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OsideGirl -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 9:42:05 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Evility If that happened what would that say about your relationship? That it is only strong enough to hold together as long as there are no external forces working against it? This is the crux of the matter. If the relationship isn't working correctly, that makes the leaving for the third person a symptom, not a cause. If you list a third person as a hard limit, you still won't prevent your SO from leaving you for someone else. We've had three that have tried to come between Master and I. Master showed them the door, and they're not welcome back.

CalifChick -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 10:05:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 You intorduced a third party into your relationship and your sub or Master left you for this other person? What did you do? quote: It is a hard limit for me too. That is why i am so grateful that my Owner, does not want that type of dynamic. i believe in the old saying. You play with fire you get burned. Do you ever wonder about the motivations of people who post seemingly earnest questions that turn out to be rhetorical questions, just so they can come back and say, "Our relationship is so perfect we would never do this." A stone's throw from "subblier than you." Perhaps those people could be more direct and just say, "I'm confident this is a hard limit for us, but I was wondering about it for other people... has this ever happened to you?" But I'm sure that is not as much fun. Cali

KatyLied -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 10:09:32 AM)
quote: You intorduced a third party into your relationship and your sub or Master left you for this other person? What did you do? Well there's only one thing you can do and it is silly to ponder what it is. You go on with your life. You had a life before you had a master (hopefully) and you will continue to have one after.

velvetears -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 10:19:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 You intorduced a third party into your relationship and your sub or Master left you for this other person? What did you do? What can you do? All sorts of emotional upheaval will ensue but in the end all that crying and regretting etc won't amount to a hill of beans. Cut them out like a cancer from your life, get yourself some chemo so no cells survive and hopefully go into remission.

azropedntied -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 10:34:22 AM)
Has it ever happened to me ? YES !does it suck Yes the whole deal sucked . Did i learn and grow from it Yes -and i am better for it .Although i have built security walls for self protection due to the experiance it also made me look harder at what and who i exchange with .It was so not a swinger thing - more of a poly type thing .It would have been nice to have just read about this type of experiance and learned from it VS living it and learning first hand , either way it was good for growth .

DanesWood -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 10:52:45 AM)
[quote]ORIGINAL: Tantriqu I learned a very important lesson in My first threesome: I had a very good, smart, eager pup who was physically not very attractive: geeky even. W/we began to include one of his friends, who was extremely attractive, and I had some amazing orgasms. However, the geeky nice smart guy said he couldn't handle it, and I made a mistake I've never repeated: I left him for cute'n'stupid. I became almost embarrassed to introduce c'n's to My vanilla friends: he was that dumb. And without the smart guy in bed with U/us, I realised he was, and is to this day, the worst lover I'd ever had. So: the lesson: don't start a threesome unless you feel you can afford to lose both. and NEVER, EVER fuck cute 'n' stupid. So let it be written, so let it be done. [/quote] And similar here, although never dumped geeky for dumb but fuckable. I have always had an eye for pretty boys, never last long though as they're almost without exception not only boring but self centred and crap lovers be it Vanilla or Chocolate.

PsyVamp -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 11:16:34 AM)
Good advice quote: So: the lesson: don't start a threesome unless you feel you can afford to lose both. quote: ORIGINAL: Tantriqu I became almost embarrassed to introduce c'n's to My vanilla friends: he was that dumb. And its not just cute 'n' stupid that can't be introduced to the friends, unfortunately. I have a habit of being attracted to the "scruffy stray" types and for what its worth, I haven't found one that any of my friends would consider "good enough" for me...lol, believe me, that sets the tongues wagging.

