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Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males pos... - 1/2/2008 10:24:46 AM

darchChylde

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i know this has been done before, but i'd like to put some simple tips for anyone who wants to make a good impression here; i beg the ladies and more intelligent men here to add to this as they see fit

-please, for the love of all that is kinky; try to pick a user name that doesn't sound like an overly descriptive personal ad; basically, i mean that your name should not include things you want to do to/for her or that you want her to do to/for you

-also, try to hang around the boards and get a few posts in (i'd say at least 30-50) if you have any thoughts that serious responses to your posts might be something fun to masturbate to

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 10:27:32 AM

CalifChick

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Awww, cmon, I was going to change my name to TieMeUpSpankMyAssMakeMeWriteBadChecks.

What do ya think? Too long?

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 10:36:24 AM

darchChylde

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

Awww, cmon, I was going to change my name to TieMeUpSpankMyAssMakeMeWriteBadChecks.

What do ya think? Too long?

Cali

it's a horrible double-standard, i know; but i think that particular style of usernames appeals more to search males than females... sort of like the way most femdoms don't care to see a picture of a potential's cock while male doms (ok het men, period) would generally be more than happy to see as much female nudity as you're willing to throw at them

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 11:58:54 AM

TallDarkAndWitty

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quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde
male doms (ok het men, period) would generally be more than happy to see as much female nudity as you're willing to throw at them

I, for one, prefer to have something left to the imagination. To steal a bit from Seinfeld, there is such a thing as "bad nudity". Tastefully erotic does so much more for me than any beaver shot.

This reminds me why I like prefer topless strip clubs to full nude strip clubs. In the topless bars, the girls actually work on dancing and connecting with their audience (the good ones, anyway). In the full nude ones, they tend to just show their moist bits and feel that alone is worth the tip.

Probably too much information...

Taggard

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 2:08:26 PM

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Don't think that is too much information at all. I feel the same way. Leaving things to the imagination is a lot more sexy.

I guess I should post something to the OP as well...personally I have found that advice to be true no matter what site you are on. *shrugs* I guess it has to be spelled out from time to time.

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 2:33:22 PM

darchChylde

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i agree wholeheartedly that it is usually best to leave something to the imagination, especially when you have yet to be in an intimate situation with a particular individual. Though i am no afficianado, i personally prefer soft-core porn to the other variety; as i don't need extreme close-ups of a penis or even a vagina (unless that extreme close-up is there because i happen to be knockin' on heaven's door). But i was speaking in general terms in that it is widely accepted as truth that men are by an large the more visual of the sexes.

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 4:09:00 PM

LadyHibiscus

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Well I loves me some pron, but if a person is only showing me his unit, am I to presume that it's his best feature?

And you are So Right, I immediately pass by screen names athat are suggestive of pretty much anything do-me.

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 5:14:33 PM

agoodgirl4Daddy

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well..i wanted to draw attention to the fact that what i want..ultimately...is a Daddy. i'm not changing my name!!

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 5:21:30 PM

faerytattoodgirl

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheDepravedFlame

Don't think that is too much information at all. I feel the same way. Leaving things to the imagination is a lot more sexy.

Yes tasteful pictures are best. No nudity what so ever would be amazing to happen if it would ever occur on sites like this...but it will always be here.

I have only one boob shot and it only shows one of my boobs and is not nude.
it is a little blurry to because its a web cam. it is a teaser. The other boob is covered up by my gorgeous long hair!

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 5:56:18 PM

PsyVamp

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quote:

ORIGINAL: darchChylde

i know this has been done before, but i'd like to put some simple tips for anyone who wants to make a good impression here; i beg the ladies and more intelligent men here to add to this as they see fit

-please, for the love of all that is kinky; try to pick a user name that doesn't sound like an overly descriptive personal ad; basically, i mean that your name should not include things you want to do to/for her or that you want her to do to/for you

-also, try to hang around the boards and get a few posts in (i'd say at least 30-50) if you have any thoughts that serious responses to your posts might be something fun to masturbate to

I'll add to this wonderful advice.

Put something in your profile about yourself, not just a laundry list of likes and dislikes.
Be honest in your profile and in your email correspondence. Explain what you mean when you call yourself a bottom/sub/slave masochist/sadist..... Not everybody's definition of those words is the same.

When writing, look at the profile. If the person says they are web/cam only, don't ask them for r/t or if they specifically say no chat or no cam, do not ask them to dominate you in that fashion.
See if your tastes match the dominant's tastes. Make yourself standout, present yourself as unique.

Good luck and have fun
Lady Jag

< Message edited by PsyVamp -- 1/2/2008 5:57:16 PM >

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 6:05:41 PM

Leatherist

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1. Your cock only matters to you. Forget about taking a picture of it.

2. The woman wants what she wants-not what you want try not to forget this.

3. There ARE people here beside Dommes-it helps to show a broader perspective if you also deem to talk to them too.

4. You definition of service is probably also only immediately important to you-especially if it invloves white stuff coming out of the end of the thing you should avoid taking pictures of.

5. If we cannot understand what you are trying to say-the default is usually to think you are an idiot, not worth bothering with-you won't get second chances with most.

6. Submission is an interactive dynamic-not just a scene.

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 6:16:38 PM

Tantriqu

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Here's a counter to My pet peeves:

If your profile name has '69' in it, you better be 38ish years old. Dude. Seriously.

Don't put 'don't know what to say'. If you don't, get out and stay out until you've figured it out.

If you can't write an interesting profile even to get LAID, you're not worthy.

Guys who want trannies are bi-'s. Deal with it, and change your profile accordingly.

Now, the flipside:
Best pic ever was a B&W shot of his naked torso with light coming through a shutter: Creamy. n.b., no cockshot. As above, dickpix are for you, not Us.

Find your favourite Domme profile. Now write your profile as if you're replying to Hers.

Good luck, and be better dogs.

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 6:56:12 PM

kitttty

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1) Read the Domme's profile and write like it proves you read it.
2) Write in complete sentences and use proper grammar and spelling. Write your message in word and have it spell checked and grammar checked if you really suck at that.

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 7:18:28 PM

SirJohnMandevill

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My .02 zlotys: Don't just post on a thread to boost your score and get rid of that dastardly vanilla cone. Have something to contribute, or at least say something humorous!

Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 7:44:26 PM

MsXtine

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ACK! My first post and I was just left of the actual point of the OP

Insert clever comments and useful advice here.

::sigh::
(edited to delete lengthy suggestions for making a positive impression when first contacting)

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 7:46:09 PM

MsXtine

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Tantriqu

Find your favourite Domme profile. Now write your profile as if you're replying to Hers.

Oh, that's an excellent suggestion!

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RE: Some basic advice for submissive/slave/bottom males... - 1/2/2008 8:52:46 PM

darchChylde

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i just want to note that this was originally posted on the mistress boards, which is why i was specifically speaking to males seeking female dominants

i'd like to think that the moderators felt my words to be wise and insightful and thus deserve to be shared with the community at large (Ma'am allows me one delusion a day, this is the one i pick; please refrain from abusing me of it)

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I'm the man your mother warned you about...
if only to keep me to herself.

I'm a male dominant switch whose experienced as a poly sub to a dominant woman
.
Where the fuck do I post?

Proud Owner and Protector of chyldeschylde.

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