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b4blkm -> bottoming (1/3/2008 6:26:30 PM)
i am fairly new at this and wonder what the term "bottoming" means..

MasterFireMaam -> RE: bottoming (1/3/2008 6:55:50 PM)
For many of us, it describes a physical role you play in a scene. Some equate this with being submissive, others don't. Master Fire

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: bottoming (1/3/2008 7:05:42 PM)
Bottoming is often the "recipient" in a scene. I generally define it as "someone who engages in a specific limited short term authority transfer as the one without authority for the purpose of direct enjoyment"

antipode -> RE: bottoming (1/3/2008 7:34:07 PM)
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bottoming

Suleiman -> RE: bottoming (1/3/2008 9:48:02 PM)
First, a basic disclaimer: There have been many many many (waaaayyyyy to F!ing many) arguments regarding the meaning of words like top, dominant, master/mistress, slave, submissive, bottom, et al, ad nauseum. There is no absolute, hard and fast answer to this question, because there is no monolithic language of BDSM, not a grand high council of kinksters who make the rules and hand them down from on high like Moses in chaps. Ahem. That being said... So far as I know, the term "Bottom" is derived from (vanilla) gay culture of the 60s and 70s, referring to someone who was on the bottom - that is to say, someone who was getting fucked, rather than doing the fucking The fucker, of course, wold be a top.). I believe "catcher" is the modern equivalent. In the leather scene of the 70s, bottom became synonmous with submissive, and this particular use of the term has crept into mainstream kinkster terminology. Currently, the typical use of the adjective bottom in a BDSM context is to denote a person who is a sexual submissive in bed, but who does not live the "lifestyle" per se.

AquaticSub -> RE: bottoming (1/3/2008 9:59:58 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: b4blkm i am fairly new at this and wonder what the term "bottoming" means.. I define it as "being the bottom in the scene", ie. the one being whipped. For me, it does not imply anything about being dominant, submissive, or otherwise.

ArgoGeorgia -> RE: bottoming (1/4/2008 7:57:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: AquaticSub I define it as "being the bottom in the scene", ie. the one being whipped. For me, it does not imply anything about being dominant, submissive, or otherwise. Agreed. Although I'm a Dom, I do occasionally enjoy bottoming in a scene (why should a sub have all the fun? lol). While some may disagree, this definitely does not make me submissive, because I cannot and will not submit For what it's worth, to me submission is more of a mental state of being, while bottoming is playing a role in a scene. Some may call that splitting hairs, others may call me a switch. That's fine, we all have opinions!

juliaoceania -> RE: bottoming (1/4/2008 8:04:10 AM)
To me "bottoming" is an action, such as "topping" is... these are not really roles, but the action of being on the receiving end of sadomasocism or bondage. On the other hand I would describe a "bottom" as someone that enjoys being the recipient in BDSM play. It is mainly a sexual role and there is no authority transfer because a bottom can direct the top in how they want the scene conducted... Just my view on it

b4blkm -> RE: bottoming (1/4/2008 5:44:39 PM)
ty i assume in this situation i was directing from the bottom....perhaps thats what my Master meant..i have much to learn..

daddysliloneds -> RE: bottoming (1/4/2008 7:00:25 PM)
if he told you that you were topping from the bottom, he's implying that you aren't giving over control and/or are directing him as to what is or isn't going to happen instead of complying as if you were in a submissive state of mind. quote: ORIGINAL: b4blkm ty i assume in this situation i was directing from the bottom....perhaps thats what my Master meant..i have much to learn..

b4blkm -> RE: bottoming (1/4/2008 7:13:07 PM)
ty i get it ...now.

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