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harmony3709 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/28/2005 2:24:31 PM)

I never kept a picture on my profile, even when I was looking, although usually had one or more to send when asked. Although I realize that it is not impossible for someone who knows me in r/t to tie me to this and other profiles, I don't want to make it that easy, for many reasons.

I only asked someone for a pic once, for a specific reason, and his vague reasons why he couldn't or wouldn't provided an answer in itself. And for the record, appearance doesn't matter to me, but I was concerned more about honesty.

My Master asked me for a pic a few weeks after we started talking (he did have a pic on his profile) and believed me when I told him the truth -- that they had disappeared off my computer and I would have to get one to send him -- but we ended up meeting anyway shortly after that and before I had a pic to send him. I did give him a description though in the meantime.

When I was looking, if someone did not have a pic on their profile, it didn't matter to me at all. But if they DID have a picture of their ass, cock, or any nude shot, or some others that I just found laughable, that would definitely be an immediate turn off and there would be no interest on my part. As well as emails that consisted of: Got a pic? Or anything similar. I want to know you are interested in me, not just in my looks.

So I would say if you are going to have one.........make sure it is one that gives the impression you want to convey.

Blessed be,
harmony



plantlady64 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 11:48:53 AM)

Hello Sir TearCollector,
Some people want photo's of you to see if you fit the physical beauty they seek, others just want a photo to know who they are talking to, and then you have others like me who don't need a photo at all to decide if I want to meet you in person.
I think it's not such a straight and narrow road as to the reasons why people want photo's. There are as many reasons as there are people.

I don't judge people by their surface appearances, but to see someone's face helps me feel like I'm talking to a real person and not just some faceless words on my screen. For me that's the only reason I like seeing photo's. Again I don't require one to meet someone though. I actually contacted my Master in a different site for the first time without a photo. He said in all the time he'd been on line no one else had written him. He had in the other site a beautifully deep profile as far as the words he'd expressed and that's was why I'd written him. I was very surprized no one else had seen what a deep wonderful man he was by his words. I think in this world too many men and women worry about the surface of theirselves far more than who they are inside. Overall it's very sad to have so many care more about the appearances they keep rather than their selves for real.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne



TearCollector -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 1:23:49 PM)

suzanne

I will post a pic soon. I agree with what you say. I have sent a few photos to those that posted here and expressed an interest to see what a hideous monster I am. So,,, now they know and the rest do not. But they will. I will post a pic soon. The advice I got here was post something to reflect reality and who I am. Im working on that.

TearCollector



plantlady64 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 1:59:33 PM)

Hello Sir TearCollector,
Thank you for considering my advice. I do think since you are indeed a handsome man in an exotic location you need to be on the look out for insincerity more so than most Dom's. Like I'd said prior a lot of confused screwed up sub/slaves will find the notion of running off to some exotic place an escape route that has nothing to do with it being your arms they run to. I'd be very careful about being sure they are sincerely interested in you for you before I'd invite someone to visit.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne



KnightofMists -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 2:34:15 PM)




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ORIGINAL: TearCollector

suzanne

I will post a pic soon. I agree with what you say. I have sent a few photos to those that posted here and expressed an interest to see what a hideous monster I am. So,,, now they know and the rest do not. But they will. I will post a pic soon. The advice I got here was post something to reflect reality and who I am. Im working on that.

TearCollector


Firstly, I have enjoyed sitting back reading this partiucular thread. I can't say that anything stated here is of a surprizing nature. But, it was nice to see so many validate what I already feel with regards to this issue. I myself am very big on pictures. But, that is for my family. I can equally appreciate that many have various reasons why they will not post a picture. I personally like to put several pictures and also enjoy several of others. But in the end, it really is what is written on the profile that interests me. A well written profile always gets my attention and admiration. While a picture is just that , a picture. I do enjoy reading Dominant or submissive profiles - male or female. I, like many that have already posted, am very interested in the mind of a person. how they express themselves is very important in enabling a possible relationship to grow and succeed. However, if such a relationship has a possibility of a intimate nature, I am not ashamed to say that Looks Do Matter! There does need to be some physical connection for me to consider an intimate relationship with someone. It really is the whole pack and I do not expect prefection in any regard. A second thought, sooner or latter one has to confront the physical connection, holding back the picture well is like trying to hold back the tide. Sooner or later we are all going to have to show how we look if we hope to build the relationship. Sooner or later we have to trust the the person can see our stengths that appeal to them and look beyond the weaknesses. Now if you they can't... do you really want them in your life in the first place?

As i stated, I am a fan of several pictures. For me, if I feel several picutures gives a better appreciation. I look at my own pictures and see how each one is different in some way. I see others the same way. So if you going to put a picture up... trying putting a few.

