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sodsta -> Vulnerability (1/9/2008 8:31:02 PM)

I was asked a question recently about vulnerability, and what makes me feel vulnerable. It was a really interesting question, and quite fun to answer, because I got to do a bit of thinking about different situations (during a scene, mainly) in which I would feel vulnerable. There are different types of vulnerable, and I (and I'm sure all of us) can feel them all depending on the situation. For example, I sometimes find it hard to answer personal questions, or questions of an intimate nature, and that makes me feel vulnerable. That's more a kind of emotional vulnerability, because someone is probing into my innermost thoughts and feelings and I am laying them bare.

Then there's the more physical type of vulnerability, which could come from being tied down or made otherwise helpless with a Domme whom I know has a very wicked streak. Eye contact can also make me feel vulnerable, too, depending on who I am looking at.

What I wanted to ask you guys was, is there anything specific that makes you feel particularly vulnerable? Anything from general feelings of helpless during bondage, right down to tiny little things like the way your Dom/me says hello in the morning.  



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 8:34:24 PM)

Admitting I need help- that's probably near the top of my list.

Like now, it's easy to say "Yes, of course I need help with lots of things" but in the moment itself?

I'm still so used to HAVING to get it done myself, and being so picky about things, it's incredibly difficult to be vulnerable to the point of acknowledging I need help and that it's ok to ask the people around me for it.



mistoferin -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 8:35:58 PM)

Yes, answering personal questions is a tough one for me too. I also always have an extremely vulnerable moment right at the second that the last restraint clicks shut. Always.



mistoferin -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 8:37:08 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Admitting I need help- that's probably near the top of my list.

Like now, it's easy to say "Yes, of course I need help with lots of things" but in the moment itself?

I'm still so used to HAVING to get it done myself, and being so picky about things, it's incredibly difficult to be vulnerable to the point of acknowledging I need help and that it's ok to ask the people around me for it.


Ditto!



tinoketsheli -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 8:38:35 PM)

one of my limits is anal sex, although it is one I am willing to compromise on in the future. But when my Dom would take me from behind and hold my ass checks open would always set me on edge, it was past erotic of an almost panic of "what are you doing? stop right now" kind of thing...
sorry to be graphic [;)]



AFlyInYourWeb -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 8:52:11 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: sodsta

I was asked a question recently about vulnerability, and what makes me feel vulnerable. .

What I wanted to ask you guys was, is there anything specific that makes you feel particularly vulnerable? Anything from general feelings of helpless during bondage, right down to tiny little things like the way your Dom/me says hello in the morning.  


When I was younger, bondage was my first love because it "allowed" me to be vulnerable when that was incredibly hard for me to do. 

But as I matured, I realized it is intimacy which creates the greatest vulnerability.  

Intimacy and vulnerability feed off each other.

That intimacy is what is reflected in your sensitivity to the way your Domina says "good morning".  The more intimate a relationship gets, the more things will remind you of your vulnerability...and your place in her heart.  Never forget that to create the intimacy you do have, she has become emotionally vulnerable, too.



ksub4u -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 8:52:33 PM)

Eye contact always makes me feel very vulnerable - always has, even with past vanilla partners.  I have a difficult time because eyes reveal a lot to me, and I know my partner is seeing a lot in mine.  I feel very vulnerable also, when crying.  I am normally a strong person, and to lean on someone makes me feel open in a way that can be almost painful. 



TethersEnd -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 8:57:06 PM)

I have to agree with Fly and ksub, eye contact usually starts it, but the intmacy beyond that shakes me to the core.  



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 9:00:39 PM)

Admitting true needs and desires makes me feel very vulnerable because it totally opens me up to rejection of my heart. But, I do my best ot be transparent for my slaves, friends and family.

Master Fire



slavetaboo -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 9:42:40 PM)

I find vulnerability in far too many things to just list a few. The actual daily interaction pulls me closer because I am so open. I would even say that I feel vulnerable simply in the presence of someone whom I know can control and manipulate me. In fact, I look for someone who has the quality to do this to me.



KatyLied -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 9:45:10 PM)

quote:


What I wanted to ask you guys was, is there anything specific that makes you feel particularly vulnerable?


Specifically?  Being bound and seeing a bottle of Tabasco sauce sitting on the dresser.



ksub4u -> RE: Vulnerability (1/9/2008 9:46:24 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TethersEnd

I have to agree with Fly and ksub, eye contact usually starts it, but the intmacy beyond that shakes me to the core.  


I'm so glad that I'm not alone in this.  It's something I'm working on with my Master, to be able to be so open to him.  It's hard, and sometimes while in the midst of it all, I have to mentally give myself a talking to so that I give that vulnerability to him.  I know he wants it, but fortunately he understands it's a process. 



malloves69 -> RE: Vulnerability (1/10/2008 4:47:18 AM)

love strapon play and being fisted by my mistress [:)] but for me being a submissive male i find while doing so even to this day and we have been doing it now for almost 2 years [:)] me bending over doggy style i feel is very vulnerable once she is getting ready to take me fist with her strapons and then her fist [:)] love her being in control but once she has opened me up and is inside of me i am truly vulnerable to her as she takes me this way [:)] love it ..what can i say ? [:)] i trust her completely but what a powerfull exchange of power it is me being the male ...and she does it in such a loving and caring way only a woman can do [:)] simply amazing i must say ...have fun ,mal



Dnomyar -> RE: Vulnerability (1/10/2008 5:32:13 AM)

Katy what brand of tobasco sauce.



IrishMist -> RE: Vulnerability (1/10/2008 5:39:17 AM)

quote:

What I wanted to ask you guys was, is there anything specific that makes you feel particularly vulnerable?

Not being in control of myself; but not because it scares me. Losing control, for me, can lead to a very dangerous situation.



KatyLied -> RE: Vulnerability (1/10/2008 5:45:10 AM)

Accept no imitations or cheap brands!

http://www.valleydistributing.com/images/1255.jpg


(actually I can't recall the brand of hot sauce, I did learn that milk does cool down the effects)



tinoketsheli -> RE: Vulnerability (1/10/2008 9:50:42 AM)

now i am interested - what is the tobasco sauce for??? [8|]



MissHarlet -> RE: Vulnerability (1/10/2008 10:26:06 AM)

Discussing my health issues with a prospective submissive or with my submissve when I am having a bad day.



breatheasone -> RE: Vulnerability (1/10/2008 10:50:09 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Admitting true needs and desires makes me feel very vulnerable because it totally opens me up to rejection of my heart. But, I do my best ot be transparent for my slaves, friends and family.

Master Fire


This hits it right on for me....all of what she said...but especially what I highlighted in red



velvetslave -> RE: Vulnerability (1/10/2008 11:08:49 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: ksub4u

Eye contact always makes me feel very vulnerable - always has, even with past vanilla partners.  I have a difficult time because eyes reveal a lot to me, and I know my partner is seeing a lot in mine. 


Eye contact does it for me as well.  Talk about feeling emotionally naked!



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