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takenbyjohnr07 -> The first time (1/9/2008 1:34:15 PM)

i have never been punished so far by my Owner, and i'm not looking forward to the day if it does happen. My question is How did you feel the very first time you were punshed in a relationship, not for play? Was it emotional for you? Did the relationship dynamic change in anyway.



cherrypez -> RE: The first time (1/9/2008 3:00:45 PM)

      For me punishment and play are two very different things.   Play is play and punishment is punishment.   We have never engaged in physical punishment because for me physical is play.   It's extremely rare that I am ever punished and when I have been, it has not at all been emotional.  I can not remember how I felt the first time I was ever punished.   I can not remember the first time I was ever punished by a Dom, my brain does not go back that far even in my current relationship, I can not remember the first time I was punished it simply was too long ago.  For me a punishment serves the purpose of correcting an undesired behavior and I set about an action that will enable me to correct that behavior.
    I can not answer the last question about the dynamic because I guess I don't understand it.     
  



sexyred1 -> RE: The first time (1/9/2008 3:09:18 PM)

You know, you have so many questions about what it feels like to be dominated, what it feels like to be punished, what it feels like to be owned, why people want to be service oriented, etc. etc. and you post all these questions.

One would think you never engaged in this before and yet you say you are owned. How do you know you have the greatest owner if you have so many unanswered questions of the collarme community?

I am just curious since you post all time time and never like the replies, yet keep coming up with new questions for those of us who have experienced all this.

I do not see how someone's view of being punished could help you if you ever get punished, it will be as individual as everything else that goes on in a relationship.




CalifChick -> RE: The first time (1/9/2008 3:17:27 PM)

Maybe when she actually moves in with him, she will understand.

Cali



sexyred1 -> RE: The first time (1/9/2008 3:22:12 PM)

Yes, because, to paraphrase what she said before in the other thread, those who can do, those who haven't, question.



willing2try1984 -> RE: The first time (1/9/2008 4:12:04 PM)

well i have not been punished yet, but daddy has promised me a paddling for getting a bad grade in a class. i am not looking forward to this because i know that its not in fun and i know that it will hurt. but i look at it this way, if i would have been doing as i am suppose to i would not be recieving the spank. I know that daddy will take care of me after the spank has taken place so i am so what looking forward to it, and then again not really



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