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Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 12:07:51 PM   
BruisedHick


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A little bit of backstory here...  I have a friend who I have hired on in my hotel as something akin to my assistant.  She is very intelligent, motivated, competent, independant, and stubborn.  I knew when I hired her that things would not always be smooth, but what is? 

We're not together, but we may as well be.  We work together, live together, are both on the same page on many things, and are both kinky, although not at all sexual with each other.  It does make for an interesting house though.

Mostly, we get along.  Once in a while, we get mad.  C'est la vie. 

I have, as many know, fish tanks.  She has them as well.  I have rats.  She loves them.  We both want a lizard at some point.  So the pet situation seems ideal.

A few months ago, she decided she wanted a cat.  I told her I don't like them, but am in no place to tell her she may not.  So (we) got one.  Cute kitten, but it died after 3 days of some disease, on the day that I was leaving for a while.

I knew she was heartbroken, so on the way home, I got her a new cat.  Great cat, but very rambunctious.  I hated it, and said as much.  So we decided to get a second one, to calm the first one down.  Being a smart guy, I decided to nip any communication issue in the bud and tell her that I would approve a second cat only if she accepted full ownership of both, which she did. 

One thing I should point out is that while I am quite well off (even before my salary at work), she only has her paycheck to rely on.  So I pay for many things simply because it seems easier, including cats, groceries, satellite TV, and the like.  Works for the both of us, and will never be a point of contention.

So now we have two cats, both a lot more calm, but the new one now shits everywhere.  Nice liquid gobs of it all over.  Blech.

I have been cleaning this up since Christmas, when I put her in a box.  My roommate thinks this is cruel, which I partially agree with, but still, if it shits in the box, it doesn't shit on the floor.  I clean up more shit than she does, but honestly, we both clean a lot.  We have discussed a vet numerous times. 

Now the issue:

Each time I bring it up to her, she assumes that it is my job to call/bring the cat/help out.  I know that if I do, it will be a very slippery slope down to me doing everything for the cats, which I would love to be rid of.  Give her an inch, she'll give me the cats.  I know her that well.

So today, once again, she asks me to call the vet and bring in the cat in.  Which means that this cat will have to get the diarhhea thing fixed, spayed, shots, and the works.  Not a big issue, really, but it's not my cat.

So, the question:  How do I make sure that this cat goes to the vet and stops shitting without basically becoming responsible?

Any help appreciated!

Yours,


benji

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 12:10:56 PM   
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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 12:13:33 PM   
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one word: buttplug

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 12:13:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		Make her sign the paperwork.  And if you pay use cash...hand it to her to hand to the vet.  When you go to a vet someone has to sign a contract garunteeing to pay, make her do it.  As long as you don't sign anything it will simply be pressure from her you have to deal with. 

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 12:13:54 PM   
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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 12:28:34 PM   
sweetstorm


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Status: offline 		You know after giving this a moment of thought,
she hasn't taken care of the cat since Christmas and this has been going on? That's a long time. She's not going to take care of that cat. You should get rid of it.

Not only has the cat not been taken to the vet to see WHAT is wrong with it but it has now shit everywhere and that could now be it's habit. Niiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiice.....

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 1:04:49 PM   
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sounds like you best option is, is to find a "no kill shelter" or cat rescue and take it in to them,explain the circumstances to them also bear in mind though the owner of the cat not taking care of it in most areas,depending on who you take the cat to,they can be charged for neglect just like with a human child.

i'm not up for legally getting people i trouble but if they weren't going to take care of the animal in the first place why bother gettting it sorry if it sounds cruel but it is to the cat .




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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 1:36:17 PM   
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Buddy- you started it when you picked out the first cat.  She didn't- which makes it your problem.

Heinlein had a saying- never try to outstubborn a cat.  Well, I wouldn't want to try to outstubborn either of you- I think you've found a good match.  But take the damn cat to the vet- I mean really.

