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barefootgal -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 12:36:36 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty I am not sure I would even know what to do with a virgin...can I have an extra slut? Or maybe a pregnant one. wink And fries with that, too?

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 12:38:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: barefootgal And fries with that, too? Oh yes, please! And some apple pie!

barefootgal -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 1:02:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty Oh yes, please! And some apple pie! Fries, pies, sluts and cookies... not where I thought this post would lead, but actually way yummier...

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 1:06:54 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: barefootgal Fries, pies, sluts and cookies... Sounds like a typical Saturday night at my place!

barefootgal -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 1:15:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty Sounds like a typical Saturday night at my place! Everyday should be Saturday.

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 1:19:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: barefootgal Everyday should be Saturday. Ohhh no. That would mean every morning would be Sunday morning, and would come with its requisite hangover!

barefootgal -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 1:24:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty [Ohhh no. That would mean every morning would be Sunday morning, and would come with its requisite hangover! So fries, pies, sluts, cookies and adult beverages... of course... what was I thinking?

NorthernGent -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 1:27:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: barefootgal On a vanilla blog, a friend of mine recently posted something to the effect of this... at the heart of men's problems is power and at the heart of women's problems is security. Security has to be at the heart of all humans: growth, love, friendship - all underpinned by security. 'Can be a problem if you let it control you. Then again, security is bound by fear, so fear could well be the base of most problems. Power? 'Love it - not a problem, here, the more the merrier.

jakeskajira -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 1:30:41 PM)
Knowing that my husband has the power in our relationship makes me feel secure. so I do think there is some truth to that statement... but I don't know if I think it is a gender specific role.

barefootgal -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 1:57:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: jakeskajira Knowing that my husband has the power in our relationship makes me feel secure. so I do think there is some truth to that statement... but I don't know if I think it is a gender specific role. That's exactly what's at the base of it for me... his power -- and my trust in it -- provides my security.

ExSteelAgain -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 1:59:35 PM)
Ah the classic line the Dom told the submissive, "I want to make you feel warm, secure and protected."

PsyVamp -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 2:13:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty quote: ORIGINAL: PsyVamp That apostrophe thingy is the one on the key to the left of the number one on a regular keyboard (cliche`) [:D] I think she was more likely looking for an e with an accent aigu (é) as in cliché. I find cutting and pasting to be the easiest way to replicate the character, but you can also get it by holding down the Alt key and typing 130 on your keypad. Taggard I just love learning new tricks, thanks a bunch! LJ

laurell3 -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 2:23:07 PM)
I don't agree that the desire and/or need for security and/or power is in any way gender based but individual. There are a lot of powerful women in the world seeking more, there are also alot of insecure men in the world seeking security and vice versa to each.

barefootgal -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 2:40:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: laurell3 I don't agree that the desire and/or need for security and/or power is in any way gender based but individual. There are a lot of powerful women in the world seeking more, there are also alot of insecure men in the world seeking security and vice versa to each. A powerful woman could have a desire for security at the base of her drive for more power. Similarily, lack of power could make a man feel insecure, but the power would be at the root of the problem. The more I've thought about this today, the more it seems that security & power are inter-connected and not as simple or clean as my friend says they are. I also believe that there is a whole spectrum of gender-identity -- it's not a binary thing either. I suck at math, but it seems like a much more complex equation than he would have us believe.

KindLadyGrey -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 3:44:11 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty quote: ORIGINAL: barefootgal Fries, pies, sluts and cookies... Sounds like a typical Saturday night at my place! I'll so be at your place tomorrow ;)

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 6:45:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KindLadyGrey I'll so be at your place tomorrow ;) You are so more than welcome to come! A tall, switchy, libertarian leaning, pregnant, kinky girl sounds perfectly yummy to me. And don't forget to wear a thong and bring your hairbrush! wink Taggard

Leatherist -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 6:48:08 PM)
Provide your own security like an adult, and you won't have to worry about getting it from another. Expect it from others like a small child-and you will always be dissapointed. The only power we have in life is that we get from serving others-and how well they react to it. Not everyone is deserving of it.

taintedgypsy -> RE: Power and Security (12/28/2007 7:33:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty quote: ORIGINAL: barefootgal at the heart of men's problems is power and at the heart of women's problems is security. I think that is half right. The heart of women's problems is security, but the heart of men's problems is women. Taggard Ok I started laughing here .... quote: I am not sure I would even know what to do with a virgin...can I have an extra slut? Or maybe a pregnant one. wink but by here I had tears rolling down my face crumpled in laughter .... need caffine to regain composure lol

TheInstrument -> RE: Power and Security (12/30/2007 1:26:33 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: barefootgal On a vanilla blog, a friend of mine recently posted something to the effect of this... at the heart of men's problems is power and at the heart of women's problems is security. Broad statements like that generally make me cringe. But on a personal level -- especially in my marriage and our newly explored kinks -- it has a ring of truth. So I'm wondering what others think about it. I'm especially -- but not only -- interested in hearing from female D-types, male s-types, and anyone who identifies as gender queer (in other words, non-traditional orientations). [edited to fix a glaring typo] Pardon my game of devils advocate but can't one just as easily see the matter of security as something that simply falls under the umbrella of power? I think everyone's issue will always boil down to power, ultimately, either the loss of it, the pressure of it, the need/desire/lust for it, etc... As stated before, some clarification is in order. And for that business about comparing a man's short term risk (mountain climbing) to a woman's long term (baby-making), I say pish posh. Comparing an example of one gender's short term risk with an example of the opposites long term is like comparing apples and oranges. What was your point?

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