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Odd emails...... - 8/23/2005 4:30:03 PM   
MsStressed


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Status: offline 		I got the oddest email from a man who claims he wants to be my sissy maid........the thing is.......his profile claims he is a Dominant Male. Sorry if I seem a bit perplexed.
I was wondering does this happen often? Or did this poor Dom's profile somehow get hijacked?
MsStressed
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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/23/2005 4:33:56 PM   
saret


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStressed

I got the oddest email from a man who claims he wants to be my sissy maid........the thing is.......his profile claims he is a Dominant Male. Sorry if I seem a bit perplexed.
I was wondering does this happen often? Or did this poor Dom's profile somehow get hijacked?
MsStressed


Sometimes even extremely dominant people like to switch once in awhile ... it can be relaxing to just let go of all that tight-wound control for a little.

Or he could just be looking for any kinky sex he can find.

-S-

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/23/2005 4:44:21 PM   
Nuke718


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Status: offline 		Maybe he's just opportunistic about getting his freak on, and his profile is innacurate. Or maybe he saw something in your profile he was interested in, and asked for it.

One of the reasons I label myself as a switch is because I know and admit both aspects of play entice me. But I knew an otherwise totally dominant "Master" that liked to spend the occasional evening with his female sub doing him anally with a stainless steel strapon. It didn't alter the rest of their dynamic a bit.

My question is this, did his request interest you? If it did write him and discuss your thoughts with him. If not, just delete and continue your search. Either way, happy hunting!

Nuke }:-

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/23/2005 4:59:14 PM   
MistressGrace07


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Status: offline 		yeah.. I get a lot of Doms who are closet subs... I usually write back and go.. "ummmm... okay? what do you really want?"



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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/23/2005 5:27:52 PM   
LadyBeckett


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Status: offline 		Encountering them on the internet may make it seem a bit strange even though in life we have encountered this situation who knows how many times without remark. I believe the reason may be due to the much smaller scale, and likely a much more intimate circle of association.

Like Nuke says, if it is something that interests you then respond. Otherwise decline politely or simply delete the email.

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/23/2005 9:15:26 PM   
subfever


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStressed

I got the oddest email from a man who claims he wants to be my sissy maid........the thing is.......his profile claims he is a Dominant Male. Sorry if I seem a bit perplexed.
I was wondering does this happen often? Or did this poor Dom's profile somehow get hijacked?
MsStressed


Maybe he has more than one profile here, and simply forgot which one he was on when he wrote! ... lol

subfever



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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 2:38:12 AM   
onceburned


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Status: offline 		The change-about of that email writer may actually reflect his insecurity. FemDom/malesub is contrary to traditional values in our culture. Things have changed to a degree, but there is still a residual feeling that guys should be in charge in a relationship. So maybe his profile claims he is a dom because he couldn't bear to say otherwise.

I do not understand the sissy maid mindset so I can't explore it, but I think it is decidedly not 'in charge'. Perhaps the writer of the email felt safe to admit his cravings in private, but doesn't have the courage to say so in public.

Or perhaps it is as the others say - that he is just seeking kinky sex and will use whatever road gets him there.

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 5:53:09 AM   
lonewolf05


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStressed

I got the oddest email from a man who claims he wants to be my sissy maid........the thing is.......his profile claims he is a Dominant Male. Sorry if I seem a bit perplexed.
I was wondering does this happen often? Or did this poor Dom's profile somehow get hijacked?
MsStressed

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my 1st comment/question is....did You ask HIM yet about it?

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 6:07:44 AM   
FTopinMichigan


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quote:

ORIGINAL: MsStressed

I got the oddest email from a man who claims he wants to be my sissy maid........the thing is.......his profile claims he is a Dominant Male. Sorry if I seem a bit perplexed.
I was wondering does this happen often? Or did this poor Dom's profile somehow get hijacked?


I think there are many Doms that enjoy the "other side" of things, but most aren't confident enough in themselves to admit it.

My favored partner is the Dom that bottoms (although sissy maid is a bit over the top in my book...that would be a sissy maid, "playing" at being a Dom...as I see it).

