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takenbyjohnr07 -> Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/9/2008 9:17:42 PM)
if You are with a sub for the first time who has twice as much experience as You do? Or do You prefer it that way?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/9/2008 9:20:20 PM)
Neither. It would be weird to be with someone who had twice as much experience in EVERYTHING that I have, but I doubt that will ever actually happen.

SirMIkeSD -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/9/2008 9:21:34 PM)
Not a problem for me, hell I might even learn something. Mike

Leatherist -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/9/2008 9:27:21 PM)
Does it come with twice the baggage too?

MasterFireMaam -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/9/2008 9:35:00 PM)
My girl anne has two, and sometimes three, times the experience I have in some areas. Doesn't bother us because she's clear that how I do it is how I do it. she's also good at making suggestions in such a way that she both imparts information and leaves it up to me to decide how to use it. Master Fire

BitaTruble -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/9/2008 9:45:29 PM)
~FR~ I love really old people. I think they pretty much rock and for someone to have twice as much experience as me, they'd have to be pushing really hard at 80, so that qualifies. The one person I played with who was near that mark was also one of the sweetest people I ever met and not at all intimidating. I was thrilled just to be in his presence, but he was so down to Earth, that I was immediately comfortable. Celeste

robertolapiedra -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/10/2008 12:28:49 AM)
Hello takenbyjohnr07. Stop teasing me! RL

AquaticSub -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/10/2008 12:36:57 AM)
~Fast Reply~ It didn't bother Valyraen at all.

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/10/2008 1:05:25 AM)
:)

LadyPact -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/10/2008 11:41:12 PM)
It didn't bother Me a bit when I was first starting out. I pretty much accepted that was the way it was when I was beginning. Today, however, it would be difficult to find anyone who has twice the experience in all areas.

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/11/2008 2:27:18 PM)
i guess when it comes to a person naturally it is a lot easier to do then when You just pl;ay at it from time to time.

LadyHathor -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/11/2008 3:21:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 if You are with a sub for the first time who has twice as much experience as You do? Or do You prefer it that way? A very good question, for Me, I seek a submissive who is driven to use his submission as a means for psychological and spiritual growth--so that's like asking if I would take someone on who has "loved more"--if the connection os there, I am inspired and so is he, experience with any manifestations becomes irrelevant--if the focus is on My experience or My skills with something, then the sub is not interested in the relationship and is more focused on the physical release above all. IMHO

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/12/2008 4:00:55 AM)
That makes a lot of sense.

Justme696 -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/13/2008 3:28:48 AM)
I was wondering what is meant with experience. IS it beeing along time in the lifestyle, or knowing how to handle toys/object,tools? Experience is nice, but for example companies hire young people to get new views on matters. Experience is welcome, but change also.

takenbyjohnr07 -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/13/2008 9:04:26 PM)
i think that a Dom who has one sub for two years, has more experience than a Dom who has had five subs in two years. The first one experiences with his sub 24/7. The other one is constantly finding new ones so he never gets a chance to really build anything. and grow, because he is alway starting over. There are so many other versions, that's just one of mine.

KnOcala -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/14/2008 12:08:19 AM)
I was concerned at first with limited experience but after posting a thread on this website I know that I will be able to learn from a sub and not to be intimidated.

LaTigresse -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/14/2008 6:17:14 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 if You are with a sub for the first time who has twice as much experience as You do? Or do You prefer it that way? My first thought when reading this is "experience at what?" I say that because most of the issues I see brought to these forums has very little to do with technicalities of BDSM and alot to do with common sense. Knowledge of life and dealing with all the shit life throws at you. Knowing how to have a sucessful relationship regardless of the dynamic of the relationship. Those are areas I have a great deal of very sucessful experience in. Sure, I very likely may meet submissives that have more experience with the physical aspects of BDSM, that is to be expected. Of course it does not intimidate me. Those are things I can learn in time.......using my background of common sense and all the other things I have gained, in my 45almost46 years. Regardless of the relationship dynamic, what we bring to the relationship has alot more to do with life skills and so forth, than how to tie a knot or swing a flogger. Now, before anyone gets their panties/boxers in a wad, I am not saying those skill are completely irrelevant, just less important to me. I don't care if you've been practicing the fine arts of BDSM for years, if you are 50 years old and you've never had a sucessful vanilla, D/s, or M/s, relationship, or had a job that lasted any length of time then I am not going to give you alot of credit.

LadyPact -> RE: Does it ever intimadateYyou (1/14/2008 7:16:11 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: takenbyjohnr07 i guess when it comes to a person naturally it is a lot easier to do then when You just pl;ay at it from time to time. I'm not sure I'm understanding the comment. Perhaps this is just a case of not meaning it in reply to the last person who posted.

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