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Lordandmaster -> RE: What should I do? (1/5/2008 4:39:45 PM)
Right, I have nothing to apologize for, and you're out of control. Besides, what are you even complaining about? You DID say it. Was this you, or was this just someone hacked into your account? quote: The fact that your master has you trolling for others on his behalf is likely sending a message that he's looking to "trade up" at the first opportunity.

juliaoceania -> RE: What should I do? (1/5/2008 5:06:33 PM)
quote: It's merely my opinion based on the limited information available. It's not possible I'm right? You actually know what this particular dom's motivation is? Finally, if a dom isn't making or asking his sub to troll on his/their behalf, then the sub might logically be perceived has having quite some nerve in deciding to introduce strangers to their relationship, no? And if yes, who really has control here? I just wanted to point out that.... It is not nice to jump to the worst negative conclusion when you have not enough information to make any sort of judgment call on what is going on this this particular case.... And there is a third scenario.. the sub wants to dom a female and is bisexual, so her dominant allows her to "troll" for playmates. I have read more than one submissive that is allowed to have playmates, and their dom doesn't even interact with them... two separate relationships. So no, it is not either the dom has the sub troll, or the sub is topping from the bottom or being sneaky in some way, or over stepping her bounds... And get this, there are several couples that have poly-relationships that have not "traded" up on their partners. There are other people that think of the third as "just a pussy" and can tell the difference between a partner that they love and a piece of ass... just something you may want to consider... And this is from the perspective of someone who never has any intention of "trolling" for my Daddy, but my experiences in this world tell me people will not usually "trade up" because a piece of convenient ass comes along. Most men do not leave their SO for an easy piece of tail... people leave relationships because they are not happy in them. Most of us are not as shallow and one dimensional that we cannot separate sex from an emotional bond, and once we get to a certain age we tend to value different things like our history with someone, the times we share with another human being. The triumphs and challenges a relationship has overcome... and frankly, your "view" tends to negate people as being one dimensional, valuing others based upon just the genitalia.... In my experience people just don't work that way

HaveRopeWillBind -> RE: What should I do? (1/5/2008 5:13:36 PM)
Talk to your dominant about this. It is up to him/her to decide if he/she wishes direct contact from others. If so then it's not an issue for you to worry about. If he/she prefers to be introduced to new contacts through you, then he/she should say so whenever anyone attempts direct contact.

Focus50 -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 1:42:42 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster Right, I have nothing to apologize for, and you're out of control. Besides, what are you even complaining about? You DID say it. Was this you, or was this just someone hacked into your account? quote: The fact that your master has you trolling for others on his behalf is likely sending a message that he's looking to "trade up" at the first opportunity. Lmao, that's your "evidence"??? Excuse my "Aussie hayseed" ignorance here and I'll gladly defer to your apparent expertise on the matter but doesn't 'pimp' imply there's some form of financial transaction involved for a very limited period of time? And you find that inference in the passage you've quoted? Thin mate; nano thin.... So you'd be what, about 14yo? Focus.

mons -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 1:50:12 AM)
greetings now come on really you bring them to there to what you called seduce i call a rotten thing to do to another woman. and you become mad when they do not want you as a sexual thing. sorry i do not feel sorry nor mad this want him not you and i am truly sorry this hurts you but your are setting yourself up for this. try to just keep him for yourself, do you really need another woman or is this his ideal now that is just me asking a quaetion i have nothing against you kink but llisten to you heart woman can be very greedy mons and take care i wish you well

