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Anal toys - 1/10/2008 6:41:42 PM   
snowandsub


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we have been doing a lot of fingers play and the odd time with anal sex with lots of lube but we have a question for which we want the end result is to be able to have anal sex a bit more easily and spontaneously.

which is better to achieve that end - anal butt plugs or anal dilator kits ?




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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 6:43:00 PM   
sweetstorm


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Status: offline 		Dildoes and practice, practice, practice  

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 6:45:36 PM   
subantionette


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Status: offline 		I have never had anal anything before so I am just as interested as you are in learing more.

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 6:51:23 PM   
piercedntattooed


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Status: offline 		for me i had to learn how to relax, just enjoy
dildos, His fingers, plenty of lube and lots of practice made it happen for me!

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 6:56:17 PM   
snowandsub


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Status: offline 		thanks - really stupid newbie wuestion here - Dildos like normal vaginal ones ? ie feeldoe etc ?  just incase I am not looking in the right place on line - have a huge wish list at extremerestraints currently ;) 

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 6:57:30 PM   
MastersMaiden


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Status: offline 		it gets much easier to have spontaneous anal sex if you do it often...that way you become used to relaxing. Also, keep lube in a handy place, so when you are ready for it, lube and go :)


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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 6:59:45 PM   
MastersMaiden


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Status: offline 		I forgot to say that it doesnt really matter what you use, just as long as you are comfortable with it, and that you do it often. Learning to relax quickly and easily is just a matter of lots of practice. Butt plugs help to a certain extent, but fingers can often help start things off.

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:03:03 PM   
piercedntattooed


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Status: offline 		my Masters fingers were the most pleasurable for me when He began training me for anal sex
i guess it would be a personal preference
He also used a butt plug and vaginal dildos
i just have a preference for Him, its more realistic and was more comfortable to me

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:09:34 PM   
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ORIGINAL: snowandsub

been reading lots thanks to a very good search engine on these forums.

we have been doing a lot of fingers play and the odd time with anal sex with lots of lube but we have a question for which we want the end result is to be able to have anal sex a bit more easily and spontaneously.

which is better to achieve that end - anal butt plugs or anal dilator kits ?





The best way to have spontaneous anal sex is to just have spontaneous anal sex.

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:09:58 PM   
subantionette


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Status: offline 		this sounds strangely interesting and i now kinda want to try it out

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:10:10 PM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		my mistress started me out on fingers ...from there butt plugs ...from there dildos/strapons ....then bigger strapons  and then her fist  oh yes ..lots of lube ...communication ...patience ..she has trained my ass well  have fun ..mal

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:11:02 PM   
DianeB269


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Status: offline 		Get a small dildo, work with it for a week or so then move up to something a little bigger
and bigger.


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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:31:29 PM   
Sweet1Maybe4U


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Status: offline 		oh wow..a week?
See, my Dom was extremely patient with me. I had never done anal before meeting Him so He went slowly with me. It is very important to be relaxed and trusting of your partner. For a couple of months when we would have sex (doggie style) He would just lightly stroke and play with me getting me accustomed to being touched there. Then, as days went by when having sex He began slowly inserting His finger with lube and believe or not Lanacane. When I got to the point that I wasnt afraid of it hurting with his finger He moved up to the thumb..then two fingers..etc..I had to get over the idea of being hurt. I had never trusted anyone enough to do that til I met Him. And since He is shall we say, uh...Large..I had to get accustomed to Him being in there. He would at the beginning only insert the tip and then that was it. Next time a little more..etc..Overall, it took me a long time to learn to just relax and go with it. That is my advice. I wouldnt do anal with just anyone. He has such control and patience with me. Its incredible! We tried doing the "toys" (sex stores have anal dildos ) but they seemed to make me nervous whereas He didnt. Im comfortable with Him now.
Ive seen some movies where girls take it wild and hard but that's just not my style. I'm still a little bit at the point of being careful about tears. Even little tears take a long time to heal. Being in the medical field Ive known of girls that never heal so Im glad Im with a Man that is experienced at being slow and easy and taking His time...so as not to have to deal with that scenario on a personal level.


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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:36:12 PM   
subantionette


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Status: offline 		I am going to assume that taking it slow is a good idea

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:39:44 PM   
piercedntattooed


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Status: offline 		take it slow and go for it! i never thought i would actually be able to enjoy anal sex
Master has trained me well and it can be very pleasurable, just don't rush things, it will come natural

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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:40:48 PM   
Sweet1Maybe4U


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Status: offline 		well..let's just say one girl didnt heal and she poops out her vagina..

Just be careful..that's all im saying..I enjoy it and Im relaxed enough now that we are great at it..



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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:42:51 PM   
Sweet1Maybe4U


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Status: offline 		See, at first you may feel like you have to go to the bathroom..at that point He should not move and maybe pull out a little and you take a deep breath and relax. Then the feeling of needing to poop goes away and He can continue again. But once you get past the "feeling" then you relax and its gonna feel good. It just takes time.


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RE: Anal toys - 1/10/2008 7:46:04 PM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		God, someone mentions anal and malloves leaps right in there with HIS experiences. That's all I've ever seen him post.

As said OP, start small and work your way up. No one can take a large dildo/strapon/vibe/plug without taking a little time to get used to them. LOTS of lube, lots of patience and lots of relaxing breathing techniques.

Good luck.

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RE: Anal toys - 1/11/2008 6:56:45 AM   
malloves69


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Status: offline 		LOVE anal and being fisted  what can i say ? ..hey i did score 843 on the how kinky are you test  bet i beat your score  not bad for being 50  mal ...neener ..neener ..rasberrys to you  jk   geezzz

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RE: Anal toys - 1/11/2008 9:21:52 AM   
FRSguy


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Status: offline 		You can achive it just by picking up about three regular dildos / vibrators (I recomend the vibrators).  Its not so much that you have to change her phisicaly so much as you have to change her mentaly.  Involve the use of the vibes with plenty of lube starting with the smallest and working your way up to a big one.  Make sure you do plenty of other stuff at the same time so dont make it your focus durring sex.  Also allow for casual anal play as in if you have privacy and are watching a movie on the sofa so to speak then there is no reason why you cant pull over your lap and play with her ass a little bit.  Using the larger dildo will stretch her out some but what you want to do is get her to mentally understand the fact that she can take a large object and what it feels like and allso asociate the ass play with actual pleasurable and sometimes orgasmic sex.  Now she would probably never be able to take it analy the way she does vaginaly and you will allways need to use lube but once she knows what she is capable of and asociates the sensations with pleasure then she will konw what it is that she has to achieve mentaly to be able to take it.  In other words she will look past the initial discomfort and know that it will turn pleasurable and she will be able to set the goal in mind that she is going to take it come hell or high water. After she achives this then lighten up on the use of vibes and dildos and such and vary your experiences with anal sex as in sometimes she gets it nice and slow and other times she gets it rough so to speak. Dont make it all rough on her all the time otherwise she will form a bad association that can be difficult to break. She has to be able to look forward to what may come.

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