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AAkasha -> Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/5/2008 9:09:51 PM)


Now..it's not what it sounds like..no, this is not a thread about milking (maybe I'll save that one for another time), rather, about getting a submissive to push all the right buttons during moments of power exchange.  I can't speak for all femdoms, but one thing I know that is essential for me, and seems to be fairly common among other women into this, is that I like reactions.  I like to get a sense of the emotions my partner is feeling. I love to watch breathing, hear whimpers at the right time, see wonderful expressions in his eyes.  One of the most challenging things for me has always been dealing with a submissive who is stoic, or too dazed to really show any emotion. I like the show of emotion and feelings to be fluid, and through body language a lot - but sometimes words can do wonders.

I was reflecting on some of my most intense moments, and also thinking about what I have done to sort of peel the outer layer and get inside a submissive to get what I need in those moments.  I know one thing, I have done, when he's not very expressive emotionally or physically, is make him (or prod him toward) saying things to me that begin with, "I feel..." -- noting that "aroused" and "turned on", while nice, are not options (only because, for one, it's fairl obvious, and two,  I like to force him to think outside his arousal a bit).  When I hear things like these below, I feel a variety of warm, fuzzy femdom feelings, varying in intensity:

"I feel helpless"
"I feel embarassed"
"I feel nervous"
"I feel frightened"

The common thing of course is vulnerability...and a sense of surrender.  But regardless, when a sub can find different, less common words to communicate the emotions he's feeling, and he throws them at me right in the middle of things, it's potentially electric for me. I don't know why, I just love it. Not sure if other femdoms like hearing things like this?

Subs, any good "feel" words you think you could use in the middle of your most intense moment of surrender? Oh, hear's another one, "I feel violated."  That's always hot, too.

Akasha




needDomme -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/5/2008 9:31:52 PM)

How about "I feel beaten and I feel broken?"

need



undergroundsea -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 1:27:21 AM)

I have to pee.

Cheers,

Sea



Wheldrake -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 1:52:30 AM)

I feel weak and isolated. I feel adrift on an ocean of suffering. I feel naked to the very bone. I feel humble, though not degraded; abject, though not humiliated. I feel crushed and overwhelmed by the magnificence of your cruelty. I feel infinitely less than you. I feel tormented, molested, preyed upon. I feel terrible unease in the pit of my stomach. I feel wracked with agony. I feel disbelief that I have come to this. I feel determined to endure. And most of all – I feel an awesome dread as you raise your hand again.



Politesub53 -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 3:43:36 AM)

i feel happy.
i feel content.
hate using nervous so i just feel apprehensive.... [;)]

To me, good feedback, in both directions is awesome.
Nice thread Ma`am



toxin -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 5:57:36 AM)

i feel like your going to hit me with that again if i say lol



chiaThePet -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 7:30:24 AM)

Paging Anita Bryant, paging Anita Bryant.

Please pick up the white courtesy phone.

chia* (the pet)



sodsta -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 11:04:47 AM)

Someone I played with once just sat and looked at me. She didn't do anything or say anything, she just sat still and just... looked. First I was unsure what she was doing or trying to achieve, then, after a few moments, when she didn't say anything, I started feeling a bit uncomfortable and fidgety... then several further moments passed, and I started feeling slightly unsure what to do. To be honest, I felt a bit lost and floundering, like there was something I should probably be doing, but I couldn't think what it was. Eventually, after about 10 minutes of this, I just felt completely powerless. I didn't know what to do, and she seemed to be watching very intently. I just sat there looking at the floor... I think I was probably blushing too, lol.

That was one of the most intense emotional experiences I've had with anyone. I didn't actually express my feelings verbally, but I think they were probably quite obvious.



HelenaTroy -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 12:15:11 PM)

Here let me press on your abdomen for a minute.

Miss Helena



rubberpet -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 12:27:30 PM)

Something tells me that when Mistress gets Her hands on me the first time, I don't think I'll be able to form coherent thoughts or phrases due to the lack of blood in the cerebral region.  My "feel" words will most likely come out in the form of hungry grunts, needy whimpers, and breathless moans, but that's if I luck out and don't have a gag locked in my mouth.  Afterwards, I'm certain there will be loads of cuddling and nuzzling, though. [:)]



beeble -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 2:32:54 PM)

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Aakasha wrote: Now..it's not what it sounds like..no, this is not a thread about milking

I demand wanking material!  Even though my Mistress won't let me masturbate.  *mumblenotfairmumble*



Boondoggle -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 5:20:04 PM)

As a submissive, I think the emotions I enjoy most are when I feel powerless, when I feel loved, when I feel owned and when I feel used. I especially love feeling these emotions together. I feel a wonderful sense of satisfaction and security when they are all combined. It's a rare, but incredible feeling. That feeling alone has driven me to tears of joy.



