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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/4/2008 4:57:09 AM

MsStarlett

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ORIGINAL: Mirko

Basic Guide
-Dont talk about sex-related issues, if you actually do get into a relationship, you'll have an opportunity to discuss this
-Write your perspective on her profile (you were READING her profile?)
-Keep it short (2 paragraphs max.)
-Don't brag
-Show your sense of humor
-Don't talk about things youre not interested in

Oh Look! Another male who 'gets it'! Hurrah! There is hope for the gender.

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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/4/2008 6:19:26 AM

MaamJay

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ORIGINAL: subbiepaulr

why is it so difficult for a male slave to find a Domme? It seems that they want you to relocate to them or they are looking for a female instead of a male.

OK some simple facts:
1. Some women like women ... fine, live with it ... ignore their profiles.
2. Any woman who wants a real live flesh and blood slave who is actually there to do things for Her is going to need him to be able to be there. This means he has to be local OR be rich enough to keep flying in and out OR be willing to eventually relocate. So you don't want to relocate? Then fine, just don't write to Dommes that aren't local enough to you! Especially as you say you don't want to cyber ... then obviously, you have to be within easy reach of the One you serve! I just don't get what's so hard to understand about that.

As a Domme, I make it clear on My profile that a sub at least has to be in My very large country (Australia) and within that, be willing to relocate to My small country town. I realise that's not going to be for everyone. The local pool of good male subs would be miniscule so I'm not likely to find one a few streets away, or even in the next town! Yet I get no end of subs from all sorts of foreign countries earnestly telling Me they are willing to relocate to Me! A few problems there, how would W/we ever get to know each other without some prior visits? Have I suddenly struck the only rich guy in some third world country?? And ... how do they expect to get a visa here, let alone permanent residency? That's no longer easily attained!

One other comment on the relocation issue ... Mizziness said that someone who wanted you to relocate straight away wouldn't be a good person to go to and I agree. However, I vet people upfront on their WILLINGNESS to relocate. I don't want them here straight away, Master wouldn't allow it anyway ... and it wouldn't be right or good for them. But I do want to know that they are willing, and one of the functions of first visits is to check out where We live as much as checking Us out ... so they can let Me know early on whether they still think relocating here is a viable prospect for them. I don't want to become heavily emotionally invested in someone only to find they can't/won't move here. And it's not that I think subs are the ones who have to relocate, Master relocated to me. But right now, Master and I have only been here just over a year and really don't want to move again, so a sub has to be prepared to come to Us.

OP ... in summary ... READ profiles and if there's something in a Lady's profile that doesn't suit you ... move on! Don't bitch! It's unbecoming, and will simply alienate those whom you may wish to attract. Who wants a whiner? Not Me!

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/4/2008 8:09:53 AM

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Op you have been here for 24 hr. After the first 48 hours you will get swamped and get writers cramp form answering your mail. Take a hint and get a secertary before that happens.

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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/4/2008 2:17:43 PM

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Don't we all wish life was much easier and less complicated then what it already is, or how we already made it?? In relationship matters there is an issue called "compatibility". This can relate to practices that you like to participate in our case (kinks) looks, personal issues, educational standards, possessions, wealth, character, age, and a whole lot of other issues that we still get to find out from partners or potential partners over time!! How can someone be so demanding of asking for the package that i just mentioned to be delivered overnight??? Sometimes lifetimes will pass and people will not find there right match or may simply be under there noses as in most cases and they can be simply neglected...

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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/4/2008 2:42:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: subbiepaulr

why is it so difficult for a male slave to find a Domme? It seems that they want you to relocate to them or they are looking for a female instead of a male.

It's no easier being a domme to find a sub/slave. Besides just normal compatibility considerations they are often unrealistic or not looking to actually submit.

Finding the right someone(s) is always hard.

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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/4/2008 5:28:56 PM

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If you're not near me, what's the use?

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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/6/2008 5:18:26 PM

MadameCris

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ORIGINAL: petpete

Don't we all wish life was much easier and less complicated then what it already is, or how we already made it?? In relationship matters there is an issue called "compatibility". This can relate to practices that you like to participate in our case (kinks) looks, personal issues, educational standards, possessions, wealth, character, age, and a whole lot of other issues that we still get to find out from partners or potential partners over time!! How can someone be so demanding of asking for the package that i just mentioned to be delivered overnight??? Sometimes lifetimes will pass and people will not find there right match or may simply be under there noses as in most cases and they can be simply neglected...

Or they find compatibility and love in a Domme but search for nit-picky reasons why it won’t work. I prefer to be solution oriented, to think "how can we accomplish our goal, to be together, what will it take for this relationship to work" instead of "well we have love and compatibility but she's not a marathon runner, oh well, guess it wont work"
It is those who are not prefect, yet seek perfection, that will never find true happiness.

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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/6/2008 8:01:04 PM

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Have you tried DomMart? I hear there's a great deal on this year's model.

Your best bet is tp try and network. Get involoved in your local scene. =)

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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/6/2008 8:08:37 PM

MistresssAria

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Mirko

Basic Guide
-Dont talk about sex-related issues, if you actually do get into a relationship, you'll have an opportunity to discuss this
-Write your perspective on her profile (you were READING her profile?)
-Keep it short (2 paragraphs max.)
-Don't brag
-Show your sense of humor
-Don't talk about things youre not interested in

You're good, I'd take you as a subbie *smiles*

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RE: Difficult Finding A Domme - 4/6/2008 9:50:09 PM

Pyrrsefanie

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ORIGINAL: subbiepaulr

why is it so difficult for a male slave to find a Domme?

Because you touch yourself at night.

(Side note: don't ever, EVER ask me why something is, because this is likely the only answer you'll get.)

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