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littlebitxxx -> RE: How did it happen? (1/6/2008 12:19:02 PM)

I met my ex-Master on LavaLife, we were local and able to get together.   I met my SO here on CM, spent months talking and visiting and I just moved here.  I've met casual Tops on Alt.com and LL both and have enjoyed playtime with them.  I've gone to munches and parties in the community and met some wonderful people.   You meet people wherever you go.  Sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn't.



darkpassenger434 -> RE: How did it happen? (1/6/2008 12:35:53 PM)

I understand the confusion. There are two reasons for my wording. One is that due to my current circumstances I am physically not able to devote my time to anyone who interested me (overseas), and emotionally I am not in a hurry to get into a relationship as a previous one has just ended and I just don't feel the time is right. I don't want to lead anyone on as to my intentions. That being said, I believe that anything of substance will evolve out of friendship, so for me, the friendship thing is sowing the seeds of a possible future relationship. (My profile has been updated to reflect this view). I think there might have been an impression from my question about how others were successful that I am impatient for a partner now. I am not. I am interested in most aspects of the lifestyle, including how others got something that I want in the future. I do appreciate the profile look and advice. I have attempted to explain what I meant by pickiness as well, but hey I am picky and attempts to ignore my own preferences has not been a winning strategy in the past, regardless of the personality of my partner.
-R

PS - Not to mention I am easily bored and like to hear peoples opinions on all kinds of things.



takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: How did it happen? (1/6/2008 1:37:44 PM)

Thanks for the explanantion. i see Your profile differently now. Happy New Year!



BikerDomRealTime -> RE: How did it happen? (1/6/2008 1:49:57 PM)

darkpassenger434,

I met my current slave here on CM.  she is turning out to be quite a good slave.  I have attended munches in the past and my experience has been is that it was the same group of people that showed up at the munches each time.  They were either couples or subs/slaves that I had no interest in.

I also have been a member of a couple of BDSM clubs and attended them regularly.  This was when I was faily new and inexperienced and found most people at the clubs to be fairly clickish and not willing to play, submit to an inexperienced dom.

I have met virtually all of my subs/slaves online, either her on in another chatroom.



junecleaver -> RE: How did it happen? (1/6/2008 3:31:34 PM)

We met on CM.



Guilty1974 -> RE: How did it happen? (1/6/2008 3:34:37 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: darkpassenger434
How did you meet your other?


I don't believe in dating sites, at least not when you're male [:-]
I met my girlfriend at a TNG-like play party.



MasterFireMaam -> RE: How did it happen? (1/6/2008 3:37:53 PM)

I have met all of my Ds relationships in person at events, both local and national. I've met almost all of the men I date online, with much success. I know that other Ds and Ms relationships have met online, however, and the developed healthy, long-term relationships.

Master Fire



PsyVamp -> RE: How did it happen? (1/6/2008 5:57:22 PM)

I've met a couple of people here on collarme (on the other side). 

Just takes persistence, I like to browse the pictures too and poke interesting people that way.  I've met a couple I would not have normally found because they wouldn't have shown up in my searching.  Poke people that add you as a favorite, or who look at your profile.  You really need to be proactive.

I met my pet through this site, I can't remember if he showed up during a search or if I poked him after reading a post.  He was (and still is) younger than my age range in search so I would not have "normally" seen him.
We emailed back and forth, IM'd for what seemed like forever and here we are.

LJ




parttimehotty -> RE: How did it happen? (1/7/2008 6:59:54 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: darkpassenger434

As a single Dom/Master getting rapidly disillusioned I am just curious. For all the Doms/Masters out there. How did you meet your other? I'm curious if there are ANY success stories for DM, or are munches and local stuff the way to go usually? All people are different, but if something like 90% of them achieve their goals in a certain way, I think thats quite telling. Curiously awaiting information.
-R


i met my "Trainer" on Craigslist in Oct '06. Now depending on how you view my posts here on CM, i'll let you decide if it was a good meet or a bad meet ;)




Dejanira -> RE: How did it happen? (2/12/2008 8:08:00 PM)

I met my Master here on CM with absolutely no intention of meeting him in person.  I wanted simply to be friends and possibly have a little online romance.  However since he was local we met for a drink.  Things moved quickly on that first meeting and have kept moving toward something very special.  He has taught me so much in a very short time, not just about D/s but about myself, life and love.  He is an incredible person with a lot of knowledge, patience, experience and he is the sexiest man I have ever known.  I have never felt so loved, desired and respected.  He makes me feel like a precious treasure. 

dejanira



greenearth21 -> RE: How did it happen? (2/12/2008 10:16:10 PM)

Sheesh!!! seems like CM works for a lot of ppl.    Congratulations to all who found happiness on here.



Lashra -> RE: How did it happen? (2/12/2008 10:35:26 PM)

I met my sub playing an online game. I thought his avatar had a wierd name so I sent him an IM asking him what it meant, that was 5 years ago, we dated online/phone for a  year then I went to meet him, eventually he moved up here closer to me. We've been going strong ever since.

