Here's A Story...Part II

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MistressOfGa -> Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:05:36 AM)
OK here we go again. I am going to write it as a first person story. See Here's A Story.. I am a submissive man. For months I have been lying to my co-worker, who is a dominant woman. I know she is dominant because when I first met her she looked familiar to me but I was unsure as to where I had seen her. A couple of days after meeting her, I realized that I had seen her at a bdsm seminar. I wanted to immediately tell her that she and I shared something in common, but I was shy and didn't know how to approach her. I was also afraid there might be repercussions at work. Weeks went by and I continued to become close friends with her. I started to share things with her about myself. Secrets that I shouldn't have been sharing with anyone, but I wanted this release. No, I needed this release, it had been months since I played and I really didn't think it could cause any harm. I started telling her dirty secrets about myself. Things like how I liked to serve a woman by cleaning her kitchen while wearing only my undershorts. Then I would tell her I was kidding and it was all cool. I knew that she didn't know how to take what I was telling her. I never gave her a chance to tell me that she was a Mistress. I liked the idea that I was in control of my stories to her and that I could always get away with it by saying I was just kidding. Every time I thought she may be ready to tell me her own secret, I would stop her by turning the direction of the conversation. I really didn't want her to tell me, because then my fun time would end. I really got off on sharing with her, knowing that I knew about her and she didn't know I knew. There came a day that I thought I had better tell her that I knew about her. I was so afraid that she would be angry with me for using her the way I did. But on the other hand, I thought maybe she would be thankful that I had come clean about myself. I felt badly that I hadn't ever given her a chance to tell me about her being a Mistress. I almost panicked one day when I saw a young man pick her up from work. Oh no! Is this someone that she is interested in becoming hers? Or just a friend? I frantically called her back telling her that I needed to speak with her and it was urgent. I swallowed hard..and.. I began......... What would you do if you were the dominant female in this story? As a submissive, would you have told her from the beginning and risk losing your job?

MsBearlee -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:08:33 AM)
Okay...I'd be concerned about a submissive who cared so much for control. MsB edited to add: As to the second question...what I wrote in my other post stands: (Part 1, my response: http://www.collarchat.com/fb.asp?m=1533319&key= )

Rover -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:13:07 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa I started to share things with her about myself. Secrets that I shouldn't have been sharing with anyone, but I wanted this release. No, I needed this release, it had been months since I played and I really didn't think it could cause any harm. I started telling her dirty secrets about myself. Things like how I liked to serve a woman by cleaning her kitchen while wearing only my undershorts. At this point I would know with certainty that this guy has no common sense, no sense of discretion, no self-restraint, and not only that I had absolutely no interest in him but that he was a dangerous person to himself and others that he may out. I would tell him in no uncertain terms that he was behaving inappropriately, and that if he persisted I would have no choice but to lodge a complaint. John

CalifChick -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:21:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa For months I have been lying to my co-worker, who is a dominant woman. Then I would tell her I was kidding and it was all cool. As a submissive, would you have told her from the beginning and risk losing your job? 1. I am not seeing any lying. I am seeing withholding of information, but being that there is no established relationship, there is no obligation to let it all hang out, as it were. 2. Telling someone something secret about yourself and then saying you're kidding seems quite a bit juvenile, particularly when repeated. I don't know that I would call it lying, but perhaps self-preservation, particularly when the workplace is involved. It seems to be more flirting than anything else in this case. An amateur attempt, but flirting nonetheless. 3. I'm not seeing where the "risk losing your job" comes into play. This is a coworker. If you were talking about sexual things, or innuendo, or whatever, and someone asks you to stop, and you do not, then you are risking losing your job. Otherwise, I'm not seeing the problem. 4. It certainly isn't your place to out anyone you work with, even if that outing is only you telling them that you know. You don't know if someone is going to be receptive or mortified if you were to say, "Hey I saw you being flogged at that party Saturday night." So I guess the only real issue I'm seeing is the repeated juvenile "just kidding" thing. The whole thing seems so permeated with immaturity. Cali

lockmeupplease -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:21:40 AM)
The submissive actually started risking his job as soon as he made the "clean the kitchen in his undies" comment---if he is making her feel uncomfortable, HR would be all over him for harrassment. As a sub, I either need to ask her out on a vanilla date and come clean or totally keep my mouth shut about it. In this case, I think he just needs to keep it to himself.

