from the bottom - 8/21/2005 6:42:36 AM

kry

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You may want to try to write down or discuss some of what you fantasize about. Take it from a "You know this idea really gets me off." instead of "You should try this" basis. If you let her in on those thoughts and allow her to choose what she wishes to utilize in topping you, its not really topping from the bottom, its letting her know what tools would be most effective.

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