For me it always happens with odd meetings rather than in the places you'd expect it to happen.[:)]

~Lashra



dusk2012 -> RE: How did it happen? (2/12/2008 11:19:48 PM)

hmmm..... when this slave met Master it was May,2007 at a friends home that happened to be his neice.at that time slave was a Mistress, took the girls out for a girls night came back and talked with him for 3 hours then he took slave and stripped her of her cloths then told her she was his.slave fought him for a long time but he over powered and well that is what happens when your friend and her family are all raised in the lifestyle.lol but this slave would not change that for the world for she has never been so happy.so yes you can find out side of online and Munches. you just have to find the right person or them find you.



eyesopened -> RE: How did it happen? (2/13/2008 2:25:34 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: daddysliloneds

i'm a submissive/bottom and have met every dominant the same way; they contact me via e-mail through one of the various sites i'm on and then we met for coffee.


Same here.  i met my Master right here on CM on the other side.

Interestingly, i've spent years going to munches and demonstrations and such and never met a partner.  Although, i find out later that in several instances various Dominants were interested but afraid to talk to me.  Local guys could find every excuse in the book to not meet in person.  What's up with that?



julietsierra -> RE: How did it happen? (2/13/2008 3:02:40 AM)

I was on mIRC, b.com, alt.com and a couple of others (I joined CM after because of the forums). And with all those sites, I happened upon him at an event. We've never spent even five minutes online together. We never will.

We've been together now for 5 and a half very happy years.

juliet



DesFIP -> RE: How did it happen? (2/13/2008 5:00:41 AM)

I met him on b.com back when they still had free email. He sent me a one liner, I glanced at his profile and sent back a two liner including a question. Within days we were writing long emails several times daily. Four and a half years later, here we still are.



chamberqueen -> RE: How did it happen? (2/13/2008 5:26:59 AM)

I know I'm not a Dom, but a Domme.  : )  However, this might make you feel better.

I found that my subs weren't fulfilling me nearly as much as I was fulfilling them.  I had been approached by a lot of Doms with a very small submissive side, and it occurred to me that I might have the same.  I decided the play with one Dom online to check out my theory, and it was one of the most horific experiences of my life.  I was left feeling raped, and started explaining the situation the other Doms to see what I had done wrong.  I met a wonderful Daddy Dom here on CM, and he immediately became my protector.  He gently explained that I had done things correctly except for the fact that I jumped too fast, didn't realize that the Dom I had been talking to was an extreme sadist, and that the man had done some things with me that most never would.  (For instance, leaving me to do an extremely painful task and signing off for 20 minutes during our first chat to have a phone call.)

The Daddy Dom started as my friend, considered himself my protector against the wolves of the world, before we ever talked about the real possibility of him becoming my own Daddy.  Since then we have built the most fulfilling relationship I have ever had in my life.  There are success stories out there.  He could find people real time; he was on CM mostly to kill time.  However, we found in each other something that we both needed.  I found that I needed to belong to someone who truly cared about me as a person and not always be the one on the pedestal, and he found someone that gives him an incredible ego boost (The Daddy with a Mistress slave).

Keep in mind that a lot of subs need protection as much as anything in the lifestyle; the feeling that their One is always with them.  If you can give that feeling then you've got it made.



SirJohnMandevill -> RE: How did it happen? (2/13/2008 6:28:56 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: darkpassenger434

As a single Dom/Master getting rapidly disillusioned I am just curious. For all the Doms/Masters out there. How did you meet your other? I'm curious if there are ANY success stories for DM, or are munches and local stuff the way to go usually? All people are different, but if something like 90% of them achieve their goals in a certain way, I think thats quite telling. Curiously awaiting information.
-R


I can only speak for myself, but I've met a number of very desirable submissives on CM, including my former sub and the woman I'm currently trying to develop a full-time relationship with (face-to-face for both). I also have had a couple of vanilla lunches with a third sub from CM.
 
You're here. This works. You just have to keep trying and be open to talking for some time before meeting.
 
Les (Purveyor of Fine, Handcrafted Kink)



Maya2001 -> RE: How did it happen? (2/13/2008 6:49:00 AM)

Offering him advice is likely a waste of time since he no longer has a profile



Lumus -> RE: How did it happen? (2/13/2008 4:20:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: darkpassenger434

As a single Dom/Master getting rapidly disillusioned I am just curious. For all the Doms/Masters out there. How did you meet your other? I'm curious if there are ANY success stories for DM, or are munches and local stuff the way to go usually? All people are different, but if something like 90% of them achieve their goals in a certain way, I think thats quite telling. Curiously awaiting information.
-R


I met my first sub when I was requested to run a roleplaying session, via a mutual friend who was enamoured of my playing style; and we first spoke online via a local telnet chatter whilst at the college only a handful of miles away - about eating arrangements for the impending gathering of roleplay geeks. [8D]

I met My girl, abdi, online [in another forum].  she approached Me, asked about the poetry and novels I'd written; eventually she mustered up the courage to offer herself for My consideration, for which I am eternally grateful.

I am inclined to believe that regardless of venue, your method of seeking an 'other' involves socialization in some form, coupled with the ability to simply be yourself.  Yeah...corny, trite, whatever.  That's what worked for me, chum.  I've seen it work for others.  Try the munches; poke about online; explore forthright.  Seek, and ye shall find.




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