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A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 6:29:41 AM

mnottertail

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Dear Dominatrixes,

I have oft wondered, though never have had the courage of a question till now....

Those of you with multiple male slaves; is there the same sort of shenanigans and infighting and goings on with them as one would generally find in a bevy of female slaves or is the competition mindset very different? What works in controlling these inter and intra personal relationships, what don't?

Curiously,
Ron(ne)

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 6:35:02 AM

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Competition among a bevy of female slaves?

I've never heard of such a thing.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 6:36:20 AM

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LOL, Lam........did you make a good haul for Christmas?

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 7:20:46 AM

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Finding compatible male slaves is vv difficult. Men have this thing where they compete with each other all the time! What's up with that? Don't they understand that it's all about MEEEEEE??????

Why have we not heard of this bevy of female slaves previously, Ron? Inquiring minds....

Anyway. Lots of folks don't have multiple slaves, or even want them. I think that I am rather unusual in that I do like to have more than one. There are plenty of options, the easiest being that they don't both serve or play or whatever at the same time. Also, don't accept jealous behavior. A person who is jealous by nature is not going to handle a poly or quasi-poly relationship well. Know everyone's boundaries, and be careful where you push.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 7:29:18 AM

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As with any family, there is ALWAYS, shall we say...sibling rivalry.
I have found it best to work them like the military, if one messes up, they all get punished. It sort of forces them to work together and consider each other, as well as teaching each other the "right" way for the household.
Nuff said about this topic as the dynamics gets VERY complex and only the very experienced can manage it successfully. And even then, I would say successfully would be a very relative term.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 8:02:20 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Dear Dominatrixes,

I have oft wondered, though never have had the courage of a question till now....

Those of you with multiple male slaves; is there the same sort of shenanigans and infighting and goings on with them as one would generally find in a bevy of female slaves or is the competition mindset very different? What works in controlling these inter and intra personal relationships, what don't?

Curiously,
Ron(ne)

Dear Ron(ne),
I wonder if You ever had more then one subbygirl, I didn't. I had one girl and subboys. I told them upfront I didn't tollerate any jealousy, or bullshit.
That almost never happend, and when it did, I delt with it... Are You into poly? I couldn't read that in Your add.

Warm Greetingz

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 8:11:19 AM

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The thing that I find works best in any type of poly situation is time management.

Make sure everyone has time with you. This means you have to know your limits and how much time you need for yourself and other things in your life.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 9:41:53 AM

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Keeping them in separate states.

My idea of cohabitation is being on the same planet.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 12:05:38 PM

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I just took on another male slave and to answer your question, as far as I can see there is the same jealousy and veying for attention that you would find in a female harem. Both males swore there would be no drama or jealousy...guess what...its been 2 months and its already started.

We've had a few sit down conversations and I finally told them go out into the yard, naked and start throwing the punches the last man standing is Alpha..or maybe not, depends upon my mood at the time.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 12:21:12 PM

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My Owner has 2 slaves, as some of you may be aware. Her other pet and I, by and large, are rather happy with the arrangement as far as I know. This is perhaps because we are kept seperate, have our own time, and have drastically different roles. I've never even met him...though we almost did at one point. If we were all three at the same place, at the same time... We'd be very vanilla. This is simply because there is no desire, among any of the parties, for interaction of that manner.

Really, it all helps because our tastes are very different. He's primarily into infantilism and I'm not. I'm masochistic and he's not. I'm her lover and he's her friend. I'm capable of a great deal of outward affection and he's not. We're just two very different people, from what I know of him. We even view our submission differently on quite a few levels.

Is that to say we're completely devoid of jealousy? Of course not. I know we probably feel pangs every so often, just because that's how human beings work.

However...do we compete and fight and everything else? No. We really don't. Things are simply too well structured and balanced for it to come to that.

This, of course, is just my perspective of things.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 12:31:39 PM

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Personally, I find when I have more than two girls at a time, they tend to get at each other, but the males are more likely to know their place and stay there. Even with the girls, if there are two, they more often than not, get on well, if there are three, two sometimes gang up on the one. Males I have had, dont really get like that with each other. I think, in general, all females, are more jealous than males, this of course is only My opinon, from what I have experienced.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 1:10:13 PM

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You might change your mind about that if you ever fucked a Martian. Yowza! Zero-gravity never felt so good...

