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Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 6:49:04 AM   
SissyChrissy2


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Status: offline 		I have noticed all the reponses i get seem to ask for a tribute upfront. Is this normal for dommes to do or are they trying to scam me?
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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 6:55:19 AM   
backseatbebe


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Status: offline 		lol in a sence scam you
but really it just means they are pro Dommes
sadly its the majority of Dommes on here
and on top of it with pro Dommes there is normally no sexual actitivty

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 7:11:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2
I have noticed all the reponses i get seem to ask for a tribute upfront. Is this normal for dommes to do or are they trying to scam me?


I assume you mean you contacted someone who seems to have a profile in a personal capacity versus a professional capacity and were asked for a tribute. It might be a scam, it might not be. It is reasonable to be skeptical.

I am not sure how common or not it is to ask for tributes but it is not universal. Usually profiles of persons who expect tribute say so explicitly or through hints, allowing one to avoid the matter by not pursuing those profiles.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 7:20:33 AM   
MissMorrigan


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Status: offline 		Chrissy, do read through the posts on the 'Ranting' thread, using the search facility will find it for you. Pro dom/mes are very upfront regarding their objectives, the persons you likely refer to are opportunists and not to be confused with pro dom/mes.

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 8:01:07 AM   
DiannaVesta


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Status: offline 		yes Chrissy do a search here. There are plenty of threads about this.

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 8:15:59 AM   
rubberpet


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Status: offline 		There are dommes out there who don't ask or require tribute, but they are far and few between.  Most are scammers who are just looking for a quick buck or looking to land free stuff.  They are the ones who are in search of "financial slaves".  Ugh...gimme a freakin' break!  The ones that are real and cherish us for our submission and not our bank accounts are the ones we as subs should bend over backwards for.

I am so blessed to have found a domme who didn't require some sort of tribute to talk to her.  She was a weird one, though.  The only things expected of me, if I became Her property, were unconditional love, complete devotion to Her and only Her, and be someone She could depend on in times of need.   What a novel idea!  She's a domme that believes submission comes from the heart and not from the wallet.  That is the kind of domme that won my heart!

Keep your head up, Chrissy.  There are dommes are out there that are real and not looking to make a quick buck or get free shit.  Be sincere in your search and a wonderful domme will cross your path.

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 9:01:37 AM   
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Status: offline 		SissyCrissy2, don't get discouraged by insensitive and fakes posing as ProDommes.  I agree with the previous posts, real ProDommes will immediately identify themselves and explain their services thoroughly. It is their livelihood and a self-respecting ProDomme will be protective of her image and her reputation. The others are in to make money at the expense of trusting subs. Rubberpet makes a good point. Be patient, ask a lot of questions and go slowly to determine what is the Domme you are talking to going after.
 
Good luck in your search,
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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 9:21:40 AM   
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ORIGINAL: rubberpet

There are dommes out there who don't ask or require tribute, but they are far and few between.  Most are scammers who are just looking for a quick buck or looking to land free stuff.  They are the ones who are in search of "financial slaves".  Ugh...gimme a freakin' break!  The ones that are real and cherish us for our submission and not our bank accounts are the ones we as subs should bend over backwards for.

I am so blessed to have found a domme who didn't require some sort of tribute to talk to her.  She was a weird one, though.  The only things expected of me, if I became Her property, were unconditional love, complete devotion to Her and only Her, and be someone She could depend on in times of need.   What a novel idea!  She's a domme that believes submission comes from the heart and not from the wallet.  That is the kind of domme that won my heart!

Keep your head up, Chrissy.  There are dommes are out there that are real and not looking to make a quick buck or get free shit.  Be sincere in your search and a wonderful domme will cross your path.


And what's to say that as a "submissive" that your wallet doesn't have some attachment to your heart.

One of the hottest financial domination stories...it's real it happened...I ever heard was about a Domme who attached a pinching string around Her guy's cock and balls and had him cut a hole in his pocket to pull the string through. Then they went to the bank and She had him with draw a certain amount of cash in a certain set of bills...all the time playing with the string....then She made the teller count the cash three more times.

That's hot. Cheap men and women have a great deal of attachment to their wallets. So why wouldn't submission be attached to that in a way? Me thinks you strech your version of this too far. If somebody wants to see a Pro don't push your feelings onto it.

To the OP: I filter Her messages all time. She's a Pro I wait until the second or third message to let them know what Her rates are however in Her profile it says She's a Pro. So you know what you're getting into. Then you're required to pay up front once you have arrived for the session. Alot of people decide not to show then...so the rates go up cuz my time and Her's have been wasted. Such is the consequences of ill intentioned persons. Good luck in your search

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 9:24:41 AM   
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ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2

I have noticed all the reponses i get seem to ask for a tribute upfront. Is this normal for dommes to do or are they trying to scam me?

If ALL the responses you are getting are asking for tribute, you might want to change your search criteria and read the profiles a bit better.  The Pros on here make no bones about stating they will expect tribute. Those who dont mention it until you write are more likely scmming or just trying to see if they can get it or not.

