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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 10:52:22 AM

misub33

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thanks i do have gyn appt. in two weeks. but i have no ins. so i'm stuck with the 9.00 brith cont. pills that are alv. at walmart. which i know will help. but i still like know what is wrong with me. and not feel like it all in my head which pple now think it is. when you try live on two hours of sleep is not fun. or not eating alot. hey great way to lose weight throuhg but not healthy.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 10:55:19 AM

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ORIGINAL: Level

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ORIGINAL: misub33

i have a learning dis. while i try my best at everything writing is not a strong point for me.

Trying your best is all we can do, so hang in there. I apologize for my snarky comment, also.

As for your question: No, I wouldn't cause a submissive in pain, further pain.

Eapecially if she has an attractive friend who is currently "cramp-free." I think this has to be viewed in the context of the Miss America pageant....If you are unable to perform your subly duties then the "runner-up" should step in to complete that which you are incapable of.

It sucks. Make sure that the "runner up" is not more interesting than yourself or you will soon find yourself looking in from the outside.

Level hates people with disabilities. He once drove a slave from Arkansas with a hairlip off of this site....Pay him no mind.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 11:01:30 AM

darkpassenger434

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I really can't see myself causing my sub more pain by aggravating or using an existing medical condition. I would be suprised at anyone who didn't consider that a hard limit. After all, If the sub tripped and broke her arm, it would be heinous to manipulate the break to punish her or cause pain. At its essence what you are describing is a similar thing.
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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 11:14:46 AM

Zaraseeks

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OMFG! "I am on Erin (a birth control medicine)" Haha, sorry, my name is erin, and for women I am a birth control medicine so I think that is VERY awesome! hehehe, wow. I also have maybe a period a year, not sure why, not on birth control, but it tends to throw females I am aroud a lot off...HAHA the very sexy xxblushesxx is *on* me...hows it feel up there?
Ok sorry guys, I know thats way off topic, to the OP, see a doctor, I really hope that your master isnt trying to cause more pain by having sex with you during the cramps, when I do have a period (which is almost never) I end up in the hospital from the pain of the cramps, it is just unreal!

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 12:04:11 PM

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I think it's really up to you to find the right person. It really depends on what their situation was, whether what I would do would make it worse or not (you said it doesn't help but didn't mention if it made it worse) and what other options.

For me, I'd most likely work on teaching you to cope and improve over the long term- and have other people I could enjoy during times you were unavailable.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 12:13:21 PM

KatyLied

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take care of her

Are you an adult woman? Do you actually expect a man to take care of you when you have your period? I would never ask a man to take care of me because I was on my period or had cramps. I take some naproxen sodium, drink some caffeine and hope for the best. It's only a few days of semi-hell, it's not a huge deal in the grand scheme of things.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 1:33:47 PM

misub33

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try 7 day of killer cramps not all women have the same amout of cramps. ihave gone to the er because of these.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 2:01:23 PM

KatyLied

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I'll tell you what. When I first started my periods the school nurse sent me home on a regular basis for 6 months because I had cramps and threw up. I think I know what killer cramps are. I chose to deal with it and not focus on it. I agree that I don't feel your pain. I still think you are better served to find ways to deal with them without depending on a man to take care of you.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 2:04:43 PM

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ORIGINAL: TallObedience

i was recently released from my Master after only 3 months. i went there for training and things were going well. then, all of a sudden, i was complete. he was extremely proud of me and i am his favorite slave. okay, my question is...

WTF????? i wanted a good dose of the lifestyle, YES, and I got it, YES. is this all? am i now to just think that its bullshit? i have so many mixed up feelings right now and i've never felt so lost and confused. does it ever get better?

This thread has gone all over so I will respond to this portion. He was through with the relationship with you and felt you didn't deserve an answer or explanation. I guess a very easy way if you can do it. Understand what you are getting inot prior to developing relationship. Was his interest only to train you? If so, I can't believe you could be completely trained in such a short time. Sounds like crap. maybe he had another sub he wanted and you were in his way.

As to the original question.

