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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 1:55:06 PM   
SailingBum


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ORIGINAL: ghitaPVH

No, this isnt me. Yes, this is a very real person. I dont know how to answer them because Ive never been in this situation. Please help.Ive given him Screw the Roses, Different loving, and SM101. Somehow its not helping.

So, say you're this total (well, mostly) vanilla person who gets drug to a few play parties, so you are aware of BDSM but still not really into it and never took the time to really learn anything other than what you saw happen at an occasional play party, then all of a sudden one day you find yourself dating a total pain slut and they want you to tie them up and spank them so you do because you want to make her happy but every time you try you get these awful feelings that you arent supposed to be doing this to someone you care about. So you try to casually play with others to learn more and yo realize that you have no problems hurting other girls, just the girl you care about so now shes mad because she sees you do all these things to other chicks but you refuse to do it to her when she's the one who really wants it and  doesnt understand why you wont. So how do you get past that feeling? How do you make yourself realize that it isnt abuse if she's asking for it and obviously enjoys it? How do you keep yourself from wincing everytime she winces?

ghita~
 
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ghitaPVH
Thank you all for your comments...some of them are very helpful for both me and him...

Cause for those of you who didnt realize (yes, some of you did, thanks for noticing)....person mentioned in OP is my Sir. 

 



I have to ask what your motive for lying in this forum???  My best guess is that your ashamed to admit that you man makes you feel inadequate .  Some ppl here give a great amount of thought and spend a lot of time in a attempt to help others.  You waste our time and resources with this "i have a freind" bull shit.  The grow up forum is down the hall and to the left!

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:02:39 PM   
Kalista07


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How i have tried to stay the hell away from any idiotic crap that you post...Why? Because that's exactly what i think it is: simple bullshit...pure and simple bullshit!!! i don't know who you think you are to come on a site such as this one and tell someone that they've wasted our "time" or our "resources" or more so that they should go somewhere else and post...But whoever it is you need to get the fuck over it...you are nothing more than an arrogant, abusive, bully......Who ever died and left you God, should be reincarnated just so we can all beat the crap out of him/her...
Get over yourself...If you don't like what people post....don't freaking read it.....
get a grip...
get a life....
get a clue....
Damn, get something....


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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:11:26 PM   
Jeffff


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Jeff

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:14:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kalista07
If you don't like what people post....don't freaking read it.....


Priceless, just priceless.

In some ways I have to agree with SailingBum's post.  I myself wondered why she specifically wrote "No this isn't me" and then later on admitted it sort of was.  Sure, technically she didn't lie, the person she claimed "isn't me" wasn't her (it was her man), but she was the female lead in the drama.  No big deal in the grand scheme of things but perhaps she either shouldn't have made an effort to play the masquerade, or not out herself afterwards.

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:22:20 PM   
Jeffff


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Priceless, just priceless.

In some ways I have to agree with SailingBum's post.  I myself wondered why she specifically wrote "No this isn't me" and then later on admitted it sort of was.  Sure, technically she didn't lie, the person she claimed "isn't me" wasn't her (it was her man), but she was the female lead in the drama.  No big deal in the grand scheme of things but perhaps she either shouldn't have made an effort to play the masquerade, or not out herself afterwards.
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Why?....why would any of us really care...it is a thread on the internet. She has a Master in her life, she needs only please him.

Jeff

ok I fucked up the damn quote thing....My response starts at Why...lol

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:35:42 PM   
CalifChick


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Some of us like Ghita and care about Ghita and think that if she feels she needs to ask a question somewhat "anonymously", then we will not judge her for it.  And perhaps she outed herself because she felt that caring and compassion from some of us. 

I'll take ten Ghitas over one Subblier-Than-Thou any day.

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:37:25 PM   
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Some of us like Ghita and care about Ghita and think that if she feels she needs to ask a question somewhat "anonymously", then we will not judge her for it.  And perhaps she outed herself because she felt that caring and compassion from some of us. 

I'll take ten Ghitas over one Subblier-Than-Thou any day.

Cali



10 Ghitas might be a few to many...can I have 5 Ghitas?......and the rest in cash?

Jeff

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:41:43 PM   
CalifChick


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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

I'll take ten Ghitas over one Subblier-Than-Thou any day.



10 Ghitas might be a few to many...can I have 5 Ghitas?......and the rest in cash?



Jeff, dear, if you'll notice, I said that *I* would take ten Ghitas, not you.  So if you only want to give me five Ghitas, then yes, you may give me the rest in cash.  Small bills please, non-sequential serial numbers.

Cali

< Message edited by CalifChick -- 1/7/2008 2:44:30 PM >

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:44:43 PM   
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ORIGINAL: CalifChick

FR~~~~~~

Some of us like Ghita and care about Ghita and think that if she feels she needs to ask a question somewhat "anonymously", then we will not judge her for it.  And perhaps she outed herself because she felt that caring and compassion from some of us. 