I enjoy a man that has the confidence to admit and enjoy both sides. A dominant man that bottoms is the sexiest, in my eyes. (Crossdressing is a hard limit for me, and I can't fathom a Dom CD, although I'm sure there are some.)

I received an e-mail the other day from a man admitting to wanting to "submit," but the profile was of a Dom seeking a submissive lady. I just responded that based on the e-mail offer, his profile was VERY contrary. Several days later, I received an e-mail from the same man, with a sub name (SN only changed to replace "Dom" with "sub" in the name...same numbers, etc.), and he sent almost the same e-mail, with his offer to submit.

If a person is a switch...why not admit it, and enjoy it all! (I'm sure that's another thread somewhere. <g>)

I take his approach, and seperate profiles (without explanation), as a full out-and-out lie, to me, and to all the other women he's making contact with at this time.

This CD Dom seems to be doing the same thing.

I do feel that many hide their own interests, due to reactions from the community. A Dom that subs now and then is frowned upon by men and women alike...so he hides (or protects) that side of himself.

I have no problem with him having the two profiles, but if he wants to be successful in meeting a Domme/Top, then he should be up front in his initial contact, to explain both sides of himself.

Dishonesty, right from the start...is no start at all.

K

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 9:35:21 AM   
pandora29


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Status: offline 		You got to the issue before i did MsStressed,i have had the same thing but this Dom decided that he could make me a sub and e-mailed me with a list of demands...how rude.I believe i handled it well enough because for some reason he sent me a poem...i don't get it... is that normal?

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 11:11:39 AM   
MsStressed


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Status: offline 		I wrote back to him:
Your profile says Dom
good luck
it really had me all befuddled

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 11:15:01 AM   
MsStressed


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Status: offline 		I can honestly say that I felt this person did not even bother to read what I was looking for..........my profile Lesbian.........he wanted me to have my man f**k him...........duh I do not have a man LOL. So the kinky sex part.......yep I think thats what he's looking for, but only on fridays........ thank you all so much for the replies. Have a great day and stay safe.
MsStressed

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 11:31:49 AM   
MsStressed


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Status: offline 		Pandora29, I sometimes think they have no clue how to read a profile. I realize we all have our different kinks. But I personally look to see if there is any compatibility with the kinks first. A sub offering sex to me is wasting his time. That is not my kink. As for trying to make a Domme be a sub..........Apparently you handled him just fine. Thank you for the reply and sad as it is, I am glad I am not the only one getting odd emails.
MsStressed

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 11:45:41 AM   
fastlane


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Status: offline 		My profile states Dom and 95% of the time I am and would like to have a 24/7 submissive, however, there is a Mistess I serve on rare occassions that lives in another state and I find it quite exhilirating, as a change. Perhaps there where sissy boy is cuming from?

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 12:20:14 PM   
MsStressed


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Status: offline 		Fastlane, I truly do not get that impression of him. I understand wanting to cut loose. I really think he is looking for a quickie. I am not the Woman for that kinda stuff. Unlike you, I am gay LOL. I have read alot of your posts, you crack me up. Have a great day and enjoy your subspace whenever you can. We all play by our own rules, at least I do.
MsStressed (wanting calgon to take me away)

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 6:07:05 PM   
LadyBeckett


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Status: offline 		There are so many who will write that are just hitting in hopes of scoring some kinky sex that it's hard to tell them apart from those who are sincerely looking for a Domme with whom they may have a good D/s chemistry. One way would be whether or not they actually read and complied with the guidelines set forth in your profile. Reading further in the thread it is clear that dom didn't. Clearly a strike against him. Unfortunately you are going to encounter a few like that.

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RE: Odd emails...... - 8/24/2005 8:36:05 PM   
pandora29


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Status: offline 		I hope i don't get many of those alot.It's hard enough gong through the mail i have,i finally just had to make myself a QR that i hold on my computer.I am like you MsStressed,i don't want sex i have a g/f for that and it says nowhere that i will have sex with them so i don't get it.

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