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What I learned in 2007 and new years resolutions - 12/31/2007 3:51:58 PM

Phin

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2006 and 2007 where big years for me. Early in 2006 I discovered this lifestyle and dove in headfirst.

when I first made a profile on CM I considered myself to be a sub. I discovered from this site and real life experiences that even though I was a masochist of sorts it did not mean I had to be submissive. (it took me a while to rap my head around that.) After breaking away from that mindset I began to explore my sadistic side and experiment with dominance. Early in 2007 I changed my profile to "switch." I continued to come to these forums and attend group events. I became more comfortable with my sexuality and with the sexuality of those around me. Once upon a time I had a very closed mind to anything other than a heterosexual monogamist vanilla relationship.

I continued my experimentation with topping and became decent (always room for improvement) with a flogger and a few other instiments of pain/pleasure. My masochistic side has continued to deminish and I have no desire whatsoever to submit outside of a role playing scene. I now consider myself "Top with strong desires for Dominance," but that is not an option on the otherside so my profile says Dom.

My resolutions for 2008 include becoming better with the tools that I own, and finding my dominance so that it becomes more instintual.

Thank you to the folks on CM that have assisted in my guidance to become what I am and what I have the potential to be. Between my time here and the experiences away from a computer, I have learned much.

Please share some of the ways that you have grown this year.

Thanks
Phin

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RE: What I learned in 2007 and new years resolutions - 12/31/2007 4:06:34 PM

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This year, Master and I grew closer as we delt with the fact I am going blind. I had to give up driving and doing many things on my own. I used to take Master's T-bird and drive @ 120 really opening her up and listening to her purr. I could multi task and now I can't nor can I shower alone..smiles now that is rather nice since Master washes my hair and has to shave me...

We learned the meaning of comittment and accepted the fact that shit happens and if you play your cards right you can smell like a rose when you get out of it lol. 2007 made stop and be thankful I have a person in my life that wont let me say I can't when I still can and to look at the assholes in the world and feel sorrier for them because they have no clue..It made me thankful I am going to live and not die from this..far too many people have it worse than I do...Blessings and love from Vanatru, his girl wisteria and a bright 2008 to everyone!

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RE: What I learned in 2007 and new years resolutions - 12/31/2007 5:40:05 PM

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this year i learned and discovered more about myself blossoming into the woman as well as submissive Daddy said i would be. i'm different than i was in 2006 - newly divorced with no sense of guidance and direction for my life. a year later, i'm stronger and have my self-confidence/esteem back realizing my self worth is far greater than my ex will ever give me credit for.

next year, i'm looking backwards but towards a better and brighter tomorrow with my SO.

happy new year

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RE: What I learned in 2007 and new years resolutions - 12/31/2007 10:47:44 PM

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Wow, a lot happened in 2007! Made the break from the stressful ex-hubby (whew!) and the house I adored (much harder) ... to move across the country with the Master i adore! Big changes to leave Perth and all I had known for 40 years behind, including family, friends and My choir. Arriving here in Queensland after a LONG (over 5000km = 3000+ miles) drive with the aged cat in the car, weathering the loss of both dogs on the first weekend ... and their miraculous returns home!

The friendliness of this place has been good, though not really had enough work to be comfortable yet. The sheer effort of all the packing, unpacking and getting established has really taken its toll on energy and bdsm play this year for Master and i, but the M/s and the love is still very strong. Have met a local sub girl and her Master though, and made some good friends

On the Domme side, Jay really wants to find a suitable sub who could live here 24/7, which means they have to fit in personality-wise, be comfortable with My being a Duality and with Master as Head of the Household ... and who has the right attitude and actions in their submission. Had a trial with a fem sub who met the first part of the criteria, but who wasn't able to carry through her desires to be a sub to appropriate actions demonstrating this. *Sigh* Very frustrating ... just made Jay hungrier! Through that though, I learned not to compromise My requirements out of sheer hunger, and I am even clearer as to what My requirements are. So it was a worthwhile process, even though it hurt at the time.

2008 ... well, it will see the debut of a new music duo on the local scene, Master and i as Alliance, doing pretty much classic rock! Not bad for an old folkie LMAO! Hopefully it will solve the work and income crisis. And My energy must be returning as I've suddenly decided to pursue doing My PhD, something colleagues have been trying to persuade Me to do for years! The search for a sub for Jay will continue of course, thinking positively, I hope it will happen sooner or later this year! And violet will continue to serve Master, to find the daily delight of doing even the little things for Him, to make Him laugh every day as He makes me laugh! It's looking like a good year

Happy New Year to all!
Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: What I learned in 2007 and new years resolutions - 12/31/2007 11:30:23 PM

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It has been a pretty bad year for me and I can only hope that 2008 brings more joy, success and happiness for me.

The only thing I can truly say that I discovered about myself these past few years is what a survivor I am. But now I want to thrive, not just survive.

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RE: What I learned in 2007 and new years resolutions - 12/31/2007 11:59:42 PM

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2007 was a bad year for me, too many losses. i'm praying 2008 brings much needed relief from several problems and success in managing a few other things, including my health. i'd rather not lose any more body parts, lol! blessings and joy to E/everyone in 2008!

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RE: What I learned in 2007 and new years resolutions - 1/1/2008 6:28:53 AM

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2007 started out terribly for me. I never want a repeat performance like this ever, ever again. It took months to get over some of the things that happened and knocked me off my square. Now, I feel more like myself than I have in a long time. I know that I can overcome so many more challenges and obstacles than I ever dreamed, and that I am more resourceful, too. My confidence has crept back to an acceptable level, so that's always a plus. I pray that 2008 is full of health, some wealth, happiness, and possibly will be the year that Daddy and I can become "Mr. and Mrs. IntenseMaster."

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RE: What I learned in 2007 and new years resolutions - 1/1/2008 12:09:01 PM

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i have grown a lot more comfortable with my Dom on a trusting level, that i didn't think i would ever do again. He's helped me through a lot of difficult times, and i even started opening up more to him as the months go by. i love him as my friend and as a Dom that he is.

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