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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 12:57:05 PM   
Shawn1066


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ORIGINAL: RoughFN

Anybody out there have one of those instant click things that actually worked? Or should I just chalk them all up to clueless n00bs?


Completely inexperienced in the lifestyle.  Completely inexperienced in relationships in general.  Joined Collarme on a Sunday.  Got a message from DV on a Monday.  Met her on a Tuesday.  Stayed with her on a Wednesday.  Was collared by her on a Saturday.  Yes...all in the same week.

I'd say that was an instant click that actually worked, yes.  Did either of us even plan on it?  No, not at all.  Things just have a way of happening.

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 1:15:07 PM   
childoftheshadow


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ORIGINAL: batshalom

quote:

ORIGINAL: childoftheshadow

OP, why are you so concerned?



Sounded suspiciously like a jab at someone to me. ~shrug~


I was just curious, it was nothing malicious.

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 1:25:42 PM   
juliaoceania


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ORIGINAL: RoughFN

I'm not concerned, I just got curious on the matter. It truly doesn't matter to me one way or the other.

Well, I guess insomuch as I get to say, "Huh, good for you." but that's about it.

I suppose it's more a matter of separating the genuine from the people who really don't know what they're doing so I can adjust my internal filtering. Right now, I frankly assume that most of those "relationships" don't last and they people entering them don't know what they're doing. If it turns out they actually are lasting, then I'll adjust my assumptions as appropriate.

Just curiosity, really.


That could be a completely incorrect assumption

I would look at the date they joined and their last log in date... that will tell you if they made new profiles if they began seeking again, and they just failed to close an old account.

I announced about two months after I began posting here that I was seeing someone exclusively, and even though we had some problems for a time period, my profile has pretty consistently said I was involved with the same person... and even when we were not seeing each other for a couple of months, I was not seeking new dominants. My profile has remained nearly the same for well over a year.


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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 1:38:27 PM   
SingleRarity


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Status: offline 		Though I had BDsM fantasies for years, I got online in March to actively seek out others in the lifestyle.  After a random google search string brought me straight to Daddy's profile, I wrote, and thus we are.  All in all, twenty minutes?  Does that qualify as instant?

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 1:45:05 PM   
batshalom


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ORIGINAL: childoftheshadow

I was just curious, it was nothing malicious.


No, I'm sorry, it can be difficult to communicate here. I meant that the original post sounded like a jab at someone.

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 1:51:20 PM   
childoftheshadow


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ORIGINAL: batshalom

quote:

ORIGINAL: childoftheshadow

I was just curious, it was nothing malicious.


No, I'm sorry, it can be difficult to communicate here. I meant that the original post sounded like a jab at someone.


Oh, okay. I was worried I might have offended someone.

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 2:51:11 PM   
Suleiman


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Status: offline 		I've had people (very rarely, I'll admit) go from polite first contact to suddenly wanting to move in and serve me 24/7. I don't move that fast, but I play a long game with regard to romance. Most of those were at least mildly experienced, though, and had willingly adopted a lifestyle of fast affairs and hot dates. I suppose a long term relationship could arise from such a thing, but it would be kind of unusual, I think. Still, most of the insta-collars I see out here I just chalk up to virtual romance. I wish them well and move on.

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 3:44:26 PM   
backseatbebe


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Status: offline 		i think its eaiser when you first get into bdsm because you dont really have any expectations
and there are two ways of going about things;
choosing wisely (aka. what you think at the time is choosing wisely!) 
or
being desperate to serve anyone
if the sub takes the time to limit their search it will obviusally effect the time scale in finding someone because they are narrowing down their chances

but there are many factors as well
such as age and location on how quickly people pair up


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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 4:47:36 PM   
girlygurl


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ORIGINAL: RoughFN
Anybody out there have one of those instant click things that actually worked? Or should I just chalk them all up to clueless n00bs?


Rough~
I don't know if you could call it an instant click thing, but my Sir is my first, and was the first Dom I contacted.  I for one say it was meant to be  I believe that I am very fortunate to have met my Sir when I did. 

As for the others, I can't answer that for you. 

girly

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 6:55:22 PM   
Hergirl0824


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Status: offline 		well i might be a clueless noobie as the OP puts it....joined here on the instruction of my Domme, was released from Her shortly after that due to Her unforseen health issues...was emailed by another Domme here on CM offering me Her support and an ear if i needed it, within a month i asked for and received Her collar..we just clicked instantly...it happens..sometimes things just work

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 7:12:49 PM   
goodgirl08


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Status: offline 		Well, profiles can be a little deceptive. I joined the site at the end of June, and met someone I was interested in very quickly, and I was 'under consideration.' A couple weeks later, he turned a little nutso so I changed my profile back. So yeah, I was one of those...lol. Then over the summer, I closed my account for a brief period of 'self-reflection' and re-opened it in late October. Within 10 days, I had met and been claimed by my Master. But still, that's about a 4 month period from originally joining the site to finding a Master.

