i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol

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TheMagicsInYou -> i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 3:05:32 AM)
i am sumbissive, and i love it...i could never dominate sombody else, i am way to sweet to hurt someone for no reason... but at times when i am beeing dominated, if my "dom" tells me to do something i dont want to do...i seriously dont want to do it...in a lazy seince...i dont want to go down on my dom, all the time...i get tired of it... and sometimes if he tells me no and slaps me really hard in the face, i feel like saying fuck u and punching him in the head....though i have really good self control, and wont do it becouse he is fully dom..i still get pissed...but generally i absolutly love it...i live for it... i just kind of want to take control and say no sometimes, but like i said my "dom" is fully dominate and thats wat i love about him, i could never have a switch becouse i find it a huge turn off when guys let woman take any sort of control over them...i think i just need to come to a mutual understanding with him, but i dont want to be let go becouse of it...should i say something?...should i bare through it?....or will things change over time, becouse im very new at this, beeing submissive??? ...i dont really see myself beeing a slave, slave all the time...im a little bit spoiled and use to having wat i want, i kno that sounds bad but its my life and thats wat i do, watever makes me happy...and i am happy this way and i find great plessure in bondage, beeing submissive and making somebody else happy...but i need to be happy as well....i just want balance, can i do that and still be a sub?

AquaticSub -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 3:12:39 AM)
If things change, it's going to be because you talked to him. He can't read your mind. Nobody's perfect - sometimes we submissives just don't fucking feel like doing whatever it is for whatever reason. I'm perfectly free to tell Valyraen when I don't feel like doing something. If it didn't matter to him, or he understands why I don't want to do whatever it is, I'm usually excused from the task. But sometimes he just grins and says "Tough". It's not taking any control if the ultimate decision if you do or don't rests in his hands. Don't let fear of topping from the bottom control your relationship and block communication.

DesFIP -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 4:17:15 AM)
What Aqua said. You need to add open and honest communication to your relationship or it won't last. And he needs to accept that you are simply too tired to want to do something instead of claiming you aren't a twue sub. We're people too. We need down time or we get burned out. If he hasn't been smart enough to build some into the daily schedule, then it's up to you to talk to him about your needs. Because he isn't a mind reader.

Leonardo -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 7:34:53 AM)
Yep. Ya'll need to talk. Communication, or lack thereof, is one of the major causes of break downs in relationships.

darkpassenger434 -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 7:47:31 AM)
Well just because you might need control over certain things in your life, that doesn't necessarily make you a switch. I agree with the above posts that you need to communicate. Prehaps getting slapped in the face is a hard limit for you? I'm pretty sure having to have some time to yourself is not at all abnormal for a sub or even a slave. You ask if you can do that and still be a sub. Prehaps you should ask if you can not do that and still be happy. It seems more important to me. Just my opinion. -R

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 7:53:55 AM)
I think there is a fine line that we all have to tread. You need someone to be in control, and that control means sometimes you will do things you don't want to do. However, if you could say "no" and avoid doing those things, it wouldn't be the relationship for which you are looking. In this lifestyle, it is all about compatibility. You must find a dominant that, more or less, makes you do the stuff you want to do, and, more or less, doesn't make you do the stuff you don't want to do. No match is going to be perfect, but it is amazing how close two people can come... Taggard

kinkypuppy2 -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 8:01:43 AM)
Sounds like you are a normal well adjusted submisssive to me.

