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sub4hire -> RE: Obeying Dom's Online????? (7/17/2004 7:32:17 AM)

Thanks for the thoughts Sendforu. An update on the situation. Well not really an update but what happened after arriving home.

He begged me to take him on as my Dom. I told him I was going to file rape charges. True, we never had any sex but that was only becauses I was stronger than he was and fought him off.
I never filed the charges. We live 2000 miles away. I sure didn't want to have to go out there and relive anything. Unsure of the law if he would have had to come here.

Since then he has also met many submissives. Those he alledegly took real time he had asked me to train for him. Oddly that happens a lot in real life too.

Just about a month or two ago he disappeared all together. Not sure what that means.

If you don't like to cyber, then don't. I never cared much for it. When I did do it I used it as a tool.
Brief explanation. I was on business in Las Vegas. All alone. Decided I deserved a massage. So I'm sitting in the sauna. My old English teacher pops up. Now, I graduated like 10-15 years ago at this point. She was my favorite teacher. College bound english.
Anyway, she asks me the title of my book. Book, I ask? Well apparently she thought I had so much talent with words I would have been a writer.
Anyway after I went back to my hotel room. I sat down and tried to write a story. Bombed badly. Thought about it. Where did my imagination go? I got old.
So I decided the smart and the truly stupid would help me break into my imagination. Finding a cyber partner is so easy to do no matter what time of day or night. Plus if you listen you can see the inside of someones soul. It helped. I can write a story now. No book yet though.

Anyway, nothing like getting off track, eh?



stormiKnightBEAR -> RE: Obeying Dom's Online????? (7/20/2004 4:03:44 PM)

As an ONLINE kajira/sub/slave, ANYONE can be good, ANYONE can be the perfect "serving" kajira/sub/slave, ANYONE can be prettier than they are, ANYONE can be devoted, and online ANYONE can LIE!! Lie about doing things or being something they are not. But that is for those that have chosen to be more afraid of life than to experience it. In most cases it is because they are not able to handle what might be reality, not being able to handle that there are mistakes made.

ONLINERS can backspace to remove a blimp, ONLINERS can go to a make believe place and do make believe things. Does it make it wrong? Not in the make believe world.

Being a slave to Master is not always easy, just as being the Master to a slave is not always easy.

But it is a pity for those that do not know how to live the life that is meant to be outside of a digital world.

Remember tho that all of the above can be used to describe online Dominance as well.

The question in this girl's mind is this....... IF you decided to be an online sub/slave/kajira, are you satisified with just that, or are looking to increase your knowledge for the day when you move into a RT relationship. There is a vast difference.
Again... nothing wrong with online ONLY as long as you are clear with those you are interacting with about that fact. The damage comes when you mislead others with your knowledge, skills or situation in such a manner that it causes others to get hurt. Some both Dominant and submissive do not realize how dependant the other can be when things in their life are not right. They come to depend on those "experiences" online ..... sometime confusing reality with fantasy.....that is a prime example of a heartache waiting to happen. Stop to think about it..... How does a Dom really know that the sub/slave is performing their task?
If all you are doing is looking at words on a screen how does the sub/slave know that she is dealing with a Dom and not a unhappy married man or a teenager looking for kicks OR another woman???? Just a few questions in stormi's mind.

Again, this is merely this girl's thoughts and questions on the subject of online submission and Dominance. stormi readily admits she has no experience in this subject.

Be well,
stormi
property of Master Bear
[email protected]



subbiejenn -> RE: Obeying Dom's Online????? (7/27/2004 7:36:53 PM)

i haven't read all the posts to this so i maybe repeating... *forgive me*

i hate when i talk to a so called Dom for the first time and He acts like i should OBEY Him. i think submission is a precious gift . a real true Dom would not even except a submissive to obey just because she is submissive. i have a great deal of respect for Dom's until they prove to me they are not worthy of the title at all but that dosent mean i have to obey Him when he barks orders to me. i actually had e-mailed a friend about this today. A Dom had added me to His pager and IMed me. W/we talked maybe 4 minutes and i had to leave. So when i tell Him i have to leave for a while but will be back later... He says " You may leave now.. but IM me first thing when you return." i MAY leave now? after just introducing myself and saying hello all of a sudden He thinks He can tell me when i can and can't leave? *laughs*

now the "cyber" stuff ... well... the online D/s stuff don't do anything for me. to me i guess that would fall under "role Playing" ? maybe Y/you have to have a great imagination and no real life partner to play with. *shrugs*

ok thats just my thoughts.. now all the Dom's don't get upset with me. i do know there are some real Dom's out there.... but there are so many who don't deserve to be called Dom or Master. So many who really don't understand what the meaning is behind the title. just like the "kink"



DesertDweller -> RE: Obeying Dom's Online????? (7/27/2004 7:44:07 PM)

you owe an online Dom or any other selfproclaimed Dom you would meet on the street absolutely no obedience whatsoever....and duck for cover if said "Dom" thinks different.



LadyShoshin -> RE: Obeying Dom's Online????? (7/27/2004 8:07:28 PM)

My response? "You want to control my real time, than be IN my real time" Another favorite is " You want fries with that order?" Any further nonsense & they get put on ignore



MastersControl -> RE: Obeying Dom's Online????? (7/27/2004 8:36:13 PM)

I can only speak for myself, for if you don't have control of the submissive, you really can't dominate. It ultimatly comes down to does the sub want to be dominated, and does she offer up the gift of submission to the Dom. I personally hate "online" because I am old enough to remember my days when BDSM was not popular by the internet. I am only a R/L Dom.

When I met my wife online, we had "normal" conversation, got to know each other, and my "natural" dominate side showed without me telling her to do something weird. I think if a person really isn't a player, and is looking for a LT relationship, you have to take the time to build trust, and just get to know each other, and enjoy the process.

I don't really didn't take charge until we met in R/L. And when we did I took it one step at a time, because most women get scared if you start too quickly. And since I wanted a "relationship" with her, patience is required. Either way, I had her wraped around my finger by the end of the weekend, when we first met R/L.

I agree with the posts that state, there is a lot of "want-a-be" Doms and subs online, but really have no place in R/L. And most of these are just players, who need to be careful if they don't want to hurt someone. Personally, I was mentored for a long time, before I took on my own sub in real life, and even when my mentor let me test what I had learned it was on a sub of his choosing so he can give me OJT experience, before he released me on my own to find a sub of my own. It was a long and hard search, and maybe that is because I am curious, friendly and really want to know more about the sub, before I go further.

I don't know, but for me and my sub, we are happy.

MC



Sinergy -> RE: Obeying Dom's Online????? (7/27/2004 11:16:58 PM)

quote:

can only speak for myself, for if you don't have control of the submissive, you really can't dominate.


*stands for Dominantly and opines*

Duct tape.

Sinergy



SentForu -> RE: Obeying Dom's Online????? (7/31/2004 10:47:50 AM)

LadyShoshin, nice thought. Will definately put that one to good use....[;)]



Sinergy -> RE: Obeying Dom's Online????? (7/31/2004 12:24:54 PM)

*orders the submit to download MsPaintHouseOnline V1.3 immediately*

How was that?

Sinergy



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