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 8:17:29 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		Daddy and I both knew we wanted a relationship with in weeks of knowing each other. And we've been together for an entire year, which yeah isn't long compared to some, but clicking instantly with someone and it lasting isn't for noobs, and it does happen.

quote:

I'm curious about something...

Anybody out there have one of those instant click things that actually worked? Or should I just chalk them all up to clueless n00bs?

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/2/2008 9:05:43 PM   
breatheasone


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Status: offline 		Daddy and I "clicked" immediately. We exchanged collarme e-mails for a couple of weeks, then met for dinner on April 11th "07" We knew we were in love by the time our 2nd date was over. That was the 13th of April "07" LOL....We keep finding new reasons to love each other daily it seems. I'm not sure but I think thats pretty fast....

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/3/2008 10:43:41 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		Master and i clicked from out first couple od e mails.  We then clicked even more so on the phone and when we met in person and we talked and he gave me our first kiss  that was it the kiss did it.  He collared me 5 months later and its been 23 months and we are still going strong and love each other .  So i knew on the 1st r/l meeting, Master knew even before we met.  He would tell me on the phone you are going to be mine. I said he was being aggroant but he said i was not, what i was is right.

Fast i think that is a matter of perception.

Matt's littleone

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/3/2008 11:54:42 AM   
Lenina


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Status: offline 		Personally, I met my Dominant within the first few weeks of starting the whole BDSM ordeal.
We clicked, talked forever, moved in and now I've been with him three years.

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/3/2008 6:39:56 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		It was so ironic and so funny cause I really laid down "the law" so to speak if you will before meeting James, no sex, no bdsm play. The first meeting is to see you and talk to you, and I ME was the one who couldn't and wouldn't keep my hands to myself. I felt a huge connection to him and a sexual one too and ended up having sex on our first date and someone I used to be a friend critisized me for it but I didn't care we did what felt right. And honestly I think it cemented our bond to have that mind blowing experince early on. James had also been the one to say I love you first even before meeting and I said thank you but was reluctant to say it back before first meeting.

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ORIGINAL: littleone35

So i knew on the 1st r/l meeting, Master knew even before we met.  He would tell me on the phone you are going to be mine. I said he was being aggroant but he said i was not, what i was is right.

Fast i think that is a matter of perception.

Matt's littleone

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/3/2008 6:57:56 PM   
AquaticSub


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RoughFN

Anybody out there have one of those instant click things that actually worked? Or should I just chalk them all up to clueless n00bs?


Sometimes relationships that shouldn't work just do.

I'm in one. There were less than 24 hours between when my ex-finance broke up with me (we'd been together just short of a year) and when Valyraen was in my bed. We both knew there was a strong chance that it wouldn't work but we decided to give it a shot anyway. And whadda know, two years and counting, looking to marriage.

Logically, I'd say most of those relationships probably won't work. But every now and then, one will.

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/3/2008 6:58:12 PM   
Sagiwah


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Status: offline 		Ironically enough, I'm still with the first dominant I met online. We didn't meet on collarme, mind you. Anyway, we've been together for two years. We've had our share of issues, but most of the time we're pretty happy. We chatted for over a year online/phone/cam before we met, and currently I'm staying with him for three months. :D

So, it does happen. I don't think it normally happens THAT fast, but it's possible.

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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/3/2008 9:32:51 PM   
trusting


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Status: offline 		after a year of speaking to a dominant man online i moved 1,000 miles away to be with him. we had spoken over the phone, exchanged pictures and spent countless hours online chatting.

it was almost an instant thing for me, the first time that he told me that he loved me i knew that moving to be with him was something i had to at least give a chance...

i moved with him after he came to my home state and spent a week with me to allow us to get to know one another, things went wonderfully and i returned to his home with him.

things went well for a few months and then i walked in on him doing drugs... at that very moment i lost complete respect for him and knew that my only option was to go back to my home. that is what i decided to do!

even after hearing all the stories about people on the Internet, i was one that had to experience it myself to see if it were meant to be...i have learned that not everything is as it seems.



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RE: How many are -really- that fast? - 1/4/2008 6:10:34 PM   
bindable


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quote:

ORIGINAL: RoughFN

I'm curious about something...

I see a certain class of subs on here that basically fit the following pattern - they open up a new account, usually professing a complete and utter lack of experience with BDSM, but that they've always had thoughts, are eager to learn, etc.

And then within a few days they update their profile to announce that they're newly collared to a great master and look forward to eagerly serving him forever and ever and ever.

Their profiles tend to stick at that point for a while. Some come to their senses and realize it won't work, but as for the rest I wonder. Are those people just getting scared off and never bothering to update their profile again?

Or are they really finding their true perfect dom in the first 2 emails and then living happily ever after? I suppose that the odds are just as good of that happening as meeting somebody some other way - two people in the right place at the right time and all, but it sure sounds odd to me.

Anybody out there have one of those instant click things that actually worked? Or should I just chalk them all up to clueless n00bs?


My GOD!!! You are stalking me!  
I really think that it comes down to some clulessness and some fakery both.  Often times people only want what they think they cant have.  So they make themselvs seem unavailable.

my 2 cents at least

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