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A sub's Tears - 8/25/2005 7:38:42 AM

Quivver

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I had asked on the sub board about the things that bring sub's tears. For the most part only sub's responded. Now I'm wondering what you all think of Tears. How do you seek them (yes I know some prefer them on their cock)

Do you seek them from pain, pleasure, a mind phuck? Happy, Thankful, scared? and last but not least, how do you deal with the Tears?

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RE: A sub's Tears - 8/25/2005 8:58:20 AM

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Tears from happiness are best for me. However I can be pleased if they are also from her realising that she has displeased me. That tends to show me that she is genuinly remorsefull.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 8/25/2005 9:26:04 AM

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It all depends on the situation as to what caused the tears.

Yes my pet cries during sessions. It's just a reaction as she falls into sub space. It dosen't mean "no" or "stop" but a reaction of all the emotions and sensations that are pulsating through her body. As I increase things in the scene and I see the lack of tears, that's when I know when to stop and begin the after care.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 8/25/2005 11:07:20 AM

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I'm dacryphillic - seeing her cry from the suffering I have inflicted on her is immensely arousing. Cathartic tears are also very moving for me - I know we are touching deep parts of her.

The part I woudl not be into would be a "mind fuck." As I hear the term used, it is deceitful or at least manipulative. When I think of mind fuck I think of abandoment threats, tellin her she is worthless when she isn't, threatening things that I wouldn't actually do - unethical, less than honest manipultion of her emotions.

That's a huge turn off.

Otherwise, yah, I want to make her weep for me, and then lick and kiss the tears away.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 8/25/2005 1:23:02 PM

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Well i'm not a Master, but i know how Master feels about them. He loves them. He says for ever tear that drops, it shows him how much i love him. Whether its being whipped or caned, or whatever. i am giving to him.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 8/25/2005 4:27:56 PM

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The part I woudl not be into would be a "mind fuck." As I hear the term used, it is deceitful or at least manipulative.

If its being used indiscriminately, I would agree but there those sub/slaves who really get off on a good mindfuck. If you look back on the thread on "Knives" you will find that several loved the mindfuck even though there was no blood drawn. Its neither good or right for some, but those who it is both good and right for, justfies its use. However you know what is best and what works for your girl and yourself.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 8/26/2005 3:08:53 PM

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Tears of fear would be the one's that I as a Dominant couldn't bear from my sub. She isn't much of a cryer, but tears out of fear she are the ones that she wouldn't be able to explain to me, and as such, I would never want her to shed that them.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 8/27/2005 8:59:38 AM

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dacrophilia is a major kink for me. I guess it stirs my sadist nature. My subbie has learned to allow it from herself which has given her a freedom she never knew existed. I also have found that by sceduling a cry, it helps to release endorphines that relieves her stress. We usually have great aftercare. I like a varity of things to make her cry. Face slapping, caning, nipple torture, but a clothed otk spanking from her daddy is her favorite.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 9/4/2005 12:48:45 AM

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I love tears, and when I produce them for play I like to lick them from her face then continue with what made her cry in the first place. As for mind f**ks I only use that for a real punishment i.e. if I felt she has let me down I would make her kneel and tell her she has disappointed me and walk off leaving her in that position to let her think about what she has done. I find that a far more effective punishment than caning or any other pain induced punishment.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 9/4/2005 6:34:31 AM

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Hi all, this is my first post on this forum, just jumping trying to jump in on a fre threads.

I'm a terrible sadist, so tears are a big turn on. However, I think a crying woman can stir somthing very deep inside most men, some primal instinct to protect and take care of women when they're hurt. So, there's almost an emotional conflict going on inside me when I see or hear a woman crying. Kinda like an icy kick to the chest.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 9/4/2005 6:47:21 AM

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In my case it's tears of joy followed closely by tears of thankfulness. I guess I'm not a real sadist cuz I don't enjoy hurting her until she cries. However I have to agree with IB that when she cries in remorse at my displeasure it proves her devotion to me.

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RE: A sub's Tears - 9/6/2005 1:18:34 AM

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I cry and tear often. Sometimes it can be from the pain, but mostly for me it is the emotion I am feeling. When I am scared, I cry. Happy, cry. Needy, yep, cry. I never used to allow myself to shed a single tear, for any reason. It became unhealthy for me not to cry. Now I understand the catharsis that comes from it.

When my Master gave me my first real discipline one of the goals he told me about afterwards was specifically to have me cry. I fought it during, but when it broke, I sobbed heavily. It is a different type of cry. In my space I had gotten to the point I had not concept that his strikes would ever end. It is in that moment that I broke over that edge. He pulled back to comfort me, and make sure I was alright. Then broke me over again, and again. He so knows what he's doing with me. It was exactly what I needed. And he has told me that he likes to make me cry. Even though it is very easy for me to shed tears, I don't just give them away. Master has to work for them.

Now, I understand that I need his hand and to shed tears. Sometimes I crave both. But I save the tears for Him.

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