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What has been your best real-life "dates" inv... - 12/28/2007 11:26:21 AM

leomaster2

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What I'm hoping to start here is a thread where we share our best, actual real-life dates that had some form of BDSM involved. May be sexual. May be spiritual. May be just that instant where s/he said or did that one thing that made you feel great/powerful/submissive. I'm not looking for a how-to guide to BDSM dating. More a place to collect our wonderful experiences that may help others who come here to get a visceral idea of what this lifestyle can offer. And possibly to help stir those creative, relationship building efforts in our own lives.

I'll start this off with the one that turned my marriage from a pure vanilla one into one that is now more kink than not.

My wife and I had been married for about a year and a half when this happened one evening. We were still in that touching, kissing all the time phase of marriage, when one night I kissed her a little. She kissed back, but in an on-the-move sort of way. I wanted more, so I put my hand on her arm to slow her down. She turned, and tried to pull back. Not sure what possessed me (as to that point in our marriage, I had always been a "gentleman") but I used both hands, pulled her close and bent her back a little to kiss her firmly. She struggled, and the next thing I knew, I had her pinned against the wall and her arms firmly trapped and kissed her hard and long... and then pulled back and looked her in the eyes. Her hair was a little mussed, and she was breathing hard, still struggling, but I could see that she was aroused. A quick glance down and it was obvious that she wanted more. One thing led to another. In the end, her outfit was ruined (torn, buttons popped), but it was great! It was the first time I had actual bite marks, claw marks, and her first time to be bent over and "slammed" hard, with spanks. That was our first, accidental and unexpected introduction into domination and submission. Nearly twenty years later and our roles are very refined. She is treated like a "lady" at all times in the public eye, and I am her "gentleman", we are equal partners in finance, raising kids, etc. But in sex, in the bedroom, on "dates" or in private, we know who submits and who dominates.

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 11:32:11 AM

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I have great memories of dates and BDSM but I don't look back, I look ahead. I hope that my best real life dates involving BDSM are ahead of me.

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 12:20:12 PM

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the first overnight with (now) hubby. *smiles with that little smile* oh the memories! let's just say we've been together ever since.

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 2:12:26 PM

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Whew.. that was hot, and reminded me of how I started this many years ago. I love that hands above my head, ravishment..
Where is my shower massage..
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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 3:02:34 PM

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I called ahead to my girl's boss and arranged a vacation for her. I came to her office and as I shut her office door, I told her I was horny as hell and was going to fuck her over her desk. I gagged her with her panties so we wouldn't be heard and took her very roughly. When I was done I told her we were leaving because I couldn't properly use her without disturbing her colleagues. I told her not make a fuss or I was going to be very severe with her. I used her panties to tie her hands and draped her coat over them to conceal the bondage as we walked out. I took her to San Francisco for a weekend of lust and luxury with just enough pain to keep my inner sadist happy. I was very pleased because she obeyed me and left work without knowing how it would effect her job. Knowing at that moment that she was mine, made that one of our best dates. No matter where a relationship goes, the moment of surrender only comes once.. when the lock snaps shut.

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 4:31:22 PM

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It was while I was dating my ex, before the kids and everything. We were riding my motorcycle in Indianapolis. We had been in Broadripple for a really good meal and some great jazz. She looked good, Black silk blouse, black tight pants, and heels. She was wearing a leather jacket. We'd split a couple bottle of wine and I was feeling very frisky.
As we rode down some backstreets, she bit my neck. That was it, the barbarian took over. I took a dirt path down to the riverbank (White River), I stopped the bike behind some trees. She got off and I got off after her. I grabbed her by the back of the neck and pulled her in for a kiss. She melted. I pulled my knife out of my boot (don't ask, old habits die hard). I slit her pants (that cost me later) and reached in to feel her. Her panties were soaked. I cut off her underwear and tied her wrists. I laid her on the bike and tied her hands to the handlebar. I took her, with a few slaps to her lovely ass.It was hot, very hot. She screamed. We were there far longer than logic would dictate. But God does look out for fools and lovers (I won't claim which group I was in). The ride home, she had my jacket in her lap, covering up her ruined clothing. Its still a great memory.

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 4:37:09 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Hotch

I called ahead to my girl's boss and arranged a vacation for her. I came to her office and as I shut her office door, I told her I was horny as hell and was going to fuck her over her desk. I gagged her with her panties so we wouldn't be heard and took her very roughly. When I was done I told her we were leaving because I couldn't properly use her without disturbing her colleagues. I told her not make a fuss or I was going to be very severe with her. I used her panties to tie her hands and draped her coat over them to conceal the bondage as we walked out. I took her to San Francisco for a weekend of lust and luxury with just enough pain to keep my inner sadist happy. I was very pleased because she obeyed me and left work without knowing how it would effect her job. Knowing at that moment that she was mine, made that one of our best dates. No matter where a relationship goes, the moment of surrender only comes once.. when the lock snaps shut.

Now that was totally hot. While I have too many moments of my own to mention...it might be the first time my ex-boyfriend/Dom did something with me that made him discover his dominant self and made me submit to him. It was unforgettable to both of us.

