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gorgeous1 -> RE: For those of you (1/7/2008 3:04:24 PM)
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ORIGINAL: toservez
In terms of going from non 24/7 to 24/7 the biggest problem I have seen is the realization that most of the time things are just not as heighten with 24/7. Most not living together or turn on and off the power exchange things tend to be able to anticipate, prepare and get use to when play time or other things are done. Plus get breaks in between. I think expectation that 24/7 is going to feel always like when you are in power exchange mode or having to do things whether dominant or submissive when you are not prepared or feel like doing them is often where specific problems can come up from both people.
Yes, that is a good point. One thing Capnspankins and I have figured out this time around is that it's good to have a ritual in place that will mark the beginning of the total power exchange (TPE) and we mark it by changing my collar. I basically have three collars.
I have my sterling silver Tiffany & Co. chain with padlock that I wear during the day and out in public. I have a "light service" collar which is a thin black collar with a simple silver ring and it's comfortable enough to sleep in. Then I have my heavy service collar which is thick and heavy and has several attachment points on it. After we have finished our mundane daily chores, and the kids are in bed, Sir tells me to get one of my other collars. It really helps us both get into our roles, and helps me remember my rules.
During the rest of the day, I have rules I have to obey, and we do little things to keep the 24/7 fun going like he'll give me a kiss and a spank goodbye, or I'll address him as Sir when nobody else is listening.
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