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Threesomes (F/m/m) - 12/30/2007 12:56:14 AM

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I was talking with someone tonight about the first time a man gave me a bath -- in a femdom kind of scenario. It occurred to me as I went into the details that it was my first (of only a few) threesome also -- threesome, as in me and two guys. Mind you, it was VERY TAME compared to what people think of when they say "threesomes" but in reality, my first one was the best, because it WAS so tame. By tame I mean there wasn't a lot of sex going on, more sexual tension, and a ton of sensuality. The fact that it wasn't "get naked, jump into bed, and everyone fuck everyone" is what made it so intense and hot for me. I was only 22 or 23 if I recall, and the guys were 19 or 20/21 ish. It was my boyfriend at the time, and his best friend and we did an overnight stay at a hotel to mess around.

Now, looking back, I realize what made it so extremely hot (and one of those experiences that turned into a fantasy I kept rolling through my head again and again, in a wish that the night could have just gone on for ever) was the bdsm elements of it, not the sex parts. My boyfriend was my bottom (I hesitate to use the word submissive) and his best friend was very bdsm-curious (more so than my bf). They were extremely close as best friends, and there was an undercurrent of bi-denial, if that makes sense. I think they'd shared some awkward drunken moments that both of them half-confessed to me at various times and then clammed up; something had gone on between them but they didn't talk about it. It didn't matter, because when we agreed to "get together" we said there'd be no sex between them but they'd both be with me. Really, though. what I wanted was for them to tie each other up while I watched, and that became the intense focus of the entire night.

I think the recent thread about "submissive lapdances" and femdoms talking about their dream "nightclub" atmosphere with submissive/serving men in various stages of performances/faux fighting/mud wrestling kind triggered this memory too. This was WAY before I had ever seen a hockey game, but the interplay between two men was incredibly erotic to me - they play-wrestled to tie each other up, hammed it up for my benefit, at times were really almost ready to hurt each other (boys will be boys) but mostly were competing to see who could turn me on more with their antics and bondage games. As I look back at it, I have to think, holy crap, why didn't I do that more?

I remember, though, it was incredibly complicated, and it put a lot of tension in their relationship - not because of any insecurity between my bf and me related to having the third there (we still all three would hang out a lot, even afterward), but the tension of the attraction between the two of them that neither of them could really come to terms with or dismiss entirely. Looking back, while I couldn't put my finger on it then, that erotic tension between them is what made the entire thing so edgy and intense.

I'd love to hear other femdoms talk about any threesome experiences they have had with two (straight) men. It makes me want to do it again, but in my current relationship, it's not really going to be possible - I have to settle for the manufactured erotic energy from him playing hockey with other guys (but that works, too; hell, I have a pretty active imagination).

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RE: Threesomes (F/m/m) - 12/30/2007 1:10:42 AM

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Hm. I've never partnered (or known, yet, closely) a completely straight male so I can't relate in that manner. My f-m-m threesomes were with my then-boyfriend who at the time had only been with females but leaned heavily -he learned later- towards males and our mutual friend who the first time was a virgin and is mostly straight but was not opposed to males in the right situation.

There were no BDSM elements to the threesomes, either, though the two relationships I had with them involved a lot of BDSM and PE elements separately.

I had a marvelous time. The first time was just so much fun, so playful and relaxed. We all played together switching who was being focused on or mixed things up with splitting our attentions among more than one of us at a time. Lots of talking and smiles... Watching them together or sharing directly with them...

It was the first time I'd really met the virgin friend, we'd just said "hi" to each other once a couple weeks before, and it started us being lovers for a couple of years and friends still. So I got someone special out of it in addition to the sex itself.

Ahhh, warm memories :D

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RE: Threesomes (F/m/m) - 12/30/2007 8:10:57 AM

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Interesting bit of a topic. (Is anybody even remotely surprised that I'd show up on it?)

For the purposes of the discussion, I'm going to use the term mfm. The reason for doing so is it designates the difference between who the focus is on sexually. If We're talking about situations where there is no sexual interactions between the males, it would be My suggestion that the term mfm is more appropriate. Since that is the topic, I'll keep all of the instances where there were interactions between the males out of it. (I'll talk about the other when those threads come up.)

I'm rather familiar with what you've termed 'bi-denial'. It is very erotically charged and can make for some very heated exchanges. That particular energy is absolutely fantastic, because it works out for the female in either regard. Those who refuse to cave into it, generally tend to double their efforts to the female in the room (i.e., Me) so then you have that energy plus the extra attention.

Now, none of My adventures have included anything like the males tying each other up while I watched. I have had the pleasure of evenings that started with one male bottoming for Me and the other wanting to bottom so much that I ended up Topping them both. Very delicious, btw. Having both males serve Me in the BDSM, rather than only a sexual way, have been very hot indeed. (Talk about your nights that you wish would last forever <sigh>.) It's not exactly what you asked for, but My first leap into watersports was also a mfm night. One of U/us giggled like a schoolgirl, but I won't tell you which that was.

Ah, memories. I sure do miss those days at times.

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