Focus50 -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 2:49:48 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: It's merely my opinion based on the limited information available. It's not possible I'm right? You actually know what this particular dom's motivation is? Finally, if a dom isn't making or asking his sub to troll on his/their behalf, then the sub might logically be perceived has having quite some nerve in deciding to introduce strangers to their relationship, no? And if yes, who really has control here? Whoa, nearly missed this without my trademark green.... quote: I just wanted to point out that.... It is not nice to jump to the worst negative conclusion when you have not enough information to make any sort of judgment call on what is going on this this particular case.... And I'd like to point out that your joining the fray wreaks of deja vu - of another plodding dom to the rescue because he too suffered from premature oral ejaculation.... Much like Lordandmaster, his trigger-happy actions were apparently nothing to own up to, either. Anyway, since you have bought in.... quote: And there is a third scenario.. the sub wants to dom a female and is bisexual, so her dominant allows her to "troll" for playmates. I have read more than one submissive that is allowed to have playmates, and their dom doesn't even interact with them... two separate relationships. So no, it is not either the dom has the sub troll, or the sub is topping from the bottom or being sneaky in some way, or over stepping her bounds... You got this scenario from the OP? Here's a line from the OP.... "I introduce them to him, as a just in case we find her interesting and we want to try and seduce her." I draw your attention to the word "we" (twice) - nuff said? quote: And get this, there are several couples that have poly-relationships that have not "traded" up on their partners. There are other people that think of the third as "just a pussy" and can tell the difference between a partner that they love and a piece of ass... just something you may want to consider... Me consider? Wouldn't it be more prudent to start your own thread to introduce scenarios not in evidence here? quote: And this is from the perspective of someone who never has any intention of "trolling" for my Daddy, but my experiences in this world tell me people will not usually "trade up" because a piece of convenient ass comes along. And I coulda swore I read a post to the effect that "trading up" is precisely what happened to the author.... Do I really hafta go search? quote: Most men do not leave their SO for an easy piece of tail... people leave relationships because they are not happy in them. Most of us are not as shallow and one dimensional that we cannot separate sex from an emotional bond, and once we get to a certain age we tend to value different things like our history with someone, the times we share with another human being. The triumphs and challenges a relationship has overcome... and frankly, your "view" tends to negate people as being one dimensional, valuing others based upon just the genitalia.... In my experience people just don't work that way I'm one of those prudes whose never indulged in casual sex just for physical sensation etc. I can see how you might label me as "one dimensional" for it but shallow? It's fine by me if you have indulged but let's not pretend that casual sex qualifies one as enlightened, noble, pious or deep etc.... Julia, I've long since moved on from our previous differences. Sad that the vast majority of your post is irrelevant here and has the aroma of ulterior motive.... Focus.

marieToo -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 6:24:38 AM)
I don't know what message you are giving these girls. From your op you sound very much like you are out for a 'piece of ass' for both your Dom and your own experimentation. Which is fine, but then you should be upfront about that with the potential pieces of ass, rather than introducing them to your Master, so that they can be unwittingly sized-up as potential meat. Of course this would only be if you found her "interesting enough" to "seduce" in the first place. Somehow this doesn't come off as honorable, which is most likely going to cause these potential girls to get mixed messages about yours and your masters intentions. The process of bringing in a third partner, whether for casual sex or something more serious, should be done with care and honesty and concern for the feelings of all people involved, not with some cavalier attitude and careless disregard for the person you are trying to bait. You sound like you're 'trolling' to get something for nothing, and then getting pissy when you turn up sludge instead of a pearl. Shallow begets shallow. If you want to find someone of substance, then behave as such.

DesFIP -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 9:24:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: backseatbebe and DesFIP, im wondering how is the pontential sub wasting their time if they talk to BOTH the sub and Dom, sure they need to talk to him but why ignore her? Because the new girl has already talked to the op and gotten enough info about her to know that she's trolling for a third without being upfront about it. Which would turn off any honorable person, btw, so the op is by trying to be sneaky, deliberately picking people who are as rude as she is. But if they're also only in this for nsa, one time only, then they may not need more info about the op to know if she fits their very low qualifications. Therefore, they're moving on to find out basic info about the dom before wasting anymore time. Why spend six months becoming friends with the op and then meet the dom to immediately announce she wouldn't fuck him. The op passed the first test, so now the third wants to see if the dom passes the first test before she invests anymore time? The same way many people here insist on meeting within two weeks to see if there's any basic compatibility before wasting more time. And the third has every right to want to do things her way.