SailingBum -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 8:12:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: TheMagicsInYou i am sumbissive, and i love it...i could never dominate sombody else, i am way to sweet to hurt someone for no reason... but at times when i am beeing dominated, if my "dom" tells me to do something i dont want to do...i seriously dont want to do it...in a lazy seince...i dont want to go down on my dom, all the time...i get tired of it... and sometimes if he tells me no and slaps me really hard in the face, i feel like saying fuck u and punching him in the head....though i have really good self control, and wont do it becouse he is fully dom..i still get pissed...but generally i absolutly love it...i live for it... i just kind of want to take control and say no sometimes, but like i said my "dom" is fully dominate and thats wat i love about him, i could never have a switch becouse i find it a huge turn off when guys let woman take any sort of control over them...i think i just need to come to a mutual understanding with him, but i dont want to be let go becouse of it...should i say something?...should i bare through it?....or will things change over time, becouse im very new at this, beeing submissive??? ...i dont really see myself beeing a slave, slave all the time...im a little bit spoiled and use to having wat i want, i kno that sounds bad but its my life and thats wat i do, watever makes me happy...and i am happy this way and i find great plessure in bondage, beeing submissive and making somebody else happy...but i need to be happy as well....i just want balance, can i do that and still be a sub? Yea tell your dom that you don't want to do it cuz yer lazy and then punch him in the head. Wait a nano second and wait for the fireworks. BE SURE to include LAZY. Please post what happens next... BadOne

Stephann -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 8:49:08 AM)
Sounds like you're learning that you're not really meant to be (at the moment) a full slave. You've heard this I'm sure, but you're young and the things you want today won't be the same as the things you want in three, five, ten years (being about ten years older than you, I know what I wanted at 19 and at 29 were VERY different.) This isn't a dig on your age, but rather a reminder that you're still growing and learning. You might grow to love the way he's treating you, and you might grow to despise him. Whatever way it goes, as others have said, you really need to talk to him and tell him how you feel. A good portion of what you're describing sounds like, to me, part of learning patience and humility. For a girl who grew up being spoiled and given what she wants quickly, a slap across the face and a harsh demand to OBEY! can be exhilarating, terrifying, and demeaning. Learning humility can be very painful. If you manage to, I think you'll find his expectations much easier to embrace. And, in the end, if you're not happy with the type of service expected of you, you always know where the door is. Good luck, Stephan

Kalista07 -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 9:05:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum Yea tell your dom that you don't want to do it cuz yer lazy and then punch him in the head. Wait a nano second and wait for the fireworks. BE SURE to include LAZY. Please post what happens next... BadOne yawn Once again an utterly helpful and insightful post from the jackass gallery.

MistressNoName -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 9:09:32 AM)
Sounds like it's re-negotiation time and you may just need a little adversarial play every now and then. It works for some dynamics, but both need to agree upon the boundaries, first. Best, MNN

mnottertail -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 9:09:35 AM)
I don't want to go with the kinda girls that wanna punk their dom. Ron

KnOcala -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 9:14:31 AM)
talk or walk

SailingBum -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 9:36:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Kalista07 quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum Yea tell your dom that you don't want to do it cuz yer lazy and then punch him in the head. Wait a nano second and wait for the fireworks. BE SURE to include LAZY. Please post what happens next... BadOne yawn Once again an utterly helpful and insightful post from the jackass gallery. lol gotta love it I'm a jack ass. Because my kink doesn't match yours. FYI Kalista resistance play happens to be one of my kinks...Although none of my girls over the years ever hit me her struggling wrestling makes the reward all the sweeter. She looks so hot for a week due to all her bruises. I do force her to get the pain toys out along with the blind fold so she won't know whats going to happen next... BadOne It's a sick word and I'm a happy man

CalifChick -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 11:40:17 AM)
FR~~~~~~~ Face slapping is a hard limit for me. Seriously. I'm not responsible for what happens after I get slapped. It's like you slapped an alternate personality into me, well one of two. One would seriously kick your ass from here until next week and not remember a thing about it. The other one would sink into a funk so low that the relationship may never recover. And no predicting which one it would be. So is it that you aren't willing to do what he wants, or is it that he is crossing a hard limit? Cali

SailingBum -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 12:00:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick FR~~~~~~~ Face slapping is a hard limit for me. Seriously. I'm not responsible for what happens after I get slapped. It's like you slapped an alternate personality into me, well one of two. One would seriously kick your ass from here until next week and not remember a thing about it. The other one would sink into a funk so low that the relationship may never recover. And no predicting which one it would be. So is it that you aren't willing to do what he wants, or is it that he is crossing a hard limit? Cali Yep i agree a hard limit is just that.