slavetaboo -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 1:18:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Daddysredhead quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania To be honest, I would never introduced an unattached available straight submissive into my bedroom with my Daddy.. hard limit. I might go for an attached borrowed submissive, or a submissive that is more into being sexual with me than my Daddy, but I would not want a sub that wanted to be dommed by my Daddy involved with our play.. I have my own demons with that idea, and I can't compromise on it. Yes, oh yes... I agree with you here, unfortunately it's from experience. Sigh... One of Daddy's old play partners met up with us for a drink and for the two of us to meet and hang out. Everything was ok for a while, we left the restaurant, started fooling around a bit, and then ended up having some private time together, with Daddy watching. It was still kind of ok until he went to the restroom and she looked at me and said, "I was his baby girl first, you know?" I was struck dumb and thought I was going to be sick. I didn't have a chance to tell Daddy what she had said when he walked back in the room because I felt like I was in a dream - a nightmare. He knew that something was wrong, but I couldn't speak. She loved it and I finally shook it off and curled myself around his arm and smiled. He had no idea what happened, and when I smiled, he thought that he was just imagining that something had been wrong when he entered the room. We had all carpooled together and I had no private time to tell him what she had said until the next day, and I was hysterical. He wasn't able to understand me through the emotional sobs, etc., but knew that something had gone terribly wrong. It took a lot of time to rebuild that trust and to let him know that I really wasn't comfy getting together with any of his past play partners, etc. because I couldn't risk the emotional upheaval that I experienced that night. What really got to me was that later, she began showing up at places he frequented, calling him, texting him, etc. I told him that I could not deal with this and that, with all due respect, he needed to make this stop. He left a message that he needed to talk to her, and I wrote her an email (with his blessing) telling her that we felt it was terribly disrespectful of her to behave that way, and that we didn't want to have anything to do with her again. She called him and told him that he and his bitch could both go to hell, that we were dead to her. I said that I could live with that, and he could, too. There is no sexual tryst that is worth any of the things that I felt. If one major thing was learned in this episode, it was that I am never ever to let a feeling like that choke me into staying silent, that I must speak up, right then, and get it settled at that moment, regardless of the perceived "squick, uneasy" potential. I don't care to have my Daddy play with another single sub... it's just too hard on me, esp. if she's nuts or has a history of some sort with him. No, thanks. He realizes the damage that was done and the work to fix it, and he doesn't think it's worth it either. I am often extremely uncomfortable around other women for this reason. It's also why I avoid poly situations. I don't understand people who lash out subtly like this. They must enjoy the quiet confrontation.

juliaoceania -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 3:58:24 PM)
quote: "I was his baby girl first, you know?" I was struck dumb and thought I was going to be sick. I didn't have a chance to tell Daddy what she had said when he walked back in the room because I felt like I was in a dream - a nightmare. He knew that something was wrong, but I couldn't speak. She loved it and I finally shook it off and curled myself around his arm and smiled. Some women get off on competition, they only want what other women have, and they get off on hurting other women. It is as if their ego and self esteem hinges on getting a man to notice them over another woman... the prize is even richer if they know the man loves the woman they are attempting to hurt. I do not understand where this springs from, hatred of mom? Who the hell knows... but from what you describe, she is definitely that type. Her entire agenda, make trouble by causing you to feel insecure. I am glad you were able to put it in perspective

Daddysredhead -> RE: Has this ever happened to you? (1/5/2008 5:53:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: juliaoceania quote: "I was his baby girl first, you know?" I was struck dumb and thought I was going to be sick. I didn't have a chance to tell Daddy what she had said when he walked back in the room because I felt like I was in a dream - a nightmare. He knew that something was wrong, but I couldn't speak. She loved it and I finally shook it off and curled myself around his arm and smiled. Some women get off on competition, they only want what other women have, and they get off on hurting other women. It is as if their ego and self esteem hinges on getting a man to notice them over another woman... the prize is even richer if they know the man loves the woman they are attempting to hurt. I do not understand where this springs from, hatred of mom? Who the hell knows... but from what you describe, she is definitely that type. Her entire agenda, make trouble by causing you to feel insecure. I am glad you were able to put it in perspective Thank you. I agree and I remember trying to explain women like this to Daddy and why I sometimes have enormous trust issues with them. I have known many women, nilla or twisted, who love to compete for a "spoken for" man. They may not be especially interested in him, but it's the thrill of the perceived contest. It sickens me because I have no interest in being with another woman's man, and get really pissed when these hags start preying on mine. (or me, however they want to see this "game") I think slavetaboo is right, too, in that, experiences like this can throw you back or remove you completely from the interest of having a third person as a playmate. Daddy was in a poly before that worked very well, but I told him that I didn't think that I could ever be in something like that for more that a night, and he knows that. He has no problem with me seeking out a girlfriend for play for myself if I want something like that, but he doesn't need or want to be involved with that should I feel the pull for my own girlie time. Thank you, PsyVamp. I think Daddy is a great guy. It spoke volumes to me, too, when he was willing to cut that chick out of our lives.

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