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Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/4/2008 10:25:43 PM

joejamesjoe

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Are there any commen traits that can be detected in females, who are dominant or into female supremacy. I ask this from a normal everyday life point of view, not part of the scene.
Example, if there was a crowded room, would anyone be able to look around and say I " think she is dominant" because of what she is wearing, her interaction with others, her behaviour etc. Any advice would be appreciated

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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/4/2008 10:31:22 PM

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Are there any commen traits that can be detected in females, who are dominant or into female supremacy. I ask this from a normal everyday life point of view, not part of the scene.
Example, if there was a crowded room, would anyone be able to look around and say I " think she is dominant" because of what she is wearing, her interaction with others, her behaviour etc. Any advice would be appreciated

Yes. But she'll reveal it to you only when she wants you to know.
There is no way any sub-wired man would EVER not know I was kinky/femdom if I was flirting with him, or even looking at him from across the room. I can let a man know within 5 minutes that I am dominant if I am interested in him.

Now, if I'm just at a place talking with my friends and being observed - would anyone know? Highly doubtful.

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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/4/2008 10:38:26 PM

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Thanks for that info Akkasha. Appreciate it.
So if you wanted him to know you were dominant, within that 5 mins as you put it, what would be the behaviors , converstaion that would make a sub wired man know?

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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/4/2008 11:03:02 PM

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I was fascinated when once I was on the west side of a beach on Kaui [Hawai'i] and a guy was on the east side. During the day he kept moving his blanket closer, and closer to Me. he offered to watch My things the next time I went in for a dip, but I was going to meet someone. he offered to carry My things to the car, and within the time it took to leave the beach he told Me that he was attracted to women of My body type, to Dommes, and he made his own leatherwear, and would be happy to make whatever I desired, even if not for him but for someone else.
I told him how impressed I was that he recognised Me as such, and if I hadn't been returning to the mainland I would have taken advantage of him in both senses.
I wonder how he detected so much in such a short time with so few cues: I imagine it was that I'm physically strong, what I was reading [not typical beachfare], My laugh, and how I people-watch: I eye-fuck men, and don't put up with bad behaviour.
Too bad I never had a chance to see his harnesses!

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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/4/2008 11:13:09 PM

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ORIGINAL: joejamesjoe

Thanks for that info Akkasha. Appreciate it.
So if you wanted him to know you were dominant, within that 5 mins as you put it, what would be the behaviors , converstaion that would make a sub wired man know?

Innuendo is easy. Besides the fact that I am predatory and flirt that way (lots of eye contact, etc.), I find it easy to insert a comment or two at the right time. I almost always wear boots, for example (mind you, many women wear boots, not just dominant women), and if a man says, "I like your boots," I can say something like, "Thanks! They go great with my whips and chains." If he doesn't look at them, I can ask him to look at them, ask if he likes them. I can tell by the way a man admires my boots, often, if he's submissive. It just takes dropping a few hints or "jokes" and seeing what the reaction is to know.

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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/4/2008 11:19:57 PM

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I wouldn't know. I must be an unnatural Domme.

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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/5/2008 3:09:49 PM

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NOW THAT'S FUNNY! LOLOLOL
Thanks for the giggle.
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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/5/2008 3:23:18 PM

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I almost always wear boots.
A guy at work once looked at my outfit and said "Jeez, all you need is a whip" (I was wearing black jeans, black boots and a blouse). I went to my mother's after work to ask her if there was anything odd about my clothes.
She said, "its not the outfit, its your damn attitude" (she has NO idea, lol)

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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/5/2008 5:17:17 PM

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I do agree with PsyVamp- it is in the attitude. I am not nasty nor do I come off bitchy. However, sometimes I intimidate others by my presence (and not on purpose) or simply I make them nervous by the way I am so very real and honest. I don't need to show-off. I am just me and people tend to just notice. In my mannerism, the tone of my voice, the look in my eye, and my intelligence- also my compassion.

I think being yourself is the most powerful thing you can be.

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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/5/2008 6:44:26 PM

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joe,

There has been times when out of the clear blue sky, someone will ask tell me that they want to serve me. One in particular shocked me when he told me that he wanted to be my "bitch". Mind you, these were vanilla men that did not have a clue about me. I get the feeling that some men can detect certain traits in women and they sense she is more than an assertive woman.

Some of the answers I've gotten are (no joke) "there is something powerful about you that makes me what to kneel at your feet", you deserve to be served and treated like a Queen", "you're so strong and strong and in charge women turn me on", and my favorite---"I'm all man but there is something about you that makes me feel submissive." Now that one, got a lecture from me because how dare he think an "all man" can't be submissive, in fact define "all man". It lead to a debate and the subject was dropped that day but later he came back with a better understanding of D/s and considered himself a newbie and wanted to learn more.

I too as was stated earlier, do not carry myself in a bitchy or overbearing way. They say some people are intunned to the inner workings of others by watching them. Some men are drawn to dominate women naturally.

I've had friends that carry themselves and I've told them they would make a great Domme. Their characteristics tend to be: 1. Little tolerance for the BS some mean dole out, i.e. not calling when they say they will, broken promises, lies. 2. Have more than one male and they know about each other and they stay with her. 3. Strong, outspoken. 4. Not easily intimidated by others. 5. Independent.

Any woman can have these characteristics but there is a certain "air" for lack of a better word that just speaks DOMINANT.

If I'm getting to know a vanilla man and it's looking as if things are headed in the right direction I feel I have to tell him without going into a lot of details that I'm a Domme, I've gotten "I knew there was "something" about you. None of the vanilla relationships worked for various reasons. Mostly it was because they were not submissive and didn't want to "play". There were however, the self discovery by some that finally got the opportunity to explore a side of them that they kept hidden for lack of understanding on their part.

Your question is abstract in a way because there isn't a true answer but hopefully this gave you some insight as did the others.

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RE: Recognising a naturally dominant female - 1/5/2008 6:51:10 PM

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I'm with Mistress Faye and Kaiynasha - I'm never bitchy or overbearing, but people simply 'know'. Sure, I wear boots a lot, and I stride when I walk, but it's more than that. There is a presence that many Dominant women have. The other day I was walking down the street with my slave, looking vanilla other than the fact that he was walking a half-pace behind, and a fellow on the street very deliberately looked me in the face, then bowed his head as he walked by.

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