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darkpassenger434 -> Punishment ideas (1/10/2008 9:06:35 AM)

Just a relatively inexperienced Dom/Master who would like to hear anyones thoughts on punishment/play ideas. I'm currently codifying a lot of the things I want in a relationship (writing is the best way for me to collect my thoughts on something) and I have accidentally brushed up against a few ideas in postings that I really liked. What are your favorites? Innovate things you've tried?
-R



SirMIkeSD -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/10/2008 9:25:37 AM)

For me I never punish with anything that I enjoy or my boy enjoys.  The "I have been bad spank me" thing is fine for play but not punishment in my eye's.  So I would not cane him, spank him, etc.  I have found the best punishments for him is corner time, or having him hold weights in his hands while the arms are stright out repeating "I have disrepected my Daddy and will not do X again" some number of times depending on what he did.  These type of things give him time to thing about what he has done. Not that he needs correction often, but he is a boy (sub) and can run amuck at times.

Mike




MissHarlet -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/10/2008 9:30:48 AM)

I totally agree that punishment cant ever be with anything that is enjoyed by myself or my submissive.

Non-Lashes have been effective if one likes Lashes .. bind the Sub .. swing the flogger or whip just close enough for them to feel the air move but dont let it touch them .. have them count the lashes ... then leave then hanging there contemplating the fact that they deprived you of the pleasure of giving them the lashes that you enjoy giving.



TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/10/2008 9:42:03 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

I totally agree that punishment cant ever be with anything that is enjoyed by myself or my submissive.



I don't necessarily agree with this.  Things that are enjoyable like spanking and such, can be made unenjoyable.  Spank the same spot over and over, and do it without any of the loving gropes, suddenly it isn't such a great experience.

Kat knows when we are playing and when we are not.  The exact same activities that have brought her to orgasm, can bring her to sorrowful tears.  A lot has to do with my attitude...and with the technique.

Taggard



MasterFireMaam -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/10/2008 9:43:54 AM)

For play ideas, I highly recommend reading some fiction. Of course, keep reality in mind!

As for punishment, I don't punish. If the behavior made me unhappy or hurt me, I say as much, then try to get to the bottom of it. If the behavior is repeated enough, it will eventually erode the relationship and they will be released.

Master Fire



ksub4u -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/10/2008 9:45:58 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

I totally agree that punishment cant ever be with anything that is enjoyed by myself or my submissive.



I don't necessarily agree with this.  Things that are enjoyable like spanking and such, can be made unenjoyable.  Spank the same spot over and over, and do it without any of the loving gropes, suddenly it isn't such a great experience.

Kat knows when we are playing and when we are not.  The exact same activities that have brought her to orgasm, can bring her to sorrowful tears.  A lot has to do with my attitude...and with the technique.

Taggard



I agree.  It has less to do with the activity and more to do with Master's unhappiness with me and my disappointment in myself.  The words he uses while spanking in for pleaure vs. for punishment and the mood between us vary greatly.  To have an activity I adore turned into a punishment is very effective indeed.



mstrj69 -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/11/2008 5:07:30 PM)

In my experience, the idea of verbal punishment depends on how much they care about you.  The more they care about you and want to make you happy, the easier it is to just say "I think what you did was wrong and I do not like it" and have it upset the other person.  If they are new to you and do not really care about you that much than physical punishment such as spanking or whatever you know will work is better, but it will come to be used less and less the more they come to care about you.



MistressOfGa -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/11/2008 5:32:23 PM)

Having to punish pup is one of the worst things that I have to do. I know it is necessary, but the pain it brings me is great. I have put him against a wall, his palms pressed against the wall, making him repeat "I will not...." over and over again till even I can't stand to hear the tears in his voice. It is never for MY pleasure to punish him. Knowing that he has disappointed me, is enough to make him literally sick to his stomach.



Griswold -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/11/2008 5:37:44 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Having to punish pup is one of the worst things that I have to do. I know it is necessary, but the pain it brings me is great. I have put him against a wall, his palms pressed against the wall, making him repeat "I will not...." over and over again till even I can't stand to hear the tears in his voice. It is never for MY pleasure to punish him. Knowing that he has disappointed me, is enough to make him literally sick to his stomach.


It's fairly obvious to me....you need a cat.

(And I'll tell you this right now...between you and me....if your pup can talk...I think Leno will pay you $1,250.00 plus airfare and hotels to show it to the viewing public).



MistressOfGa -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/11/2008 5:41:25 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Griswold

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa

Having to punish pup is one of the worst things that I have to do. I know it is necessary, but the pain it brings me is great. I have put him against a wall, his palms pressed against the wall, making him repeat "I will not...." over and over again till even I can't stand to hear the tears in his voice. It is never for MY pleasure to punish him. Knowing that he has disappointed me, is enough to make him literally sick to his stomach.


It's fairly obvious to me....you need a cat.