ModeratorEleven -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 12:06:23 PM)
Folks, enough with the namecalling please. XI

KyttynTheMynx -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 12:06:25 PM)
It honestly sounds like you need some down time once in a while where theres no set roles. Talk to him. Ask him if once or twice a week can you two just let go of everything.

gorgeous1 -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 12:17:06 PM)
Unless I let Capnspankins know ahead of time that I am unable to perform oral (like I feel like I have a sore throat or a stuffy nose) then I'm expected to do it- it's all part of the submission, and not doing it because "I don't feel like it" isn't a valid excuse. I've gotten so good at it that he claims if he had to only have either vaginal or oral sex for the rest of his life, he'd choose my mouth, no contest- and this is from a girl who wouldn't even "kiss it" when we first met! Laziness just doesn't work in D/s relationships. I know my Sir puts a great deal of time and effort into being a good and thorough Master and taking me for a wild ride...the very least I can do to show him my gratitude is put in 100% effort. Sometimes, when I am performing my "sword swallowing" trick, I just cannot continue. Sometimes, my nipples are really sensitive and I can't bear clamps. Sometimes, my butt is really tender and I can't take a heavy caning. Sometimes I'm feeling claustrophobic and don't want to be tied tight. Master is always 100% present and watching my reactions very carefully so that he can modify what we're doing without my having to say anything, or he can ask me how I'm feeling to get accurate feedback. And of course, if that fails, my staring at him with huge pleading puppy dog eyes melts his sadistic little heart! In all seriousness though, don't be lazy...that's lame. Have a thumbs up attitude (meaning have a desire to please, always) and you'll keep your man. Talk to him, ask him what other things you can do to please him so you have a backup plan if you can't do oral. Also, don't forget that you can always take a break with your mouth if you know how to use your hand the way he likes it- that can help you get him to the point where you can finish him off. Let's face it- guys like having their dicks sucked and sucked well. Learn how to do it better than any other woman he's ever had, and learn how to crave it. TELL him how bad you need it. Hell- I have gone from hating it to loving it so much that sometimes I HAVE to have him in my mouth to cum! It's all mind over matter, my dear.

charmdpetKeira -> RE: i love beeing a sub but sometimes i want to punck my dom in the fucking head lol (1/8/2008 12:44:22 PM)
quote: but at times when i am beeing dominated, if my "dom" tells me to do something i dont want to do...i seriously dont want to do it...in a lazy seince...i dont want to go down on my dom, all the time...i get tired of it... and sometimes if he tells me no and slaps me really hard in the face, i feel like saying fuck u and punching him in the head....though i have really good self control, and wont do it becouse he is fully dom..i still get pissed...but generally i absolutly love it...i live for it... My suggestion starts with figuring out why you feel the way you do, in the areas highlighted. Something about how you are perceiving him or the situation, is making you feel these things, but because of your saying “but like i said my "dom" is fully dominate and thats wat i love about him”, if I were in your situation, I would start searching my memory as far back as I remember, until I ran across something that makes me feel similar. Sort those feelings out, in order to understand how they originated. Some things to remember, if you decide to take my advice; what we initially think is the problem, often times isn’t. You have to think of the events in the same terms that you would have perceived them as, at the age you were when they happened, but rationalize them with the knowledge you have now. If you wish to maintain the relationship, talking is inevitable. The more you know about the feelings you are having, the better odds you're giving him, in helping you find the answer to your problem. Then it is up to you to fix it. quote: i just want balance, can i do that and still be a sub? Bottom line is, only you can answer this question. Best wishes, k

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