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advise from lifestylers please - 1/11/2008 11:48:17 AM

midnorthSA

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For years me subness only related to the sexual nature, it is only of late that i am begining to understand the nature of submitting fully to a powerful domme, in and emotional capsty and also cerabally, and as the idea takes root in my mind, I am finding a peace that i have never known before, i want to give myself over more, as much as i can., not just on a sexual level, but heart and soul.

Are there ways to do this with out the sex . the on your knees and beg , i mean on a pure cerabal level / emotional level

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RE: advise from lifestylers please - 1/11/2008 1:14:35 PM

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Yes you can do service for her. Beg on your knees to clean her house, wash her car or do her gardening for her. You can run errands and do other things to make her life simpler. You may or may not wish to serve as a whipping boy for her whip or help her organize her closet. There are lots of things you can do to serve her without sex.

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RE: advise from lifestylers please - 1/11/2008 1:47:36 PM

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ORIGINAL: midnorthSA

For years me subness only related to the sexual nature, it is only of late that i am begining to understand the nature of submitting fully to a powerful domme, in and emotional capsty and also cerabally, and as the idea takes root in my mind, I am finding a peace that i have never known before, i want to give myself over more, as much as i can., not just on a sexual level, but heart and soul.

Are there ways to do this with out the sex . the on your knees and beg , i mean on a pure cerabal level / emotional level

There are plenty of dominant women out there that would love a boy like you. Of course you can serve Her without having sex, but if it something that she requires of you, would you then say no, because you only want to be a service sub? I suppose that should be said during negotiations or you could simply put that on your profile, so those dominants that want sex as well as someone to wash/clean/laundry ect..will know what your main focus is. I think it is great that you are feeling this way, many do not get to these feelings until they have been talking to a Mistress for some time. I wish you well in your search. There are MANY out there that seek what you have to give.

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RE: advise from lifestylers please - 1/11/2008 1:55:26 PM

midnorthSA

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thank you for answering to my post, most of those things you mentioned are pretty good, but as yet we havent met, i know her professionally by phone as her sales coach and trainer. i did not know she was a dom, and she didnt know i was a sub for months.
At the moment, i have been giving her power over me by telling her all my secrets, while she tells me almost nothing about her needs and desires. i find her knowing my dirt so to speak quite freeing and i seem to be finding my place, is there a way you know of that i can take this further, and deeper, i wish to steer clear of the sex talk, as if the rest falls in place, the sex will follow.

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RE: advise from lifestylers please - 1/11/2008 2:18:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: midnorthSA

thank you for answering to my post, most of those things you mentioned are pretty good, but as yet we havent met, i know her professionally by phone as her sales coach and trainer. i did not know she was a dom, and she didnt know i was a sub for months.
At the moment, i have been giving her power over me by telling her all my secrets, while she tells me almost nothing about her needs and desires. i find her knowing my dirt so to speak quite freeing and i seem to be finding my place, is there a way you know of that i can take this further, and deeper, i wish to steer clear of the sex talk, as if the rest falls in place, the sex will follow.

Ah, so the two of you DO know about each other now? I got the impression that you knew she was a dominant and she didn't know you were submissive.

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RE: advise from lifestylers please - 1/11/2008 2:28:28 PM

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ASK HER if she knows someone who would be willing to bring your desires to life for service. She may not wish to jepardize the professional relationship you have.

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RE: advise from lifestylers please - 1/11/2008 3:57:17 PM

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I expect much more from my personal submissives than ONLY play or ONLY errand running. I expect companionship, entertainment, conversation, distraction from the everyday... I value time spent doing mundane things.

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