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Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 6:57:44 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		  There was a thread in the "Master's Forum" about a dominant's responsibility to protect a submissive, and I was wondering if submissives feel a duty to protect their dominants?



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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 6:59:21 PM   
Decimus


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Status: offline 		Yes, I would defend Aerith to the death. Same goes for any of my friends and family, my loyalty is absolute and I would protect them regardless, Aerith above all of course :)

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:01:16 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		You see, I was just thinking that perhaps submissives might feel that way...smiles

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:02:07 PM   
cherrypez


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Status: offline 		    He worries, and stresses so I do have a tendancy to not tell him everything because I am afraid he will worry himself into a heartattack.   I dislike keeping things from him but he stresses way to much sometimes.    He says it's his job to worry about me and stress over me.    But I still have a tendancy to downplay things to keep his stress levels down.   

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:07:22 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		I tried that approach cherrypez, it made my Daddy mad. He doesn't like me to protect him from knowing things... especially things that impact me. Keeping things from someone can be a very bad idea... especially a dominant someone that likes to know everything so that they have the reins in the relationship... just my experience

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:09:49 PM   
cherrypez


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Status: offline 		He doesn't like it either and it pisses him off, so I tell him things but just down play it.   I find that the less I stress over things, he stresses less.  

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:15:32 PM   
subantionette


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Status: offline 		i would feel it was part of my job to protect my dom, though i wouldnt be to good at it because im so very weak. but i would do my best to keep his stress level down so he didnt get sick

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:15:49 PM   
angelslave77


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Status: offline 		I would protect my Sir completely he is my world

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:19:12 PM   
DiurnalVampire


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Status: offline 		The boys would try, though they are not nearly as capable of protecting me as I am protecting myself. I have seen Fox in his protective mode and while its charming and chivalrous, I hope he will never have to actually be in a position to do anything. Angel, for as tiny as he is, is a scrapper and can at least fight if he had to. But, being who I am, theyd be better off sitting back and watching the melee.

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:20:50 PM   
justheather


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Status: offline 		Interesting question, Julia.

My Dominant and I protect one another's feelings in that we are conscious of our words and our intentions when speaking to one another. This may fall under the category of protection, but I consider it to be speaking from a place of love and respect.

As far as protecting him from some information I might perceive as stress-inducing...He would not be pleased if I were to withhold information from him for that purpose. For one thing, who am I to decide what Daddy can and can not handle? In my relationship, Daddy decides. That's the way Daddy, who fully understands the responsibilities that come with that decision, wants it.

For another, well, I dont believe either of us expects the other to alter reality in order to make life easier or less stressful for the other. What we do expect is that we can count on the other to provide a loving, open shelter in times of difficulty.
So, in that sense, I do not feel it is my role to protect him from the truth, from my shortcomings, or from life in general. If I am spending my time and energy trying to protect him from something we could be facing honestly and openly together with the strength of two, I dont see how that is going to benefit our relationship or make his life any better.

There is another form of "protection" that comes to mind, and that is a sort of protecting/defending him on these boards. I can think back over the past two and a half years that we have been together and call to mind times when someone said something on the forums that pushed my "mama bear" button and made me want to say something to a poster about the way he or she addressed my Daddy or about the content of their remarks directed at him, but Ive restrained myself for a couple of reasons.
One is that Im certain he does not want me to be his mama bear. While he is most likely tickled and amused when I express to him (privately) my feelings about the other posters, he does not want or need me to come to his rescue.
The other is that he is much better at expressing what he wants to say how he wants to say it than I am. I will never be the better person for the job when it comes to speaking for Daddy.
So, I don't.



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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:22:08 PM   
TwistedSin


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Status: offline 		My Owner was physically disabled.  If anyone were to hurt him, they would get hit with a wrath from hell.  I would have - and still will protect him with my life.

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:22:23 PM   
Jeffff


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Status: offline 		Gratned this is one mans view point...........but I would be......annoyed at key information being withheld. I understand the..............want to protect me, and I appreciate it. I would rather you let me be me........I CAN handle it , thats part of the deal.