Lordandmaster -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 9:25:18 AM)
First, stop with the fucking insults. First you tried to intimidate my slave when she disagreed with you, and now you've responded by repeatedly insulting me. Second, if you don't know what the word "pimp" means and how it's used, just sit back and watch instead of running into a discussion headfirst and putting your foot in your mouth. Now back off and go bother someone else. Go on, you can have the last word, and after that I expect you not to try to intimidate Lamspeach when she expresses an opinion. Bye bye. quote: ORIGINAL: Focus50 quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster Right, I have nothing to apologize for, and you're out of control. Besides, what are you even complaining about? You DID say it. Was this you, or was this just someone hacked into your account? quote: The fact that your master has you trolling for others on his behalf is likely sending a message that he's looking to "trade up" at the first opportunity. Lmao, that's your "evidence"??? Excuse my "Aussie hayseed" ignorance here and I'll gladly defer to your apparent expertise on the matter but doesn't 'pimp' imply there's some form of financial transaction involved for a very limited period of time? And you find that inference in the passage you've quoted? Thin mate; nano thin.... So you'd be what, about 14yo?

OsideGirl -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 11:39:54 AM)
Well.....as a submissive playing with another submissive and a Dominant, who would you be most concerned about? Personally, I never deal with another submissive when it comes to playing with another Dominant. I want to know about the person I have to trust with my life. The submissive isn't the person who will be tying me up and beating the snot out of me. I have to know that I'm going to be okay with that person. I don't consider the current submissive a good judge. I've seen too many submissives blinded by the power exchange and unable to look past their rose colored glasses to see that the guy they're with is an abusive ass.

juliaoceania -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 2:05:13 PM)
quote: I'm one of those prudes whose never indulged in casual sex just for physical sensation etc. I can see how you might label me as "one dimensional" for it but shallow? It's fine by me if you have indulged but let's not pretend that casual sex qualifies one as enlightened, noble, pious or deep etc.... Julia, I've long since moved on from our previous differences. Sad that the vast majority of your post is irrelevant here and has the aroma of ulterior motive.... I do not care what you do or if you are a "prude". I never labeled you anything, it is you that have said that people who do not subscribe to your way of being are "pimping" and " trolling". You have no idea of my sexual history, how many partners I have had, whether or not I take sex casually.... please do not assume that you do just because I do not think that everyone that does things differently than me is somehow trying to "trade up", pimping or trolling. The reference to my casual sex (that I do not engage in) is just a passive aggressive insult... why not just come out and call me a slut? I have no grudge against you, but I sometimes I seriously wonder why you project your way of dominating on to every other relationship, and on the basis of a small number of posts you will take and judge things like you are Solomon... you aren't, you are not infallible, and your judgments are often unkind.

juliaoceania -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 2:07:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: OsideGirl Well.....as a submissive playing with another submissive and a Dominant, who would you be most concerned about? Personally, I never deal with another submissive when it comes to playing with another Dominant. I want to know about the person I have to trust with my life. The submissive isn't the person who will be tying me up and beating the snot out of me. I have to know that I'm going to be okay with that person. I don't consider the current submissive a good judge. I've seen too many submissives blinded by the power exchange and unable to look past their rose colored glasses to see that the guy they're with is an abusive ass. Excellent points

Focus50 -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 2:28:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster First, stop with the fucking insults. First you tried to intimidate my slave when she disagreed with you, and now you've responded by repeatedly insulting me. 1. Wrong; I responded to unfounded, BS allegations - particularly to the 'pimp' comment, which I never even made. And btw, that's the very comment that got you sticking your beak in originally - take it up with whoever DID post it. If you don't like being reprimanded, then stop butting into things that do NOT concern you. quote: Second, if you don't know what the word "pimp" means and how it's used, just sit back and watch instead of running into a discussion headfirst and putting your foot in your mouth. 2. I'm familiar with the latter half of your comment here; they call that 'transference'.... But that first part? I mean I am being a good sport here; am sitting back.... and I'm watching.... and...? quote: Now back off and go bother someone else. Go on, you can have the last word, and after that I expect you not to try to intimidate Lamspeach when she expresses an opinion. Bye bye. 3. Hmmm, again with the transference.... If Lamspeach is so delicate, then she oughtn't be taking liberties with what another poster said, and particularly what they did NOT say. It's ok if you've got more dribble to accuse me of, I won't hold that "last word" comment against you. Focus.

Focus50 -> RE: What should I do? (1/6/2008 2:40:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania I never labeled you anything, it is you that have said that people who do not subscribe to your way of being are "pimping" and " trolling". Julia, this truly is getting tiresome.... Please have the decency to at least quote where I said the OP was "pimping" before continuing with these unfounded accusations. And I've already seen Lordandmaster's "effort" in that regard; do better than that.... Focus.

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