I'll take ten Ghitas over one Subblier-Than-Thou any day.

Cali



Maybe she was ashamed for making such a ridiculous, nonsensical post.  She deserves the criticism.

I feel sorry for the dude.  He doesn't like kicking her ass.  She wants it.  I would kick her ass to the curb and find someone I was more compatible with.

Common sense means nothing out here. We reward those that lack it the most, apparently that is the strength of "our community."....lol.

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:45:26 PM   
bandit25


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Status: offline 		Yeah, I gotta second Kalista.  What the hell?  You don't wanna answer, then don't.  Simple.

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 2:58:55 PM   
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ORIGINAL: bandit25

Yeah, I gotta second Kalista.  What the hell?  You don't wanna answer, then don't.  Simple.


As one of the "undead" that haunt the halls of CM....Maybe I should not respond to peoples posts that I find to be idiotic....Perhaps if I did I would not be a ghost.

Sailingbum is correct in dragging her ass out on the carpet...(at least someone is willing to do so...I'm sure she is loving every minute of it, since she ain't getting this kind of shit at home)

Anyone else would be criticized.  It's nice to know she is happy at home in a completely fulfilling relationship.

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 3:04:51 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		Is it just me or does everyone sit on the edge of their seat with anticipation as to what domiguy's really posted???

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 3:08:15 PM   
lauren0221


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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

Is it just me or does everyone sit on the edge of their seat with anticipation as to what domiguy's really posted???


I do too.

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 3:12:42 PM   
Jeffff


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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

Is it just me or does everyone sit on the edge of their seat with anticipation as to what domiguy's really posted???


Me too.........I would sign a petion to get him off moderation...........but ya get the feeling it wouldn't last long...:)

Jeff

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 4:55:51 PM   
Kalista07


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Status: offline 		oh yeah...Jeff, i'm sure as our one true Lord and Savior anything with Your signature on it would make the mods stop right away.....Because afterall, they know who You are....dont they??

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 5:12:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

oh yeah...Jeff, i'm sure as our one true Lord and Savior anything with Your signature on it would make the mods stop right away.....Because afterall, they know who You are....dont they??


On your knees when you say that, bitch.  Show proper respect to the One Twue Lord and Savior.

Cali


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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 5:19:37 PM   
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It could be he has something akin to madonna/whore complex?  Not in the 'tradtional' way though if that makes any sense - just similar?  And/or he simply has an emotional connection with you which he doesn't have with the others.  No amount of books will make him understand until he understands that he hurts you more by withdrawing (best word I can insert right now) and treating you differently and why he feels he its wrong.
 
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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/7/2008 6:14:21 PM   
SailingBum


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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

SailingBum....SailingBum....SailingBum.....
How i have tried to stay the hell away from any idiotic crap that you post...Why? Because that's exactly what i think it is: simple bullshit...pure and simple bullshit!!! i don't know who you think you are to come on a site such as this one and tell someone that they've wasted our "time" or our "resources" or more so that they should go somewhere else and post...But whoever it is you need to get the fuck over it...you are nothing more than an arrogant, abusive, bully......Who ever died and left you God, should be reincarnated just so we can all beat the crap out of him/her...
Get over yourself...If you don't like what people post....don't freaking read it.....
get a grip...
get a life....
get a clue....
Damn, get something....



Since when is it ok to lie???

Well call me a arrogant bully if I expect ppl who post on here to take responsibility for their actions and not this high school drama crap.  I suspected I'd get flamed for my remarks.  I guess as long as ppl agree with you the forums are ok.  However when ppl don't agree you start name calling.  Tis ok I can handle when ppl don't agree with me.  I find the name calling boorish and immature.  I never said I don't like reading the forums.

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/8/2008 3:46:14 AM   
SailingBum


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ORIGINAL: Kalista07

SailingBum....SailingBum....SailingBum.....
How i have tried to stay the hell away from any idiotic crap that you post...Why? Because that's exactly what i think it is: simple bullshit...pure and simple bullshit!!! i don't know who you think you are to come on a site such as this one and tell someone that they've wasted our "time" or our "resources" or more so that they should go somewhere else and post...But whoever it is you need to get the fuck over it...you are nothing more than an arrogant, abusive, bully......Who ever died and left you God, should be reincarnated just so we can all beat the crap out of him/her...
Get over yourself...If you don't like what people post....don't freaking read it.....
get a grip...
get a life....
get a clue....
Damn, get something....



I remember you now I had to go look it up.  I alluded to you being a whiner in a post a couple weeks back, that explains your venom towards me.  Get over it! I did.  I am clueless why someone would lie or defend a lier in a retaliative anonymous forum .

BadOne

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RE: getting past that "omg this is abuse" fee... - 1/8/2008 6:43:00 AM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		I never thought I would say this...but I disagree with domi........people do things for reasons known only to themselves. Ghitas posts have always been rather well thought out and not whiney. I have no problem with it

Jeff

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