If you don't like the situation, not happy with the pain he is causing you and you have explained it to him. Remove the gift of your submission to him. Maybe compatibilty is a bigger issue on the pain limits.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 2:05:32 PM

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ORIGINAL: misub33

i get horrible cramps for 3 more day before my period then i get my normal cramps so here is the real question as a Dom would you fuck know it does not help your slave in pain at all just to fuck her or take care of her so she can serve you better when she is well?

What a powerful sentiment

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 2:08:14 PM

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misub, maybe you need a new doctor, maybe you need a D&C, but i think definitely you should sit down with your dom and express your feelings, it is probably hard for him to understand the whole cramp thing and what it can do to a female.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 2:19:58 PM

misub33

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while i try explain to him many ways he still wanted to fuck me in pain. and i didn't give him my subussion yet. i choose to end because i feel he would not listen to me and cause me more pain in things. so i'm looking again. i do believe in communtion all the way.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 2:21:17 PM

dawndewdropbaby

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I have previously suffered from horrible cramps that have left me curled up in a ball with hot and cold flashes and severe nausea. Over the past few months I've been working out a lot more, and it seems to help even more when Im on my period. I don't expect to be taken care of because im in a LDR to begin with, but either way I found my 'cure' for my cramps to where sexual activity is tolerable.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 2:21:46 PM

SirJohnMandevill

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ORIGINAL: misub33

try 7 day of killer cramps not all women have the same amout of cramps. ihave gone to the er because of these.

While I'm a man, I certainly empathize with you, 33. I would derive no satisfaction whatsoever from fucking anyone in that much medically caused pain. Domination involves mutual satisfaction, it's not a one-way street.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 3:09:12 PM

kinkypuppy2

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There is good pain and bad pain.
Pain that is given and pain that exists

I prefer the good pain that I give

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 4:04:46 PM

xxblushesxx

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Go to planned parenthood. (while I don't believe in a major part of their philosophy, they do help women who can't afford to go to a doctor for birth control pills, pap smears, etc.) They work on a sliding fee scale, so you wouldn't pay more than you can afford. (if anything)
I think you'd be a lot happier.

Thank you Zara (Erin) for your kind words. And it feels GREAT btw...*lol*

~Christina

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 4:21:20 PM

misub33

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i did call them plan paternhood they are exp as the reg doc. grand rapids does not work on sliding scale. a nd free clinic i can go to will not give brith control out. alot of them work out of church. so i going to a doc i will pay half now and the rest later. maybe i might get a break i know some doc do that. and hopeful i get hired in soon.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 7:55:46 PM

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I hope I clicked on the right button. This is particularly to old Bastardly1. I think that that is an out and out rude statement. I have 2 sons with severe learning disabilities. They are extremely bright, but putting a clear sentence down is very difficult for both of them. To clarify, it is not at all a matter of spell check; it is a matter of how language is processed in their brains. Stop and think before you judge.

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/6/2008 8:59:45 PM

TemptingNviceSub

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ORIGINAL: eyesopened

Sorry, i know you asked this question of the Dominants but in my opinion, sexual service is not about what makes the slave feel better or how it helps the submissive, it is about sexual service to the Dominant or Master. If it is really bad, you should negotiate no sex during your period including the 3 days leading up to it. That would be the best way to handle it, so there is clear communication ahead of time.

Also, please speak with your GYN about this problem and perhaps she or he can recommend something to help you. Periods are not an illness, although i do know that some women suffer horribly during this time. Talk to your doctor.

I felt this reply to be the most informative and realistic....good job eyes!..Tempting

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RE: question to the Doms - 1/7/2008 2:14:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: misub33

i get horrible cramps for 3 more day before my period then i get my normal cramps so here is the real question as a Dom would you fuck know it does not help your slave in pain at all just to fuck her or take care of her so she can serve you better when she is well?

No I would not fuck you if you were in that much severe pain. My ex had cramps like you are experiencing and it was hell for her. Doctors never could figure out what was wrong. I did have her orgasm other ways and that helped relieve the pain temporarily.

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