But to answer your actual question, no, we do not ALL ask for tribute.  My boys have never been asked to pay for anything for me, or buy me anything, in order to be allowed to meet or serve.

DV

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Keep in mind there are a good number of men and women INTO the finiancial domination so just because a Domme wants it doesnt make her a scammer all the time. It could just mean you arent much of a fit. Pros and financial Dommes are pretty upfront about what they want.  Scammers usualy wait until you are hooked and wanting more and then spring it on you. --


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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 9:49:01 AM   
ShaktiSama


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Status: offline 		People who ask for anything "up front" are by definition not scammers.

"Scam" implies a certain amount of misdirection or dishonesty.  Asking for money up front isn't dishonest per se.  Just kinda unpleasant, if you're not one of those very few people who are into "financial domination" for its own sake. 

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 10:10:41 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		No its not normal unless its a PRODomme in which case they do this for a fee. Lifestyle Dommes like myself do not ask for tribute or any form of payment. So if its a ProDomme you are seeking then yes be prepared to pay.

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 10:14:01 AM   
rubberpet


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Status: offline 		Well, Jen, some subbies open their wallets as a sign of submission, but I don't and have never understood it.  I'm more than happy to spend tons of money on Mistress for the simple fact that She doesn't expect me to do so.  I want to spoil Her to no end and do things for Her no one has ever done before.  However, if the first thing a domme asks for is my wallet, she'll just get the finger in response.  My wallet is not an extension to my submission.  My submission is based on my heart, not dead presidents.  To each their own, I guess.

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 10:27:20 AM   
undergroundsea


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ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama
People who ask for anything "up front" are by definition not scammers.


If their profile makes it clear or if they make that intention known in intial communications then I see your point about not having a hidden agenda that is revealed later in the conversation, which is also known to occur. However, it can be a scam if they do not follow through with what is promised after the tribute.

Many years ago I responded to a personal in a local alternative publication and received a form letter indicating that to continue conversation I must send $100 tribute to prove I am sincere. I did not do so--I suspected I would either never hear back, or that I might be strung along with similar demands.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 10:40:20 AM   
SissyChrissy2


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Status: offline 		yes sea, this is what i suspect. It's the fact they ask you to go on some external messanger or email them at their private address straight away that strikes me as strange.

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 10:51:20 AM   
BoiJen


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Status: offline 		Not always...sometimes it's a matter of the interface for collarme not being all that familiar. It may just be a matter of comfort for a person who is unfamiliar or uncomfortable with the interface of the site.

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 11:26:23 AM   
undergroundsea


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ORIGINAL: SissyChrissy2
yes sea, this is what i suspect. It's the fact they ask you to go on some external messanger or email them at their private address straight away that strikes me as strange.


I am not sure that in itself means anything. For emails, it might be because of CM TOS. It could be the point BoiJen makes about unsophisticated interface of CM. Another reason could be that there are ads on multiple sites and all communication is directed to one place. More often than not though, I would be wary of immediately moving to a private email address. I expect most people who are seeking personal relationships would want to use that added layer of barrier that CM provides until they decide they wish to reveal an outside address.

In some cases, less so on CM than on other sites like alt and craigs list, the attempt to get an email from an internet address is to phish for email addresses and to try to get you to go see their naked photos on a membership site.

Cheers,

Sea

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 11:45:46 AM   
LadySeraphina


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Status: offline 		Just to throw in my two cents - I'm a pro, and my profile states that clearly. I am also seeking a long-term personal slave, and my profile states that as well. When boys approach me, I question in which capacity they are contacting me, and for those seeking to be my slave, there is no tribute involved. If they are to move in, hell yes they will contribute to the household, but not until/unless I accept them (yes, and vice-versa) just as my clients don't pay until they are in a session.

As to your heart and your wallet being connected, I just have to say that the slave I have now (and fully intend to keep, he is a wonderful boy) requested to tithe all of his money to me when he moves in, and just be permitted a small allowance. The idea of working 'for' me, earning money specifically to give it to me, seems to make him hot. *shrug* Of course, he has money put aside should he ever need it, and this also means that I pay for all his needs.

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 12:48:19 PM   
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Status: offline 		I demand 50kabillion dollars to even talk to you.......hell, this reply just cost you 2kabillion.

All major credit cards accepted, the bill is in the mail as we type.


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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 1:28:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I demand 50kabillion dollars to even talk to you.......hell, this reply just cost you 2kabillion.

All major credit cards accepted, the bill is in the mail as we type.




OK..........but lunch is on YOU

Jeff


and the check is in the mail.....and I won't cum in your...........nevermind.....who am I kidding..:)

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RE: Do all Dommes require tributes upfront? - 1/7/2008 1:30:43 PM   
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I demand 50kabillion dollars to even talk to you.......hell, this reply just cost you 2kabillion.

Will you accept a 3rd-party, post dated, out of state check?

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