(And I'll tell you this right now...between you and me....if your pup can talk...I think Leno will pay you $1,250.00 plus airfare and hotels to show it to the viewing public).

lol we had 5 of them. They never talked back and weren't as much fun to play with! 1,250.00  you say? Hmm..I could use the money...



pupofMoGa -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/11/2008 5:45:40 PM)

<sits quietly at Mistress's feet pressing my cheek against Her thigh>

Mistress is right, thinking about what i have done and how much i have hurt and dissapointed Mistress is the greatest pain, one that tears my heart out. I love You Mistress, and that beautiful smile of Yours.

<sees the gears in Mistress's head turning and wondering what She is thinking> Mistress?????? <looking nervously>



PsyVamp -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/11/2008 6:15:31 PM)

Apparently my silence alone is enough punishment for my pet.  I do not incorporate any kind of physical punishments as that is not how I wish to run my relationships.  I do not want someone to not do something because they are afraid of what I will do to them, I would rather have them not disappoint or hurt me because they respect me and my wishes.

Lady Jag



DiurnalVampire -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/11/2008 6:23:55 PM)

There is nothing about punishment I enjoy. I have only had to correct Angel once time in the 2 years I have had him. He was in a very bad mood and smarted off to me on the phone. We were LD, so the punishment had to be something he did on the phone, and reported back to me about.
For Fox, the few times I have corrected him, the simple fact that I was disappointed has quickly brought him to tears. Even when it was a very minor issue, he was so upset that I was upset that he crumbled. He is getting better about minor correction, but he still takes things badly.

For play, it depends on what sort of things you enjoy... my ideas probably wouldnt do jack for you, assuming you arent into the age play thing. Masochistic play is different, but that depends so much on the pet and not just the owner...

DV



tinoketsheli -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/11/2008 11:39:48 PM)

the worst punishment I have ever recieved was being tied to a chair then told to think about what I did. And then left alone...

Although my mef'aked came back like ten minutes later (he took a shower... [&:]) to release me and talk about what I learn and other things...



OsideGirl -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/12/2008 8:29:11 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: TallDarkAndWitty

quote:

ORIGINAL: MissHarlet

I totally agree that punishment cant ever be with anything that is enjoyed by myself or my submissive.



I don't necessarily agree with this.  Things that are enjoyable like spanking and such, can be made unenjoyable.  Spank the same spot over and over, and do it without any of the loving gropes, suddenly it isn't such a great experience.
  We're very much the same way. I will say that "play" and "punishment" aren't two words that we put together. Punishment is something that I never enjoy. Master never uses the "You've been bad" routine with me because he doesn't want me to associate the fun stuff with something negative.

That said, I know some couples that have a very active and happy BDSM D/s relationship who engage in the "You've been bad. You deserve a spanking" role play.



MistressOfGa -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/13/2008 2:23:41 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pupofMoGa

<sits quietly at Mistress's feet pressing my cheek against Her thigh>

Mistress is right, thinking about what i have done and how much i have hurt and dissapointed Mistress is the greatest pain, one that tears my heart out. I love You Mistress, and that beautiful smile of Yours.

<sees the gears in Mistress's head turning and wondering what She is thinking> Mistress?????? <looking nervously>


I told you to stop using those ex-ray glasses pup! <g>



Justme696 -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/13/2008 8:04:36 AM)

To ignore them a while is effective too, depending on the relation



SirHammy -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/13/2008 12:21:12 PM)

Mmm how to put this.
Punishment has to be something that lets them know they have done something very wrong, it has to be final swift and sure. If they are into verbal telling them "they have disappointed you, I expected much more than this from you.” Will strike them to the core.
If they are into physical then bind and gag them.
Then be physical until you are just about satisfied, then remove the gag and insist that should this ever happen again a more severe punishment will ensure complete compliance.
As a final punishment remove the collar then destroy it in front of them.
Announcing they are uncollared and are now free to do what they wish else where and are to vacate the premises with in 24 hour or quicker. ( helps if you have their friends standing by to help with the move.)

mind you this is just my opinion
Take care
Hammy



Redoubt -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/13/2008 2:47:06 PM)

I'm definitely in the "punishment shouldn't be anything you or your sub enjoys" camp.

The trouble is, being a sadist, I tend to enjoy most things that causes her temporary discomfort, physical or emotionally... with the exception of my disappointment in her.

As a result, I tend to punish myself as well as her when she has let me down. Fitting, really, after all - it's my responsibility to ensure she realizes that there are consequences for not fulfilling obligations, and mine to set realistic ones based on my knowledge of her ability.

Usually this breaks down to cancelling or suspending something we have both been looking forward to. While the temptation to only use things that only she is looking forward to is there, but again, that's my issue, not hers.

It depends on you and your submissive really. If youre not a really that much of a sadist, and she's a masochist, cancelling tonights spanking will not get through nearly as much as if youre both huge fans of the local team, and you cancel your trip to see them will.



signusnova -> RE: Punishment ideas (1/14/2008 8:09:45 AM)

Punishment / Play idea:
Tie your partner naked on her stomach and separate her legs.  Restrain her legs and torso tightly.  Place a vibrator between her legs medium setting.  Start biting her ass and upper thighs. Do this for 30 minutes.  At the end she would be hot, sobing and cumming.
Regards
Signus



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