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Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 8:42:21 AM

grlneedstolearn

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This is mainly for the straight female subs/slaves on here. How hard is/was it to find a Domme/Mistress that would be willing to dominate you if you?

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 9:05:14 AM

backseatbebe

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impossible, most Dommes here are Pro and want money
and the ones that arent good luck getting them to message you first
you gotta make all the effort for women

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 9:07:19 AM

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i'm not saying this for me, i already have a wonderful Dom who is training me. It's a question that i thought up of last night, and wondering if it really is possible.

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 9:49:40 AM

azropedntied

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Finding a play partner is easy ,finding another to do some bdsm exchanges in a more serious light a tad tougher but very doable .Finding a Domme to have a long term relationship with ,that works, no velcro collar ,but the Mistress of your dreams -VERY TOUGH indeed .Finding a Pro Domme to give money to ? well extreamly easy , and if she takes mastercard "priceless" -now there is comercial i wanna see .
I have been looking for MANY years and have yet to find my Mistress , in fact i am at that point now where i just live and be no more mailing and looking but rather enjoy my envolvments with the community .If she makes her way into my life Great but i am pretty much done making that my full time job .
Good luck .

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 10:01:38 AM

BotanicalMiss

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I'm just curious about your question.... why would a straight femsub/slave seek a Domme to dominate her, and in what context?

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 10:20:07 AM

backseatbebe

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good question
didnt even notice that

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 10:32:00 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: azropedntied

Finding a play partner is easy ,finding another to do some bdsm exchanges in a more serious light a tad tougher but very doable .Finding a Domme to have a long term relationship with ,that works, no velcro collar ,but the Mistress of your dreams -VERY TOUGH indeed .Finding a Pro Domme to give money to ? well extreamly easy , and if she takes mastercard "priceless" -now there is comercial i wanna see .

What a coincidence!
As a Lifestyle Domme, since moving a year ago, I have yet to find a straight male sub to collar. Lots of nibbles but sams, not subs.
But One never knows when a cute pup with a red bow might land on My doorstep or look up adoringly in the pet store/coffee shop window, so I keep My toybox well stocked.

may W/we all get w/Who W/we deserve in '08.

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 12:19:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BotanicalMiss

I'm just curious about your question.... why would a straight femsub/slave seek a Domme to dominate her, and in what context?

i have a female sub friend who was being dominated by a Dom, which she enjoyed, but things turned south and she wants to try looking for a female Domme that can still get her into subspace, she's a masochist also, like her Dom did.
Hopefully this answers your confusion

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 12:30:50 PM

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I totally understand. I don't think it's that difficult finding someone. It's finding one you are very compatible with, and within a reasonable distance that is the problem.

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 1:03:26 PM

Lashra

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I'm a lifestyle Domme and for a long time I sought a femsub to no avail. I just couldn't find one whose interests matched my own or once they found out I had a malesub, they immediately gushed they could take more pain then he and they should be alpha based on their gender. That stopped the negotiations dead in their tracks. Gender is meaningless to me, my malesub comes first because he has been with me the longest and the ones who said they could take more pain, turned tail and ran when I told them how much I enjoy impact play.

So to answer your question it may take awhile, many Dominant females have learned to be choosey when it comes to taking on a sub/slave. Who wants to put a lot of effort into a relationship thats covered in red flags from the very beginning? Not many. So look hard and be honest with yourself in what you seek and with the prospective Domme.

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 3:03:37 PM

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I don't know, but there seems to be an endless number of female subs looking for female Dommes ONLY in my state. Every time I am looking out for someone interesting, or view a new profile, there's a header insisting on women only. It seems fishy to me that there are so many of them, although I don't know what kind of spamming that is.

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 4:03:24 PM

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I dont do pro-work.. i am actually a little against it.

I have no problem finding subs/slave and the ones i talk to have said the same. I guess it depends on where you live.

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 4:12:29 PM

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I think it is hard finding a good fit no matter what the sexes... but Dommes in general are in short supply... add to that bi, or les ones.. well the numbers go down even further. Even if there is nothing sexual.. the Domme has to be agreeable to having a female sub. The demographics are just rough.

On the off chance you do find someone.. do you connect, and mesh? Hell that is why we have Lesbain U-Haul jokes... Once you find a half decent one, you want to settle in and stay.

Good luck to your friend... I hope she finds someone she can trust, and be well with... no matter what thier sex is.

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RE: Finding Female Dommes? - 1/1/2008 6:25:27 PM

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Thank you Gwynvyd, she isn't sure if she really wants to go through with it, but it got me interested in knowing and trying to see if it really is possible. Which it seems it is, though with some "barriers" to cross with both parties.

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