Dommes view on a collaring ceremony

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falccon -> Dommes view on a collaring ceremony (1/6/2008 4:44:01 AM)
The atmosphere is friendly with diverse, like minded people gathered in one room. The place is serene and low-lit. The set and make-up are similar to a wedding ceremony but distinct. The Domme is dressed in a leather outfit and looking totally stunning. Nearby, stands a make believe minister. Subbie is lead down the isle to his awaiting Domme. Once he is near, he undresses and stands naked for all to see. He assumes his future role and kneels beside his Domme. The minister begins reading the vows: “do you,………., the Domme, take this submissive male to own, control, love, honor, discipline and punish until death do you part. To the submissive, do you promise to relinquish power, control and obey your Domme until death do you part.” After the vows are said and done, the Domme and submissive sign a contract. Then, the submissive is fitted with a chastity devise to be worn 24/7, knowing that he will be required to endure months of no release. This is part of the arrangement. Finally, the crowning moment, the Domme puts the collar around the sub’s neck, showing he is owned and a bond is now formed between two people. The ceremony ends with the Domme walking upright while the sub is on all fours moving down the isle towards the exit. This is an abbreviated version of events, with so many unaccounted for variables. This is one of my fantasies. Hopefully, one day, I will be that submissive. I would like a Dommes perspective.

vampchick88 -> RE: Dommes view on a collaring ceremony (1/6/2008 6:53:01 AM)
Sounds good. My own personal view on how I'm going to collar my slave is a bit different (doesn't involve the chastity devise) but is it only the "night collaring" thats important? It may just be my personal opinion but I want an entire day of nothing but pure happiness, kind of setting the mood for what will happen later. I think that every Domme have their own plans, perspectives, and ideas for their collaring ceremony. Just as everyone is unique and individualistic. I'm sure once you find that one Domme for you, she'll give you a proper ceremony.

SadisticMan -> RE: Dommes view on a collaring ceremony (1/6/2008 7:03:24 AM)
Collaring ceremonies take all shape and forms for sure. Your idea sounds like a D/s wedding. Nice idea to formalize it so. I can legally marry people, I am a minister with ULC. I have not preformed any ceremony like this, but I would love to. Or even do a similiar wedding scene, but with D/s contract vs legal marriage papers, which require the license of course from the county. I've been to many collaring events, just about all had a few people attending and a small party after. When you get that Domme, let Her know your ideas and express the desire you have to do this. Not every D/s relationship does a formal collaring event. My only other advice is not to put a lot of pressure on your Domme for this, it is a big deal really and let it come as it will, naturely so to so.

Badpunzel -> RE: Dommes view on a collaring ceremony (1/6/2008 7:18:13 AM)
I have attended a D/s wedding or two that has taken this form (more or less). The part I always enjoy watching the most is the intensity of unspoken emotion between the pair as the ceremony moved through its more vanilla aspects toward its kinkier ones.

MysticFireTopaz -> RE: Dommes view on a collaring ceremony (1/6/2008 7:31:56 AM)
This is fairly close to the type of collaring ceremony I have envisioned. One part I'm not on board with and would leave out is the chastity device and months of no release. Something I might like to include that was not mentioned is a branding or cutting as part of the ceremony as a permanent mark of ownership. If I were to do the branding or cutting myself, I would obviously have to learn how to do so safely first. Otherwise, I'd get someone else to do it. Overall, I like it [;)] Lady Topaz

MisPandora -> RE: Dommes view on a collaring ceremony (1/6/2008 9:35:17 PM)
It sounds like a wedding with a kink. OK if you want to marry that person or have strong ideals about the sanctity of marriage. Pagan handfasting rituals are adapted well to the collaring ceremony as well. I've been witness to or have officiated at a number of collaring ceremonies that have not been wedding-types, rather, specific to the individuals and spell out the commitments, the depth of the relationship, etc. Some have been before others as witness, some have been with just an officiant/friend as witness. I've seen the Ceremony of the Roses done in person at minimum, four times. Here's an example of someone else (I don't know these folks) -- http://www.thebdsmsite.org/KBMsDsubbitoescollar.htm

Shawn1066 -> RE: Dommes view on a collaring ceremony (1/7/2008 11:54:58 AM)
I have an almost innate love for symbolism and ceremony... That being said, I really didn't have a collaring ceremony. I was just sitting on the couch with my Owner, getting ready to leave for the weekend. She told me to turn around. I did... I was a little confused, and then she just slipped the collar around my neck. I was so surprised...so overcome with emotion that I cried. "So, I take it the answer is yes?" --- Your idea is a fantasy, as you've said yourself... So, it really doesn't matter what other people think of it. It's -your- fantasy, and it's obviously something you feel strongly about. Hopefully you'll find somebody with similar tastes someday and you'll get to live it out... However, you may find you enjoy your future Domme's fantasy wedding a lot more than you enjoy yours... What I'm saying is that you shouldn't necessarily always be so dead-set on how things are going to turn out. Sometimes there are things that can far exceed your fantasies, after all. Edited to add: I'm not a domme, but I have had subs ask me to try... :-p*

ElanSubdued -> RE: Dommes view on a collaring ceremony (1/7/2008 6:18:41 PM)
Shawn, quote: I have an almost innate love for symbolism and ceremony... That being said, I really didn't have a collaring ceremony. I was just sitting on the couch with my Owner, getting ready to leave for the weekend. She told me to turn around. I did... I was a little confused, and then she just slipped the collar around my neck. I was so surprised... so overcome with emotion that I cried. This is a gorgeous little snippet of the affection between you and DV (your owner). Thanks for sharing. Elan.

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