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ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Keeping them in separate states.

My idea of cohabitation is being on the same planet.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 1:29:32 PM

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Dear mnottertail, Ladies and Gentlemen;

In my poly household, with men--they were good friends to begin with, in addition to military. Both were officers and when they were off duty per se; I was 'their commanding officer.'

It originally started with one slave and then he approached me about his good friend. I agreed and negotiated with them both, setting up my boundaries, expectations and such--not all that different from the military. It was something we were all familiar with and understood and did not need a 'boot camp' per se. Each male had their talents and they worked as a team. I also gave the lads 'special time' with me. I prefer a whole day dedicated with one, the next the following day. I may also do it on a weekly basis as well. But, everybody must have equal time and to me that is the only fair thing to do.

Sexual intercourse was an interesting time for all of us. Having two closet Gay military officers and being Heterosexual; I was spoiled rotten! I didn't want/need sexual intercourse but, these lads did and I was invited into the special 'love' two Gay men had for each other. I loved 'through' my slaves when it came to sexual intercourse--sometimes directing or sometimes just watching and admiring them.

I have had other male slaves since however; I have been so spoiled by my first two slaves due to their friendship before I was involved; the one in a relationship and took a chance in having me consider another--his buddy; well -- it just worked out for the first two but, I find men can be as sexually greedy and attention vampires like any other gender out there.

My opinion is, that you can force two people together but, you cannot force them to like one another, work with one another and or help one another. This goes for all genders.

Now days, I still don't 'need' sex or necessarily 'want' sex. I've seen sex used more than once as a hammer over another person's head. I rather have slaves that really love one another and love me as well, just for being 'me.'

Just some thoughts.

Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 3:00:55 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster

You might change your mind about that if you ever fucked a Martian. Yowza! Zero-gravity never felt so good...

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHathor

Keeping them in separate states.

My idea of cohabitation is being on the same planet.

Oh gawd, LAM you never change! ROTFL---

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 4:57:39 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Finding compatible male slaves is vv difficult. Men have this thing where they compete with each other all the time! What's up with that? Don't they understand that it's all about MEEEEEE??????

Why have we not heard of this bevy of female slaves previously, Ron? Inquiring minds....

Anyway. Lots of folks don't have multiple slaves, or even want them. I think that I am rather unusual in that I do like to have more than one. There are plenty of options, the easiest being that they don't both serve or play or whatever at the same time. Also, don't accept jealous behavior. A person who is jealous by nature is not going to handle a poly or quasi-poly relationship well. Know everyone's boundaries, and be careful where you push.

And I always thought it was WOMEN that competed with each other all the time!

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 5:50:45 PM

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I just took on a second male submissive (warded for the moment, not fully collared) and the only rivalry I see is that they both work harder at serving than they would normally when alone. At one point, I had 3 female slaves, and had zero jealousy/rivalry whatsoever...I think it has less to do with gender and more to do with personality.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 8:33:37 PM

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From My experience, there is still definitely what I'll call "pole position" issues between males, even if they aren't exactly in the same catagory. As Tammyjo said, one of the constructive ways to work with this is to make sure there is some type of time arrangement, for each individually, and 'family' time if the situation works in that manner. If clear lines of expectations aren't laid out, vying for the top position can be a royal pain.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 8:54:46 PM

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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Dear Dominatrixes,

I have oft wondered, though never have had the courage of a question till now....

Oh, please, Ron(ne)...you? Lacking courage to ask something?

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 8:56:17 PM

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I keep the 2 slaves separate from each other.
One is a very manly man and the other is a very girly man.
They would be like oil and water together.

The manly one is strictly monogamous by nature.
The girly one is very polyamorous by nature.

They are quite the study in contrast, to be sure.

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RE: A question of sex (I think) - 1/10/2008 10:36:35 PM

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Keeping them in separate states.

My idea of cohabitation is being on the same planet.

Ha! lol Now THERE'S an idea! (((((((MH)))))))))

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