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ORIGINAL: theroebabe

Here's a follow up question for submissives in regard to the above...how many feel their need to express their submissive nature can best be achieved through feeling love for their Domme/Owner? In other words, do you feel that love drives your expression of submission or is it something else?

Well in my case, I need to have a connection with the person involved. I cannot just play with people I dont know. the one exception was my former dom where we played after just knowing each other a week. We spoke during the week and i did have a safe call for the night we played.

I think that the need to please for me is deeper when i care for the person and want to do my best, if it is someone that i do not have feelings for then i have a more casual attitude about submission. As in, he is not my dom i dont have to do what he says outside the scene. When i first got into the lifestyle, i would never have thought of saying no. Thankfully i have learned in some cases it is best to say no. So it is important for me to have a connection with my dom on an emotional level. It might not be love but it certainly must be respect.