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HalloweenWhite -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 4:07:42 AM)

It sounds stupid but My advice is not to look for them, for 2 reasons.

1 As you said, they get flooded with messages, this is counter-productive for you because: A) your message is in with so many others that it becomes like white noise, and B) They're probably sick and tired of wading through so much stuff that is either patronising, rude or just plain boring so they switch off-don't read things properly or delete messages without reading them at all.

2 Because of reason 1, they're probably more interested in meeting people naturally and seeing if there's a connection, you can't expect to just mail a slave and have them want to serve you straight away, thats not how it works.

My advice is let them come to you, the way to do that is be seen as much as possible-post in these message boards, post in your journal, talk in BDSM chat-rooms and get out and about in the local scene. And dont expect results straight away, you wont get them and dont say what you want unless asked what you're looking for-desperation is not very attractive.



LaTigresse -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 4:15:45 AM)

I would tell you but I doubt you can afford the bill that will follow........



Sexynmentalinkc -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 4:40:12 AM)

~ Fast Reply ~

You could...

NOTE: I'm not saying you haven't done enough of these or shouldn't be asking, just add suggestions.
  • Get local (munches, clubs, etc.)
  • Focus on the 'craft' instead of the target (i.e. learn, prep and hone different skills - flogging, rope use, etc.)
  • Stop looking for a slave and start looking only for friends (and build up those)


I don't send out a ton of emails here - only to those that really catch my eye in a more-than-normal way. I very often will allow them to 'wave the flag' by dropping me a line first. Its actually a lot less frustrating and allows me to focus on other things (like those above). In my way of thinking, that is the win-win.


- Mr. S



catize -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 4:49:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I think you'd do better to post some more casual shots of yourself to back up your profile picture.  It (the picture) comes across as being fake to me. 


 
“Is that you, Wally?”………the Beav



Cyis75 -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 5:12:49 AM)

No real "formula"... Just takes patience and time... I probably get 1% of the ladies I've messaged respond, or is that 1% of 1% I haven't bothered to do the math. While I find it a bit disrespectful I just shrug it off as the few that have bothered to reply are worth it. While none have progressed into anything D/s related I have had some wonderful conversations with some lovely ladies.

Then again I don't look at online as anything more than another form of communication and nothing else. For me, and my wife, this lifestyle is something lived offline not online so don't we don't expect much of online and therefore are not disappointed. The results usually live up to the expectation. Sounds like your expectations might be set too high, try adjusting them.



batshalom -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 5:29:44 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DominantMan4f

Because it is a free site, with a lot of females on it.


And while I'm thinking about it, maybe this has something to do with lack of interest. It seems like you are just trolling for any ol' female. We all want to be special, not just one of  "a lot of females".



SlavishStudent -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 6:25:07 AM)

Ok firstly if this is quoting anybody... it's not meant to be!  (got in trouble in another thread with my sub standard posting skills!)

But yeah, I agree change the picture, it looks a bit like a badly styled 80s soap star...
Secondly think about what you're sending, don't do those stupid mass mails, try and be original.  Also one liners... if you have thirty emails sitting there all just saying "hey", you tend to lose the will to live!  Also, I don't see why everyone's in such a rush to get onto bdsm, you wouldn't walk up to someone in real life and call them slave, making demands would you!?  Why here?  Just take an interest in them as a person, read the profiles, and put a bit of thought into the message... just my two cents there:)



TMaster2 -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 7:09:02 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DominantMan4f

Hi I have been looking for female slave(s) on here for a while with no luck. I do much better off line, is there anything that works well in finding slaves on here. I notice the females on here get overwhelmed with messages. If you know of any ways to find real female slaves message me.


Ok, so you do much better offline, which I can only suppose to mean you found (at least) one offline?  So what's the problem?



SlavishStudent -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 7:13:59 AM)

Maybe he wants a hareem?



LaTigresse -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 7:19:01 AM)

Why did I just have a vision of a whole bunch of Barbara Eden clones?



kitttty -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 8:00:35 AM)

Post an example of the message you would send to a potential sub.

Your pic is odd, but other than that, I dont see how your profile is all that bad.

What age group do you contact?



topcat -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 8:05:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968
edited because I have a sticky "c" on my keyboard.


Are you typing with your labia?
 
color me impressed...



Jeffff -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 8:08:43 AM)

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ORIGINAL: catize




 
“Is that you, Wally?”………the Beav



What a lovely dress you're wearing Ms. catize

Eddy Haskel



LoveAndDS -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 9:15:46 AM)

You've got to be really patient.  Finding the right sub/slave is like looking for an Easter Egg hidden in Wal-Mart at Christmas time. 

If your willing to take your time than you'll find her :)



HotFaerieMama -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 9:24:02 AM)

be patient and you'll find someone.. hell i'm a subbie.. and i wasn't looking but i found someone.. so just be patient and eventually somene will come to you



darkpassenger434 -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 9:27:12 AM)

I would have to say anyone trying to find a formulaic ANYTHING regarding women is in for a world of disappointment.
-R



LaTigresse -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 9:29:25 AM)

Laughing here.......no truer words spoken on these boards.[;)]



EbonyPhoenix68 -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 10:58:19 AM)

What's this, a twibute to Elmer Fudd? LMAO



Peridot -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 11:43:30 AM)

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TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: The Best Ways To Find A Good Female Slave. (1/2/2008 12:27:39 PM)

You have been given some very very good advice, but I am sure you are not going to take it.  You are looking for some quick secret to success, when, in actuality, the problem is you, and not simply where, when, or how, you are looking for a slave.

The simple truth of the matter is that finding someone you like really isn't a problem.  The problem comes when you want that person to like you back.  I am sure you go through lots of profiles and think that this could be the girl for you, but they don't contact you, and when you contact them, they ignore you.  Well, why is that?

It might time to take a harsh look at what, exactly, you have to offer a Good Female Slave.  I am not just talking about looks or experience or money or personality or skills or any one aspect of you, but rather how desirable are you in general?  Are you working to improve your weaknesses or to capitalize on your strengths? 

If you insist on contacting others before they contact you, do you have realistic standards and expectations?  Are you only contacting 22 year old models, or have you broadened your search to people who might be more...ummm...compatible with what you have to offer?

Stop looking and start living.  Make yourself attractive and you will not have trouble attracting people.  It sounds like a tautology, but it is amazing how few people are willing to put the time in to make it happen...

Taggard





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