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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/1/2008 6:01:05 PM

CuriousLord

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"Lesbian" and "bi" are simply titles to help people understand your general position; unfortunately, English can not truly describe your feelings in a word. Therefore, you can tell someone you're a lesbian if you're only really interested in women; you can say "bi" if you're also considering men. After that, you can elaborate on it for those who should understand your position.

If you're intellectually curious, then I'd like to point out that the words are only generalizations. You seem to fit into the "lesbian" generalization, yes, but that's shouldn't bind your identity unless you want it to. You're free.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/1/2008 6:09:11 PM

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ORIGINAL: Estring

Take Dramamine before sex with a man. If you still throw up, you are a lesbian.

ROFLMAO!

That was great....why didnt I think of that with My ex?

Honestly, and on to the serious part....

Im bi, but after all the crap that I have been thru with men, I have altered My profile, and My search, because I got to spend a bit of time being serviced by a female sub. Nothing major she just did My nails and gave Me a shoulder Massage...but the cool part was that during the whole thing, (there were three of us...Myself, another Domme and the sub) we all just sat there and chatted and relaxed...the cool thing about it was, tho I was topless I didnt feel like some one was all about getting Me naked, or....wanting SOMETHING from Me, as I feel with most of the male slaves I have talked to.

you shouldnt be in such a rush to adopt social labels....honestly. Just be you. If you find love does it matter if it requires dramamine and a barf bag (lol...sorry I still think thats funny) or comes with a vagina? As long as YOU are happy and YOU are loved and YOU are fulfilled.

Good luck.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/1/2008 6:26:36 PM

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-I dont wish for someone to turn out as gay/lesbien; as I know of the barriars that exist.

conversely- I would not want to be heterosexual.... Ild get beat up real fast. The signals, gestures, inuendo is different between the two worlds.

Hetorsexualism is the cultural preferred lifestyle. One can be shut out of job-apartment for not towing the line.

On teh otehr hand- always be true to yourself- cause you will be happier that way.

It isnt about the orgasm. It is about genuine contentment

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/1/2008 6:42:41 PM

MistressNoName

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I'm not going to read the other replies b4 posting my response because I'm having a strong reaction to this friend of yours. And it's this. No one can tell you what you are. Not even the closest, dearest of friends. Only you can know who and what you are. I was in a relationship a few years ago with a woman who I sort of label as a very "staunch" lesbian, for lack of a better term. She had a lot of problems with my identification as bi. One day, she sort of tried to insist that I was just a "big, ole lesbian," to use her words. I looked at her seriously and said, "but, I'm not." She, continuing to question me asked, "are you sure." My response, "I'm sure." No one else defines me for me. And no one can tell me b/c I may be fucking a woman that that means I'm lesbian or that I'm het, for fucking a man.

That said, only you know the extent of your attractions and desires. You must examine these. And keep in mind, just b/c you are not seeking male companionship now, does not disqualify you from the bi club...However, if you are seeing a pattern of attraction and desire that seems to exclude men, despite your sexual experience with men, you may well be lesbian. It's possible you are holding onto the "bi" label for some emotional reason that you have not fully explored yet. But the bottom line is that the answer you seek is within you. Don't look outside of yourself for it.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/1/2008 7:28:52 PM

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Sounds like you're a lesbian to me, but I want to know if you prefer lipstick or flannel shirts and jeans?

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/1/2008 7:57:04 PM

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I prefer the more feminine 'lipstick lesbian'.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/1/2008 9:20:15 PM

FangsNfeet

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Are you a lesbian?

Why do you need one of us to tell you? Know who you are and what you like. What's the problem. Call yourself bi or a lesbian, I don't care. Call yourself 99.9% lesbian. As long as you're happy with what you are getting, that's all that matters.

When it comes to Dominance/submission, I'm always Dominant. When it comes to Sadist/Masochism I happen to enjoy both. But this does not make me a switch.

Just call yourself a horny freak and be happily freaky with the rest of us.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 3:53:37 AM

batshalom

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~fast reply~

Call yourself a ballerina. Or a woman. Do what you want to do, see who you want to see, avoid those things you don't like. If that makes you a lesbian or a policeman or a table dancer ... ok.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 4:25:02 AM

adoracat

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quote:

ORIGINAL: summerblossom

I prefer the more feminine 'lipstick lesbian'.

i always got a giggle out of that label. i had two dear friends that i shared a house with some years ago, they were a couple...one morning when we were all trying to get ready in the same bathroom at once (no issues of shyness!) i'm rinsing the soap outta my hair when amanda tells me "cat, you're more foo-foo than any lipstick lesbian i know!" tammy agreed...

and i said "but i'm not gay!" and we all about died at the entire conversation. of course my girlfriend would agree, sometimes you just gotta jump the fence for someone you love. :)

kitten, who is mostly straight except for one or two women i love very much

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 7:07:17 AM

Peridot

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quote:

ORIGINAL: summerblossom

The thought of pleasing a man sexually usually makes me want to throw up. So...does this make me a lesbian?

To answer your question: Quite likely - YES.

(Unless you've been traumatized as a child - then go to therapy)

quote:

Should I be identifying with that title from now on?

Find your own boxes.

quote:

I do want kids in the future

So, pull a Jodie! Artificial...

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 7:09:59 AM

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I often think I may be a lesbian.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 7:10:52 AM

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I heard a viscious rumour.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 7:27:46 AM

SubmissiveAK

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Im more sexually attracted to men, but haven't ever met one I wanted to have a relationship with (or felt any attraction to).
I fall in love with women and am very attracted to them, but the idea of traditional sex with one is lukewarm at best.
I want to submit to a Master.
I feel I need to be owned by a Mistress.

lol, so what does that make me besides confused?

Dont stick with labels, unless they are really cool labels. I've heard of Bi-Switches referred to as Quads before ^_^

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 8:49:34 AM

samboct

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From the humor section of this site-

I'm a bisexual, polyamorous switch and I *still* won't fuck you.

Seriously- Gwynn's link to Kinsey's scale is a pretty good way to think about things.

Or- just because you want kids- an important part of marriage is sex. If you don't enjoy having sex with your partner- what kind of role model is that for your kids? Most of the studies I've seen on the relative merits of homosexual/heterosexual marriages involving offspring came to the same conclusion- a good role model for children involves loving, attentive parents. There's a slight positive bias towards heterosexual relationships which may be diminishing over time- but its easily wiped out by other factors such as alcoholism or absenteeism.

Sam

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 11:29:02 AM

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So where does it say that lesbian couples don't have children? Sperm banks. Finding a gay couple that also wants offspring and you wind up with four loving parents. Or just asking a nice man if he would father your baby, in exchange you legally agree that he surrenders his parental rights and you have no claim on him financially.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 11:38:53 AM

Arpig

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Does it really matter what label is attached? What the fuck does it matter if you are bi or gay (or whatever), you enjoy what you enjoy, so just enjoy it.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 4:30:31 PM

summerblossom

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Thankyou all you helped alot.

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RE: Am I A Lesbian? - 1/2/2008 6:10:50 PM

Griswold

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Are you actually asking this forum to determine whether or not you're a lesbian?

Let's look at it this way...would you want to fuck me?

(Okay...that's not entirely fair...I'm 49...{but I look 44 and as much as 11 months...people have told me}...but...).

Okay...you're a lesbian.

(However, it's actually not official {I've checked on this} until you do your girlfriend in front of me).

I'm serious!!!!

(Would I lie???).

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