LadyHathor -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:23:23 AM)
Not to be the party pooper here, but responding with My first gut reaction, is I hope these conversations are not taking place in the workplace as they are not appropriate--now if they are out of work, I as a Dominant female would give and share nothing, I don't share Me with people at work, in or out because it can and will come back to bite one in the butt. Even when people say, wow you look familiar, I say I have been around and associated with this company for over 15 years--IF it was anything related to BDSM is nips it in the bud. I just work very hard to keep things separate--so the first dirty little secret I would have shut down--but thats just Me, I have a hard time for Me putting this in even a "fantasy realm"--the two for Me are so separate and distinct. [&o] *sorry, I am no help.*

MistressOfGa -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:23:40 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Rover quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa I started to share things with her about myself. Secrets that I shouldn't have been sharing with anyone, but I wanted this release. No, I needed this release, it had been months since I played and I really didn't think it could cause any harm. I started telling her dirty secrets about myself. Things like how I liked to serve a woman by cleaning her kitchen while wearing only my undershorts. At this point I would know with certainty that this guy has no common sense, no sense of discretion, no self-restraint, and not only that I had absolutely no interest in him but that he was a dangerous person to himself and others that he may out. I would tell him in no uncertain terms that he was behaving inappropriately, and that if he persisted I would have no choice but to lodge a complaint. John John, this is where you and I agree! I wouldn't give this dude the time of day at this point. But apparently they are close friends..well..enough to where he feels it is ok to tell her these things about himself. I on the other hand, would have to end the friendship and walk..no wait..maybe run away. I have been up all night, this is the result of MoGa having sleep deprevation. Why have I been up all night, you ask? Because I am in pain :( But hey, if laughter is the best medicine, then I should be feeling just fine in about 3 minutes lol Thanks for responding again. I liked your original response better. [:D]

MistressOfGa -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:30:51 AM)
Thanks for all the responses. I think it is best that I turn it off and lay it down. I should have just added more to the other story as it was better lol You are right, Cali, I didn't see any lying either. MH lol God bless You! I owe You one! <s> Lockmeupplease, let's go back to stripping and falling on the ground! lol Beverly, what can I say? Sometimes the wait aint worth it lol

TallDarkAndWitty -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:32:29 AM)
Yeah...this guy sounds like a do-me-sub. I would stay away. Taggard

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 9:48:51 AM)
Whoa! Talk about a sexual harassment suit waiting to happen!! No, I would not accept that kind of behavior. "I needed this release" is not an excuse. There are phone sex operators aplenty.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 10:09:29 AM)
It solidifies my feelings that definitely he and likely her also are caught up in the idea of doing "naughty things" rather than behaving like mature adults. So they might make a great couple.

MsElle -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 12:28:02 PM)
I'd have nipped that interraction in the bud long before it had a chance to escalate - those comments are inappropriate and immature and I would have put a quick end to it. That's someone who gets off on 'dirty little secrets', not someone with a desire to submit. The guy in the first story was way more interesting ;)

BeingChewsie -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 12:42:28 PM)
I agree 100% with John on this one and I'd follow R's philosophy on the workplace..do not shit where you eat. quote: ORIGINAL: Rover quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa I started to share things with her about myself. Secrets that I shouldn't have been sharing with anyone, but I wanted this release. No, I needed this release, it had been months since I played and I really didn't think it could cause any harm. I started telling her dirty secrets about myself. Things like how I liked to serve a woman by cleaning her kitchen while wearing only my undershorts. At this point I would know with certainty that this guy has no common sense, no sense of discretion, no self-restraint, and not only that I had absolutely no interest in him but that he was a dangerous person to himself and others that he may out. I would tell him in no uncertain terms that he was behaving inappropriately, and that if he persisted I would have no choice but to lodge a complaint. John

slavegirljoy -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 1:30:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa I started telling her dirty secrets about myself. Things like how I liked to serve a woman by cleaning her kitchen while wearing only my undershorts. Then I would tell her I was kidding and it was all cool. i stopped here because, even though i'm not a Dominant female, if any guy were to say this to me at work, i wouldn't like it. i would tell him that i wasn't interested in hearing about his private life and to please not tell me anymore. If he continued to tell me his "dirty secrets", i would have a talk with his supervisor. Also, i have found that usually when someone says, "just kidding.", they aren't. They're just covering their tracks. joy Owned servant of Master David

YesMistressIrish -> RE: Here's A Story...Part II (1/12/2008 2:00:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: MistressOfGa For months I have been lying to my co-worker, who is a dominant woman. Then I would tell her I was kidding and it was all cool. As a submissive, would you have told her from the beginning and risk losing your job? 1. I am not seeing any lying. I am seeing withholding of information, but being that there is no established relationship, there is no obligation to let it all hang out, as it were. 2. Telling someone something secret about yourself and then saying you're kidding seems quite a bit juvenile, particularly when repeated. I don't know that I would call it lying, but perhaps self-preservation, particularly when the workplace is involved. It seems to be more flirting than anything else in this case. An amateur attempt, but flirting nonetheless. 3. I'm not seeing where the "risk losing your job" comes into play. This is a coworker. If you were talking about sexual things, or innuendo, or whatever, and someone asks you to stop, and you do not, then you are risking losing your job. Otherwise, I'm not seeing the problem. 4. It certainly isn't your place to out anyone you work with, even if that outing is only you telling them that you know. You don't know if someone is going to be receptive or mortified if you were to say, "Hey I saw you being flogged at that party Saturday night." So I guess the only real issue I'm seeing is the repeated juvenile "just kidding" thing. The whole thing seems so permeated with immaturity. Cali I agree with what Cali said.

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