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 1:49:16 PM   
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Status: offline 		Check the cat isnt drinking cows' milk - sure to give many of them raging liquid shits

Get a dirtbox and show the cat where it is - cats are clean animals and dont like to shit in their den.

Make sure the cat gets to go outside every day - it'll more than likely go shit outside rather than inside

Get some worming medicine and also treat for possible fleas.

Love cat

E

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 1:52:05 PM   
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Status: offline 		Seriously, the issue here doesn't seem to be the cat, or even responsibility for the cat.  You sound ornary because the cat's shitting everywhere.  I would be too; I had a cat do the same thing.

The sooner the cat's fixed up by the vet, the sooner it'll stop shitting everywhere, and the happier you'll be.  Explain to the vet that it's her cat not yours, and have the cat registered as hers in whatever way you can. 

Good luck,

Stephan


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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 1:57:57 PM   
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Status: offline 		i have a shitting cat You can have, maybe that will fix the second cats problem.  hell this isnt even my cat, my room mate moved out and left it here.

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 2:03:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		I have an old cat that pisses on everything out of spite.
I'll take a pooping cat over a pissing cat every day.  Count yourself lucky benji.
My cat now lives in a large cage.  That's the better alternative.

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 2:18:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		it sounds like your cat has hook worms is the shit a really dark color? thats blood in the shit, more than likely your other cat will get it too so dont treat only 1 do them both or you would be doing both again, cider vinagar helps to cheaply kill the smell so they dont use the same place again, ----give her the money and the time off work to take the cats

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 2:27:28 PM   
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Status: offline 		The first suggestion I will make - Learn to love cats. We really are very sweet creatures. Daddy will tell you so... I only bite when he tries to tickle me.
Besides, we purr, which is really quite relaxing.

My second suggestion... now that you love cats, it really doesn't matter if they become yours. Take the thing to the vet, because really, it benefits you most if you are the one cleaning up the messes most often.

If you don't want to follow either of those suggestions, convince my landlord to let me have pets and I'll take both of them off your hands... just as long as you get the shitting one to the vet first. Yuck.


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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 2:36:33 PM   
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Status: offline 		Wow.  Some good responses.

First, I would like to adress the registration thing:  I don't care who owns it on paper.  That is irrelevant for the both of us.  Important is who takes care of it.

Second, I just got back from the vet - nothing serious found.  Hmph.  However, I did get to see the damn thing with a glass rod up it's ass, and that was worth at least one pile of crap.

At the end of the day, the cat is not the issue.  The issue is the roommate not taking responsibility for an animal which she wants. 

As to giving it away, I hesitate to give it to a shelter, because they don't need an animal from me.  They have enough from other idiots. 

Yours,


benji

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 2:58:06 PM   
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Status: offline 		Benji, simply tell her that you will not be paying for the upkeep of the cat. That way it's clear to both of you where you each stand.

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 3:44:04 PM   
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Status: offline 		The cat's human is your employee?

So, get the cat sorted and deduct the vet's bill from her salary - a little per week if necessary.

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 4:17:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Ohhh, I forgot she's his assistant. And she told him to take the cat to the vet. And he did.

Benji, Benji, Benji. We're going to have to debrief you from those obedience classes.

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 4:56:37 PM   
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Status: offline 		You've got a cat shitting all over your place, and you're worried about money? 

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RE: Cat etiquette - 1/3/2008 5:02:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		I agree with deducting her pay to cover the vet costs. It's too bad the vet found nothing wrong, jeez I mean it is too bad the vet found no reason for the pooping problem. As another said, no cow milk. I'd feed it only dry food and at night I'd lock it in a room with a tile floor (with litter box).Is the kitty using the litter box at all or is it all um, free flow? If it isnt using it at all then I think it needs to be shown repeatedly where the box is. Is the box inaccessable? I had to set out 2 litter boxes for my antique feline. Possibly it is a litter type issue, some hate clumping litter and just won't use it.Keep an eye on houseplants, often a kitty will end up using that and killing the plants. Good luck and I hope the poor kitty feels better. They usually hate to be messy that way.

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