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 5:15:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

It was while I was dating my ex, before the kids and everything. We were riding my motorcycle in Indianapolis. We had been in Broadripple for a really good meal and some great jazz. She looked good, Black silk blouse, black tight pants, and heels. She was wearing a leather jacket. We'd split a couple bottle of wine and I was feeling very frisky.
As we rode down some backstreets, she bit my neck. That was it, the barbarian took over. I took a dirt path down to the riverbank (White River), I stopped the bike behind some trees. She got off and I got off after her. I grabbed her by the back of the neck and pulled her in for a kiss. She melted. I pulled my knife out of my boot (don't ask, old habits die hard). I slit her pants (that cost me later) and reached in to feel her. Her panties were soaked. I cut off her underwear and tied her wrists. I laid her on the bike and tied her hands to the handlebar. I took her, with a few slaps to her lovely ass.It was hot, very hot. She screamed. We were there far longer than logic would dictate. But God does look out for fools and lovers (I won't claim which group I was in). The ride home, she had my jacket in her lap, covering up her ruined clothing. Its still a great memory.

ooooh cold shower needed..............................

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 5:23:46 PM

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My best date was with a switch guy.....he was/is married but it was an agreement we had....
many many years my junior and sht hot intelligent...i intra switched....somethin which I rarely do...wearing white lace lingeris as a submissive....was on my knees in a shot as it were....and then made tea and he read something enlightenening whilst in recovery...I then went upstairs and changed persona, dressed in black and leather with heavy black eyesgashadow and red red lips and boots and dommed the fk out of him.......he made a beautiful sub male and I soon had those hangs and wrists (that had forced open my submissive mouth), tied and restrained behind his back ...yum...he certainly gave up reading the enlightening book after that but i was inpressed by his cool when answering a business call....
we still adore each other but he is doing the married baby thing and it woukd break both his and his wife's heart for her to know....and I respect and love him enough to let him go......

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 5:30:50 PM

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Is it hot in here? or is it just me?....lol

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 5:44:22 PM

Prinsexx

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ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

Is it hot in here? or is it just me?....lol

well it sure beats off the menopause......

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 5:49:24 PM

MidMichCowboy

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Hmmm the idea of Prinsexx, kneeling in white lace ... sends a chill up my spine.

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 5:54:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Prinsexx

quote:

ORIGINAL: DrkJourney

Is it hot in here? or is it just me?....lol

well it sure beats off the menopause......

LOL you're killin' me....lol

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 6:10:00 PM

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ORIGINAL: MidMichCowboy

Hmmm the idea of Prinsexx, kneeling in white lace ... sends a chill up my spine.

a chill up anywhere sure beats menopayse too....
get down cowboy

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 6:14:30 PM

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Yes! Finally more erotica and less whining!

I'd be hard pressed to pick a favorite. Although this one time in Vegas.......

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 7:26:10 PM

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Well, one memory that sticks out in my mind was several years ago with a sadistic Dominant i had been involved with, off and on, for about 4 years. It wasn't really a date but, an outing. He had me leave work early one mid-week afternoon in late Spring and meet him at a nearby wooded park. i had no idea what he had in mind. He and i met in the parking lot and walked and talked casually, then got onto one of the trails and walked several hundred feet into the woods, where he told what he had planned. He told me that he had already placed various items and notes at different spots along the trail. He was going to blindfold me and walk me along the trail, stopping at each of these pre-set spots, where i would read the note and follow the printed directions. All of the notes were different but, each one offered me 2 choices and i had to make my choice within 30 seconds of reading the note. Then, He gave me the choice, right then, to turn back or continue down the trail and that would be the only time i would be given that choice. i chose to go down the trail with him. He put the blindfold on me and took me down the trail. Some of the notes gave me a choice to take off various items of clothing or receive a whipping or some other 'punishment'. Some gave me the choice of doing 1 of 2 different things to him. Some gave me the choice of doing 1 of 2 different things to myself. Some gave me the choice of picking one bag or the other, not knowing what was in the bags, only to find out that the one i picked had a butt plug in it and i had to insert it right then and keep it in until told to remove it. Some notes gave me the choice of choosing one fork in the trail over the other, not knowing what was facing me on either of them. There were probably about 10 or so of these spots along the trail and each one offered different choices. Some of the choices were more difficult than others but, i always had to make my decision within 30 seconds or i would be punished and would still have to make a choice. It took over an hour to finish the trail and there was sex involved, along with the other things. At the end of the trail, i gathered myself together and walked out of the woods with him. He had his guitar and violin in his truck and we found a nice grassy spot under a tree and he played his guitar for me and then played some wonderful bluegrass on his violin. i always loved how he could go from being a brutal sadist to being a Renaissance man in an easy and natural manner. This outing was a mix of pleasure and pain, since i love the outdoors, it was a beautiful day, i was with someone i had a great affection and respect for and, it was exciting and unlike anything i had ever done before. But, having to make choices was and still is, something i hate to do. And, he knew how much i hate to make decisions and purposefully set this up so that i would have to, unless, of course, i had made the choice at the beginning of the trail to just turn back, which he knew i wouldn't do. He knew that i wouldn't be able to resist finding out what was down the trail. And, i was glad i did. slave joyOwned property of Master David

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RE: What has been your best real-life "dates"... - 12/28/2007 7:47:48 PM

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Daddy packed us off to a local casino for the weekend...I was excited at the prospect of being off of work and spending some quality time, but He had put some major planning in place...

He had an outfit all picked out and we enjoyed a lovely evening with various implements that He had stowed. I was a ball of submissive putty and then He switched gears and dumped me into the jacuzzi with a glass of my favorite champagne. He wrapped me in a fluffy robe and I had the best sleep of my life. I woke up to room service knocking on the door...He had arranged for them to come up and make Bananas Foster right there next to the bed. (Bananas Foster is my all time favorite dessert and I haven't found a restaurant here that serves it.) Anyway...I think He managed to push every single one of my very many buttons in just two days. He was sooo in charge, and sooo on point...I could almost hear the sizzles the entire time. Yeah, Wow!

This is probably the date that sticks out in my mind...but, there are so many to choose from...life is good!

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