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:26:19 PM   
Zechriel


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Status: offline 		Absolutely, I would protect Master-just as I would anyone I love, whether it was physical scrapping or relieving his worries in any way. In fact, because I am adept at magick, I have offered my services to him but he refuses, saying it is HIS job as Master to protect ME. Ah well... so my hands are tied.  Oh my goodness, I just realized the pun ::laughs::
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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 7:56:22 PM   
juliaoceania


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There is another form of "protection" that comes to mind, and that is a sort of protecting/defending him on these boards. I can think back over the past two and a half years that we have been together and call to mind times when someone said something on the forums that pushed my "mama bear" button and made me want to say something to a poster about the way he or she addressed my Daddy or about the content of their remarks directed at him, but Ive restrained myself for a couple of reasons.
One is that Im certain he does not want me to be his mama bear. While he is most likely tickled and amused when I express to him (privately) my feelings about the other posters, he does not want or need me to come to his rescue.
The other is that he is much better at expressing what he wants to say how he wants to say it than I am. I will never be the better person for the job when it comes to speaking for Daddy.
So, I don't.

 
There was a time that I had some of the "mama bear" thing with my Daddy too, as you well know. I even indulged it in the off topic forum. It is something neither of us engage in anymore, although we are attracted to the same topics and we tend to agree with each other... people often think we are protecting each other... that is not true, we do not need to defend each other here...

I will say that I feel protective of his feelings when I know there are things that certain members of his family have done that would hurt me. I want to tell these people off, and I can't. Oh yes, I have mama bear feelings....and he gets amused by this too.

I think that it is normal to feel that way when we love people...

A little side note: When I was with my ex boyfriend in my late 20s, actively mothering, in the habit of holding little hands when crossing streets, my ex boyfriend popped up and said something to me that still makes me chuckle. He looked down at his hand and said "You know Julia, I do know how to cross the street on my own at 37 years of age", and he looked down at the hand I was holding... I was so embarassed because I never realized I always grabbed his hand whenever in a parking lot or crossing a street, only to immediately release it when we were done crossing traffic... that still makes me laugh, and it is indicative of how I am with people I deeply care for... I want to protect them.

I suppose the other thread made me think that protecting those we love isn't a dom or a sub trait... it is a human trait

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 8:03:20 PM   
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Status: offline 		i feel the same

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 8:07:01 PM   
MistressDollys


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Status: offline 		yes and I'm sure mostly all other subs feel the same.

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 8:21:35 PM   
bellalestrange


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Status: offline 		I would want to protect Him, absolutely.  I would want to make His life easier and put the smackdown on those who would seek to harm Him.  But. He would not be a happy camper, because that's my top side coming out, and He is all Dom.  While He appreciates my evil side, I am not to try to top Him.  And, as good as my intentions, that's what hiding things from Him would be. *reminds self to re-read this, as necessary*

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 8:25:47 PM   
juliaoceania


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Status: offline 		My question is why do you believe this is a "top" sort of behavior?

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 8:41:44 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		I don't feel it's a duty so much as "part of the package."

As I responded in that other thread- I find its best when everyone is helping to protect everyone.

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RE: Protecting Your Dominant - 1/11/2008 8:47:24 PM   
sabis


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Status: offline 		my Owner would be extremely irate if I put myself into physical danger, attempting to intercede on his behalf. (my instructions are: Run away. Stay out of the way. If necessary and he's down: Call the cops.) I'm quite certain that he feels that's his role, and his responsibility.  He would not only do Bad Things to anyone attempting to hurt me, but he would endure Bad Things in order to save / protect me.  He sees it as part of who he is.  Doing something that took on that role would be overstepping my bounds. 
 
Now, do I very much want to step in and get medieval on the ass of any wench that says something catty about him?  Unequivocally, Yes.  But that's not my place.  My job is to show obedience to his rules, and he's said, 'Act appropriately.' Hair pulling and bitchy comments aren't appropriate behavior, much as they might be the first impulse...
 
As he so frequently says, "if it was easy, everyone would do it."
 
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