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How do you find da right Mistress - 1/5/2008 8:16:37 PM

newgsusub

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Hey,

I'm new to the lifestle, I've only been in it a couple of months (about 7 months). I was wondering how to find the right Mistress. Most people I have chatted with, says I'm too quiet and other things. On the other hand, on the internet all people want me to do is take my clothes off on a camra. So I was wondering, how to find the right one?

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RE: How do you find da right Mistress - 1/5/2008 8:22:40 PM

sammiebabygirl

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Do yourself a favor and read this thread:

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1510061/tm.htm

It might help a lot.

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RE: How do you find da right Mistress - 1/5/2008 8:26:26 PM

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well girl maybe if you read a topic thats put on here maybe you stand some chance....... (provided you can put it in application too....)

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RE: How do you find da right Mistress - 1/5/2008 8:48:56 PM

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Perhaps if you do not use " da , im ,lifestle,da , ppl ,clother , "as part of some type of coded sentance structure , that may help .

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RE: How do you find da right Mistress - 1/5/2008 9:15:10 PM

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I have to agree with that above as a good start; save slang, abbreviations and intentional misspellings for casual correspondence with those you know well enough to apply it to, best not to send first contacts to dominas with such.

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RE: How do you find da right Mistress - 1/5/2008 9:16:12 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: newgsusub

hey,

im new to the lifestle, ive only been in it a couple of months (about 7) i was wondering how to find da right Mistress. most ppl i have chatted with says im too quiet and other things. then on the internet all ppl want me to do is take my clother off on a cam. so i was wondering on how to find da right one.

First: Use proper grammar and spelling. One of my pet peeves is indeed the "net text". I ask all respondents to use proper spelling and to not shorten their words. If I am not worth your time to completely write out a word, then I would not waste my time with you either. It is so easy to get caught up in net text because of the many conversations you may have going on at once, but please trust me when I say, that the little extra care you take to address a domina would highly benefit you.

Second: Don't sell yourself short. Just because you are a submissive, doesn't mean that you are submissive to just anyone. You do not have to remove your clothing for some horn dog who commands that you do it. Respect yourself and you will find that other people will respect you too.

Three: Do research. Read as much as you can and get involved with a message forum, just as you have done. You have already taken the first step in educating yourself by coming here and posting a question. There are so many excellent books out there regarding this and other subjects.

Four: Read their profiles! If they have clearly posted on their profile that they do not wish to be contacted, DON'T contact her. Right off the bat you are showing that you hadn't read her profile and if you had, you chose to ignore her wishes.

First impressions are everything! Your opening letter to a Mistress must be very open and honest. If you address her in the way that you would address any woman you may meet in person, then she should not have a problem with your letter of introduction. Sometimes you may only get one chance to impress her. Impress her with your use of grammar and spelling. Impress her with how open and willing you are to communicate with her. Don't beg! Don't tell her what she can do for you, but rather what you can do for her. Don't tell her that you want her to "show you how it is done". I get letters like that, and I ask them to explain to me what "it" is.

Good luck and I hope you find what you are seeking. It is not easy, but it IS worth it when you do find someone.

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RE: How do you find da right Mistress - 1/6/2008 7:00:26 AM

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Read potenial profiles. If you think you may click with them, send a note. Above all, be yourself! Be honest. You might not click with the first few right off and thats ok. Never try to make yourself fit into a mold that isn't you because of acceptance.
My slave wrote a note to me the luckiest day of the year 7/7/07. Didn't think I'd ever respond but took a stab in the dark. I wrote back. We talked, discussed likes and dislikes, and found that we have a lot in common. He's now my slave and the love of my life

A little reversal of roles but still, take chances, the worse that can happen is they dont respond, or say no.
Its not easy to find somone right away. It may take a while. Though I beleive there is somone for everyone it just takes looking through all the others until that one stands out.

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RE: How do you find da right Mistress - 1/6/2008 10:29:34 AM

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Here's how to make a potential Mistress block your profile in 9 seconds:

1. Talk about / have a photo of your cock as the first thing in your profile
2. Be needy
3. Be unsure
4. Be illiterate
5. Say nothing about what you have to offer a D/s relationship and have a shopping list of what the Domme has to do for you
6. Bad-mouth your former / current partner
7. Describe in minute detail your health problems, medical and mental
8. Say anyone can have you for ever and ever or only once
9. Complain about collarme
10. Have '69' in your username unless you're ~39 yrs old

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RE: How do you find da right Mistress - 1/6/2008 10:34:21 AM

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quote:

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error: no strikethrough should be in the text
7. Describe in minute detail your health problems, medical and mental
8. Say anyone can have you for ever and ever or only once
9. Complain about collarme
10. Have '69' in your username unless you're ~39 yrs old

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RE: How do you find da right Mistress - 1/11/2008 12:10:18 PM

rob247bot

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or, 11. simply view Her profile

It's nice to be Dominant, but it's more dominant to be Nice (i'm sorry, Scooter but She deserved it, i'm sure you'll agree). Well, maybe that makes me none of them right now, but definitly You're just a Dominant.

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