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switch limbo - 1/10/2008 8:57:41 AM

Prinsexx

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I got this by PM today (minor details changed to protect identity):
~ok enough is enough, i cannot stand ignorance, there is no need whatsoever and no justification for ANYONE to be so stuck up so if you dont even have the decency to respond to me, then i dont want anything to do with someone as highly strung as that anyway, good riddence~
Now this is from someone who approached me originally as a sub.
I have replied politely that if he had read the thread on blackmail and had realised what had been happening to me this week, then he would have had some compassion.
I have also stated that as a switch it appears that his dominant side has reared up and that sometimes the transition from one intra-personal dynamic takes a long transition, sometimes it happens in a moment.
How do other switches here experience the transition?
And how do those in relatonship experience their switch partners/playmayes/family members?
Politely (and without any arrogance): Prin

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RE: switch limbo - 1/10/2008 9:40:01 AM

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Throwing a trantrum does NOT equal Dominant, even if everything he said was true.

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RE: switch limbo - 1/10/2008 11:03:25 AM

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That depends on how young you are MasterFireMam. In this case I agree with you.

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RE: switch limbo - 1/10/2008 1:38:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

That depends on how young you are MasterFireMam. In this case I agree with you.

I don't understand what age has got to do with it. Are you suggesting that a younder switch is more likely to 'lose it' as a submissive and revert to temper tantrums?

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RE: switch limbo - 1/10/2008 3:51:20 PM

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Agreed, that's not a dom self- that's an asshole self trying to be a bully.

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RE: switch limbo - 1/10/2008 4:13:17 PM

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I don't have anyone with whom I take two different roles. I am who I am, and some people invite my dominant side and very few invite my submissive side out. I'm just me.

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RE: switch limbo - 1/10/2008 4:17:51 PM

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I'm picturing a five year old stomping his feet and taking his toys and going home.

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RE: switch limbo - 1/10/2008 4:21:07 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

Agreed, that's not a dom self- that's an asshole self trying to be a bully.

I've blocked him. I am tired of his projections and attempts to get the last word.

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RE: switch limbo - 1/10/2008 5:08:54 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Elorin

I don't have anyone with whom I take two different roles. I am who I am, and some people invite my dominant side and very few invite my submissive side out. I'm just me.

amen.

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RE: switch limbo - 1/10/2008 7:01:19 PM

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Yup. I'm in the same camp as Elorin. Ayam Wa Tayim.

My dominant side can show up while I'm being fully submisified, often without interrupting scene. There's a part of me with a list of Rules, that does not like having certain boundaries crossed. I can turn suddenly dominant when someone I care about is being treated poorly in my opinion, or when I think there is danger. It sort of feels like the classic butler ideal, the person whose sense of duty compells them to behave in a way that might be considered dominant, but without the undertones of domination. I suppose I could express that a bit more clearly, but sub and dom are sides of my nature that mix freely, and I can see shades of each in the other.

As to the prima mater of the OP, I have to say that a tantrum is a tantrum is a tantrum. That's not switching, that's acting out.

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