Imajican -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 10:40:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: beeble
I demand wanking material!  Even though my Mistress won't let me masturbate.  *mumblenotfairmumble*

So repressed. I swear, the things you must suffer through. Poor darling.



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/6/2008 10:46:38 PM)

My boys tend to be very quiet when we are being intense. Angel tends to say things like "Oh, Mommy" and "I need you Mommy." Fox is more along the lines of "I am your [boy/girl/slut/whore]" and such.
I dont need them to tel me how they are feelingduring. I am more interested in physical reactions, nonverbal stuff is harder to force than verbal is. If my boys know what I want to hear, they might say it to make me happy.  They arent talented enough to flinch just so, or fake a reaction like that.

DV




SnugasaBug -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/7/2008 5:29:38 AM)

When I try to get subbie to verbalize, catch phrases, it sounds too mechanical. I have discovered to have him say the "Pledge of allegiance"  ...you know...the grammer school version....it sounds soo much more passionate... he he

Snug



ElanSubdued -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/7/2008 5:48:24 PM)

Akasha,

quote:

Subs, any good "feel" words you think you could use in the middle of your most intense moment of surrender?


Different things come out at different times.  Of course, who I'm with has great impact on my thinking and verbalization.  Non-verbally, I may smile, make eye contact (there's nothing quite like eye sex), swoon, buck, etc.  Verbally, hmmm... variations of "I feel powerful, happy, euphoric, edgy, anxious, frightened, invaded, wet, etc." may come from my lips.  Often I'll use verbal, non-language sounds to communicate affection for my partner and/or my reaction to how she looks and feels, and what she is doing.  During play and lovemaking, I've never been the silent, stoic type.  Laughter is very important to me and thus even in very intense moments, I often share a smile and sounds of joy and laughter with my domme.  I tend to be rather assertive and enjoy initiating because, as odd as this may sound, for me, initiating is part of my surrender - giving all that I am to my partner.  Thus, my reaction to something particularly intense may be to role bend, to flirt, and, when the moment is appropriate, to caress my partner (whether this be crawling into her or wrapping her in my body - as the mood strikes and as we mutually need).  Usually I play with people I know extremely well so there is chemistry beyond BDSM.

I prefer dynamics where my partner and I are confident enough and comfortable enough that we don't need to hold BDSM roles in each other's faces.  The dance is usually rather subtle which occasionally makes for amusing moments - domme to sub, smiling: "so you think so do you...", sub to domme, flirtatiously: "yes I do think so... I'm a submissive, hear me roar". :-)  Generally, I find BDSM more enjoyable when it is playful and organic as opposed to serious and high-protocol minded.  This is reflected in how I communicate before, during, and after play.  It's not a case of being disrespectful to each other's roles and agreed upon on areas of authority.  Rather, it is simply nice when there is chemistry and trust such that we don't need to second-guess one another's commitment and motivation.

Elan.



ElanSubdued -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/7/2008 6:13:56 PM)

--- Squeezing the juice out of a submissive

Heh.  The more I read this title, the more amusing it becomes.  There is way too much fun and far too many double entendres in this one little sentence. :-)

Elan.



undergroundsea -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/7/2008 6:49:12 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: HelenaTroy
Here let me press on your abdomen for a minute.


Your place or mine?

:p

Cheers,

Sea



AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/7/2008 7:40:39 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: rubberpet

Something tells me that when Mistress gets Her hands on me the first time, I don't think I'll be able to form coherent thoughts or phrases



In terms of "squeezing the juice" out of me, a former Mistress used to like to remind me about the time when I was "talking to myself".  She saw my mouth moving, but no sound was coming from my mouth.  I remember some of it, but by her account, it lasted much longer than I thought.  At any rate, she seemed to savor the moment for an indecently long time. [sm=biggrin.gif]



AAkasha -> RE: Squeezing the juice out of a submissive (1/7/2008 10:12:54 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: AFlyInYourWeb

quote:

ORIGINAL: rubberpet

Something tells me that when Mistress gets Her hands on me the first time, I don't think I'll be able to form coherent thoughts or phrases



In terms of "squeezing the juice" out of me, a former Mistress used to like to remind me about the time when I was "talking to myself".  She saw my mouth moving, but no sound was coming from my mouth.  I remember some of it, but by her account, it lasted much longer than I thought.  At any rate, she seemed to savor the moment for an indecently long time. [sm=biggrin.gif]


Something about that is incredibly hot :) hehe.  Those kind of subtle, surreal moments are real treasures when they happen.  Sounds fantastic.

Akasha



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