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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 8:07:07 AM

camille65

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Ever since I learned to write I've kept some sort of diary. It is so neat reading things from decades past. Now that it is harder to physically write I avail myself with one of those free online journals, yes my dominant reads it. I began it before him and will likely continue to write for as long as I can. He reads it daily, sometimes I write in it directly to him and other times it is written as if to myself. I don't really understand the concept of seeing journaling as attention-look-at-me because I own a handwritten diary from my great great grandmother. Reading of her life during the mid 1900's has been a fascinating glimpse into a woman I never got the chance to meet. Granted there is an awful lot of mundane details but it is still way cool. Sometimes I wish I had a descendant to pass mine down to.Diaries and journalling have been around for as long as the written word has, it is just the format that has changed. I don't post photos of myself on it, or reveal any personal identity details but I do write about things that are difficult for me to verbalize at times. Both of us, my dom and I have found it to be a wonderful tool for communication. I jot down things throughout the day either for him to read or simply for me to set it in writing. Writing has always had an effect of clarifying things in my mind, much more so than speaking. I don't write exclusively for him but it is another way for me to share myself and that is an important part of our relationship. I write my erotica there and my ordinary life, I'm glad I have this habit because it really does free me to share things with him in a very easy manner.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 8:27:56 AM

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I love to write and draw, but have no inspiration right now.
So I do not.
I would love to have someone to write to, pour my heart out to.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 8:38:12 AM

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I have several different places I write, none of which are connected to each other... meaning, if you know about one, you wouldn't necessarily know about the others unless I told you.

I have erotic stories up at one site, that is the only one that my psycho ex knows about.

I have a journal of my divorce on another site. It was a place to rant and rave and bitch and laugh about what was going on (like my ex choosing to walk 45 miles in over 100 degree heat rather than stop talking and get in my car for the ride). I don't expect anyone to read that journal, and I have no pictures up so there really is nothing to draw anyone to it, unless I give them a link.

I have a blog at another site, with the pictures of how to make a rope flogger, because so many people asked for them, and I got tired of emailing them out.

And I journal here. Sometimes I have something I want to express, and instead of doing it in a "look at me" post on the forums, I put it there.

I would definitely chafe at an assignment to keep a journal, or to write every day, or with any set frequency. The surest way to get my mind to freeze up and go blank is to tell me I have to write. LOL. That darn bratty brain.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 11:09:21 AM

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I have a blog that I post on almost every day. www.kinkycrafts.info and the reason I do it is because I used to be so embarrassed to talk about this! Capnspankins is also making me read erotic literature out loud to him. I'm getting much better at being explicit!

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 12:08:03 PM

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greetings prizedpossession,

i am trying to keep a written journal for myself. i have always been very bad at it. i'm determined to do it this time, though. my master doesn't require me to keep a journal for him; i would like to, and i've mentioned it, but i'm not sure if he'd want me to, really. he occasionally has me do writing assignments and likes it when i email him with my thoughts, so if i'm able to open myself up more in my paper journal and i get better at it, i may try to share it with him. i also keep an online public blog which he knows about/has access to.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 2:01:25 PM

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When I first met Master, I started writing down my feelings because they were so strong and overwhelming, I had to write to clarify it for myself. After a bit, I realized I needed to show Him because I was much clearer in writing. In His eternal quest of everything that goes on in my mind, He decided I would write Him every night we were not together.

It's been about 21 months now and like someone mentioned before, my entries have changed. My feelings are not jumbled, I understand my submission so much better and our love has matured and stabilized. I find myself writing mundane things as often as I write my longings, feelings and thoughts of us. But Master still requires it of me because sometimes when I start writing, and think I have nothing to say, these things will start spilling out of me- sometimes dark desires I had not identified before, sometimes issues concerning me that I had not acknowledged. He sees the journal as another tool to see into me and, therefore, control me more completely.

He may or may not respond to my nightly musings. If I ask about something specific, He usually will tell me His reaction, but not always.

Sometimes I think it a hassle, but as He is a non-micro-manager, it is one of the few things required of me daily, so I have no problem (as if I had a say, anyway. Ha!).

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 5:08:24 PM

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I journal daily for my Sir, well I suppose I should say for both of us because it's been very helpful for both of us. My journal entries vary, they range from mushy "I love You's", thoughts, and feelings I have, to nilla stuff, and naughty nasty things I'd like to share with Him

or we've done together.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 5:35:48 PM

WillowRain

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Reposted:
I think females in general really like journaling- it lets them say "lookit me!" without actually having to say it.

But I think too often submissives become dependent on the journal, RATHER than using it as a launchpad into more meaningful and direct contact. If the dom doesn't take the impetus to bring up issues in person, I find that the issue doesn't really get raised at all- leading the sub to think that the dom doesn't care or isn't interested, rather than simply directly bringing it up.

I also feel it raises too many expectations- if a dom misses a reading or doesn't give some feedback on it, subs often begin to feel let down or insecure.

I think encouraging someone to express themselves through writing is a fabulous idea. But it should not become a crutch or substitute for actual discussion of issues, and should not become a burden or symbol of attention for the dominant to take on.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1352137/mpage_1/key_journal/tm.htm#1353043
Keeping a journal?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_324861/mpage_1/key_journal/tm.htm
Journaling for subs

http://www.collarchat.com/m_496605/mpage_1/key_journal/tm.htm#496785
Keeping a Journal

http://www.collarchat.com/m_563275/mpage_1/key_journal/tm.htm#563324
slave journaling

I resemble this. Meh...

Well spoken.

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RE: Journals? - 1/7/2008 6:18:45 PM

denika

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I've journaled for years, sometimes simple sentences other times, page after page, I even have little notes jotted on my calender. But they were all just for me.Rob doesn't read them, not that I keep them hidden or anything but they are personal and I write freely, so sometimes there might be things in there that could be seen as hurtful , or just plain boring *s* to him.
I started journing in October for Wolf, it's a daily email written whenever I have a minute just to let him know how my day is or if anything is on my mind. It's place I can say whatever I want, venting or mushiness. Sometimes he sends back a reply but mostly not. We talk daily as well but some how the written word is just diffrent.

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