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RiotGirl -> Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 6:22:11 AM)
Questions can be good, but questions can be bad. Watching Master drive to off today, i wanted to ask " who in the heck are you calling at 8 am in the morning" then i realised. It twas none of my business who he was calling. He doesnt answer to me. i answer to him. Usually i dont, which i was asked once why. Was it out of respect? Partially being so, but the other being so it is out of logic. Asking Master why, i usually get "because i said so" or "because thats what i said" or "i'm the Dom your the sub" <snorts> i get the point majority of the time, but i still cant help but want to ask at times. sometimes i think it takes time and practice to be able to just sit back and not ask questions.

Sabella -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 7:08:46 AM)
Awwww :( /comfort! I know what you mean. You were probably still feeling lovey & moony and obviously already missing him watching him drive away - and he's on the phone with work/dry cleaners/his mom/who knows & thinking about other things. You saw his attention was not on you and it hurt or made you jealous. I feel your pain, LOL. I get that twinge all the time even when I KNOW it's work he's on the phone with. Grrrr

pet4mymaster -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 8:35:47 AM)
i can't speak for all...but even some of us that will not openly question him we still have that inner voice that says.."what about me....forget me so quick....but i don't want you to goooo[:(]" don't feel bad about it or anything like that....i think it may just be part of human nature and no matter how deep a sub/slave you are...no one can over come nature...so cry..feel bad...get sad and down...but know that he will be back[:)] and it will be alright Kisses and Licks--Pet

EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 9:32:33 AM)
Unless you've been told or trained not to ask certain questions, then any question is pretty much up for grabs. It's then HIS choice whether to answer it or not. Most subs are trained that some times/types of questions are not cool, but otherwise it's fine. If you aren't sure, then ask. And then if the answer IS "it's none of your business, don't ask again" then you're quite fine with a very clear line. And yes, training takes time.

mossy -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 9:38:20 AM)
Riot Girl thank you so much for your thoughts today,,,this really means a lot to me. Now that i am beginning to start thinking of working with a new master someday soon hopefully,,,the serious matter of trust arises. As you so keenly point out! When you have left a long term relationship with a "master" and trust broke down completely, learning to trust a new master? Well i can only imagine, i will have some hard work ahead of me.[8\|] Thanks for the input much needed[;)]

RiotGirl -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 11:40:25 AM)
Heya Mossy. Yeah trust is hard. If you ever want to talk about it, feel free to IM me. Honestly, i think one of the biggest things that messes me up with Master is a specific past relationhip i had that wasnt M/s, but might as well have been. Just no kink, and alot of other things. Heh. Aye, opening up is hard, and it in away opens up a whole box of worms. Not fun. Best i can say is be prepared, as i wasnt. those worms will come up and smack and wiggle and well its very... mmmmmmmm shocking! i mean, you put something behind you, you move on, and something is beautiful and awesome and wack, all these worms crawling around. oh i dont think i felt sad yall. not really all that worried about it! Just seemed strange and out of place for him to be calling so early in the morning! HA! opening up is a whore and i'm not doing it on this one! LOLOLOLOL thats my final answer, it just seemed strange and what i thought i didnt like. So reminding myself that its not my place (as it isnt) helped alot But then the past weekend the sugject of questions has come up a few times among different ppl so i thought i'd throw it out here!

RiotGirl -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 11:42:43 AM)
oh and Mossy... trust is hard even when you know you can its okay to trust.

mossy -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 11:57:31 AM)
You just hit the nail on the head,,,,,so to speak Riot Girl,,,,yup! Exactly. im you would love to just explain...

NakedOnMyChain -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 12:13:44 PM)
It's good to be obediant...to a point. Sometimes, though, asking why is not only viable, but vital. And I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but if you're in a monogamous relationship, you might truly want to start asking why. Something sounds kind of fishy to me.

pinkpleasures -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 4:36:04 PM)
quote: Riot Girl thank you so much for your thoughts today,,,this really means a lot to me. Now that i am beginning to start thinking of working with a new master someday soon hopefully,,,the serious matter of trust arises. As you so keenly point out! When you have left a long term relationship with a "master" and trust broke down completely, learning to trust a new master? Well i can only imagine, i will have some hard work ahead of me. Thanks for the input much needed mossy. That's wonderful news mossy! Congratulations! pinkpleasures

sultryvoice -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 4:44:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RiotGirl Asking Master why, i usually get "because i said so" Isn't this rather juvenile? I mean that is what parents say to children.. Respectfully, sultry

sweetpettjenny -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 4:56:11 PM)
who are we to judge another couple and how they run their D/s household? it may seem juvinile to you but to him it may be that way for her to build trust ..who knows? quote: ORIGINAL: sultryvoice quote: ORIGINAL: RiotGirl Asking Master why, i usually get "because i said so" Isn't this rather juvenile? I mean that is what parents say to children.. Respectfully, sultry

RiotGirl -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 5:30:36 PM)
prolly means alot of things. tho i'm not in the mood to get into what it means at the time. But i can think of a few things off the top of my head. LOL as they say "we're not alone anymore scotty" Or whatever

ProtagonistLily -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/22/2005 6:15:12 PM)
quote: Questions can be good, but questions can be bad. Watching Master drive to off today, i wanted to ask " who in the heck are you calling at 8 am in the morning" then i realised. It twas none of my business who he was calling. He doesnt answer to me. i answer to him. Usually i dont, which i was asked once why. Was it out of respect? Partially being so, but the other being so it is out of logic. Asking Master why, i usually get "because i said so" or "because thats what i said" or "i'm the Dom your the sub" <snorts> i get the point majority of the time, but i still cant help but want to ask at times. sometimes i think it takes time and practice to be able to just sit back and not ask questions. I don't get this. Since when is it my job to anticipate what Sir thinks or says? If I have a question, I ask. That's my job. Sir's job is whether to answer it or not. But he expects me to respect him enough to ask. Lily

RiotGirl -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/23/2005 10:09:25 AM)
Another explanation coming.... Because i said so He's telling me to relax, stop worrying, dont stress and to purely just LET GO. To trust in him. That he's not gonna say anything thats gonna lead me wrong. Him telling me one things, i can think of 5 different worries about it.

ftb -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/24/2005 3:15:19 PM)
i think that more respect and trust can be gained if a brief, but honest, explaination is given. ftb

pinkpleasures -> RE: Who are you calling? (8/25/2005 4:53:00 PM)
quote: i think that more respect and trust can be gained if a brief, but honest, explaination is given. ftb Will have to wait and see...but i agree, E/everyone's relationship is no one else's business, certainly not to adjudge inadequate. pinkpleasures

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