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RoughFN -> does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 12:14:02 PM)

I know that this is a YMMV question, but I've started wondering how many people fall on which side of the aisle.

I guess this is mainly for the masochists. If you start off in a bad mood (for whatever reason. Life's got you down), does a good torture session tend to make you feel better or feel worse?

On the one hand, it's the ultimate time to tune out and fly and let everything else fade away, so it might make you feel better (at least temporarily). On the other hand, if you're not in the proper headspace to be receptive to it, it might not be beneficial at all and in fact may be the last thing in the world that you need.

I think most of my girls have fallen into the latter category. They tend to overthink and obsess and worry about things to the point that they can't enjoy their normally enjoyable activities. A few even said that they rationally know that it should help calm them down and put 'em in a better mood but still can't quite reach that point where it'll work for them. If they're happy to begin with, it makes them even more happy. I guess it may almost work as simply a mood enhancer, as opposed to something that makes them feel better or worse. Just intensifies where they're at at the moment.

I'm also glossing over the fact that I could just as easily whip them anyway regardless of what they want, and disregarding the subs that will say that they'll do anything necessary to please their master. Don't get me wrong - you guys are awesome and I'm not knocking that at all, I'm just curious right now about how many people can work themselves into a good mood and how many need to stay away 'til things are dealt with.



Shawn1066 -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 12:31:09 PM)

I wouldn't be in the right mindset to enjoy it, so no...I don't believe it'd be helpful at all.  It just tends to be too intense to really fix a mood.  Now, cuddling would help.  I just couldn't fully enjoy a torture session.  It's not a stress relief thing for me at all.



mistoferin -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 12:36:02 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: RoughFN
On the one hand, it's the ultimate time to tune out and fly and let everything else fade away, so it might make you feel better (at least temporarily). On the other hand, if you're not in the proper headspace to be receptive to it, it might not be beneficial at all and in fact may be the last thing in the world that you need.


You just answered your own question.



beltainefaerie -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 12:43:12 PM)

For me, it almost always helps.  I love to be beaten and played with roughly and it calms me in a way that other things don't.  I have a serene stillness that then pervades all other aspects of my life and I usually find that I feel better and accomplish a lot in the days following.  In fact, if I have not been beaten or used in awhile it can put me in a bad mood, though we do not usually go that long between times.

However, when my husband used to hit me with things (because he knows I'm a masochist) and there was no control involved or really desire on his part, it sometimes left me feeling cold and moody.  It is very important to me that my pain is for someone else's benefit and pleasure, not merely for my sensations alone. It just took us a few years to figure that out.



xxblushesxx -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 12:58:31 PM)

Yep, it helps me! (I was very surprised when I realized that.)

~Christina



toservez -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 1:01:51 PM)

Depends on the reason why my mood.

If I am in a mood more about obsessing over something basically transient and superficial then some good impact play is just what the doctor ordered.

If I am bothered by something that has meat to it then certainly in the moment it might be forgotten but I will fall back afterwards right back into my mood. It does not cause any real damage unless it is a serious bad thing but I am able to communicate this with my Master.

My Master in learning me had to learn that a bad shift from work meant many things. Normally I am like most submissives and cannot stand to ask for something directly for my benefit but I will come home from a shift and sometimes ask my Master for a beating to reboot my system.



sweetwenchie -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 1:04:10 PM)

i obsess, over analyze things, and tend  get overwhelmed far too easily.  A good thrashing seems to put my  head right back where it should be.



DesFIP -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 3:03:02 PM)

Depends on what I'm upset about, how connected I feel with him, and my headspace at the moment. Ask her when she's feeling precarious or just try it and pay attention to how she handles it. Sometimes I can just relax and start to enjoy things and other times I'll dissolve in tears and feel worse.



adoracat -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 3:36:29 PM)

~fast reply~

most of my bad moods happen when i'm frustrated at how my body wont work the way i wish it to, and i'm physically hurting and pissed off that Daddy wont allow me to resort to the behavior that does help but disappoints him (cutting...and i DO obey the "dont injure my property" order, but i am allowed to pout about it and ordered to tell him when things are getting bad for me)

so yes, having Daddy spank or flog me when those moments hit helps me a lot.

kitten



lilabbotsfordgrl -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 3:40:52 PM)

good question.... sometimes I feel much better and distracted and happier and full of endorphins.... but sometimes it just sends me deeper into my bad mood and almost feeling dissociated and almost suicidal...... so it's a complicated answer sorry.



LaMspeach -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/7/2008 8:16:14 PM)

Sometimes a spanking helps center me so I can find my way through whatever is bothering me.  Other times Master won’t spank me because he says I am not in the right frame of mind. Other times he spanks me just because he feels like it no matter what kind of mood I am in. So I can honestly say I have never had a spanking put me in a worse mood or bad place. I can find pleasure in what ever he wants from me. So knowing I am pleasing him and doing what he wants can change any mood for the better.



michelleryder -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/8/2008 5:15:48 AM)

for me yes as im one of those who cant help but laugh when i get a tanning no matter how much it hurts



Sabella -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/8/2008 6:03:15 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sweetwenchie

i obsess, over analyze things, and tend  get overwhelmed far too easily.  A good thrashing seems to put my  head right back where it should be.
Yes. Clears everything out again *hums happily*



LadyLynx -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/8/2008 4:57:27 PM)

So far it has helped me, getting a sound flogging or spanking.  And having just experienced caning alittle over a week ago, I think I can add that to the list.



AquaticSub -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/8/2008 5:01:06 PM)

Depends.

I know, awful answer but it's the truth. He's thrashed me when I'm in a bad mood and all it did was piss me off more than I already was. But sometimes me being in a pissy mood leads to some really hot, unplanned play that completely leaves me in a mood to be his good girl.

When I'm depressed thrashing really doesn't help. I can't get in the right headspace and I get more depressed that I'm not going where he wants me to go, even though I know it's not my fault. However some loving play time helps me out a lot. There is nothing quite so uplifting as hearing "That's my pretty kitty, that's my good girl" purred in my ear.



sexyred1 -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/8/2008 7:36:22 PM)

It only helps if the one doing it is someone you really want and you really want it. Not to overcome something. It is ok to just want to get thrashed, really.



IrishMist -> RE: does a good thrashing help or hurt a bad mood? (1/9/2008 4:42:33 AM)

quote:

I guess this is mainly for the masochists. If you start off in a bad mood (for whatever reason. Life's got you down), does a good torture session tend to make you feel better or feel worse?

A torture session? No

A good ole fashioned beating? Hell yes [:)]



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