KoM



TearCollector -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 2:50:25 PM)

The consequences of being wrong about a slave and delivering her across the world to my location would be enormous. Obviously we want to get it right the first time. Not rushing is the key. But there is also a phenomenon that occurs when a man is smitten with a woman, He goes blind to reality and does dumb things. Another phenomenon that may be of benefit is a woman’s ability to read another woman. Its true isn’t it ladies? You can look at a woman and read her like a news paper. You gals are like blood hounds. You can smell deceit a mile away.

Maybe I should have my female friends here start a screening process for me and Ill run any potential slave through the process for approval. LOLOL.. That sounds so corporate. And is so me to have a board of slave directors to keep me out of trouble. ROFL!

TearCollector



TearCollector -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 3:04:59 PM)

KoM

Thanks for your input. If I hadnt already been convinced that I should put a photo up, I would do it because of what you said.

Also, I think your photo is excellent. Can I barrow it? LOL obviously Im kidding. And BTW Im straight.

I have a photo that I sent to plantlady and another wonderful person that posted here. I may use that one. Ill consult them on what they think.

Thanks Agian knight
TearCollector



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 3:07:49 PM)


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ORIGINAL: TearCollector
Another phenomenon that may be of benefit is a woman’s ability to read another woman.

*sniff* I love the smell of sexist overgeneralizations in the afternoon.

quote:

Its true isn’t it ladies? You can look at a woman and read her like a news paper. You gals are like blood hounds. You can smell deceit a mile away.

And yet we keep reading so many threads that have women confused and unsure all the time...
quote:


Maybe I should have my female friends here start a screening process for me and Ill run any potential slave through the process for approval. LOLOL.. That sounds so corporate. And is so me to have a board of slave directors to keep me out of trouble. ROFL!

TearCollector

You have no idea how many dominants would benefit from that actually.



TearCollector -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 3:44:02 PM)

Emerald

Im slightly confused about your post. Could you please clearify? Were my comments gender offensive? It wasnt my intension. But sometimes a caveman will say things and hurt people not realizing he did so. So, should I climb back in my cave?

TearCollector



sultryvoice -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 3:47:56 PM)

Words, pictures, self = your heart...the words guide, the picture tells the rest of the story..This is how I see it..Even a picture of a great looking hunk of man is nothing if he doesn't have the intelligence to be able to express himself. I need to see more than," I am looking for my one"...I will surely not look further to the one liner or those who can't put more into words than that..

As for the genital pics..who came up with this outrageous comedy? If I get that..it's over before it started..Some men shouldn't send them..I certainly wouldn't be proud of what is in some of those pics! Why would I want to see that? First, I want and need to know who that person is, what they are made of, what interests we share, if our insides match our outsides..sex isn't the whole package.. That is later and a pic won't be needed at that point!

I do have a pic but it's my choice to do so..

Respectfully,
sultry



Aileen68 -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/29/2005 4:11:08 PM)

I prefer to see a picture of who it is I may be talking to. Since I'm an artist I need that visualization. That's the main reason I posted my pictures (after overcoming my big fear of having someone recognize me as a result)...it's only fair to have a picture if I expect to see a picture. I also think that your picture can be a great way to express who you may really be...especially if you're not great at expressing yourself with words. My two pictures show the two extremes of my life...my vanilla self and my kink.



sf-Sub -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/30/2005 2:55:16 PM)

Generally speaking no picture means no contact …. This goes both ways…

In addition I like to see classy photos first not raunchy. Photos that show a style and manner or character, a face even. A person’s face and eyes are nice to see...builds trust...is nice to put a face to the words. So I would agree with the bulk of the posters in the thread and say a good clean photo is worth a thousand views and some responses.



nella -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (8/30/2005 5:38:20 PM)

i have not read all the replies, sorry.

i usualy like to see a picture on a profile, sort of give me a better feeling of talking face to face whit somone, as for if looks matter, not alot, but i shall admitt that i am shallow enough to like one apperance over another, but it is not an desiding factor as to who i woul like or not.



WickedKev -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (9/2/2005 7:07:35 PM)

I put my pic up because I like people to see who they are talking too but I have quite a few friends over here that can't because they risk losing thier jobs if outted. So I talk to people with out photos but then I am not looking except for friends but even if I was I would consider profiles without pics.



slavedesires -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (9/2/2005 7:45:32 PM)

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The physical attraction must be a low priority. I want her mind enslaved by mine. Her soul wrapped in my words and her body in unparalleled obedience. Im prepared to take the time to allow that to happen. I realize it wont be delivered to me like that.
I look for content in a message. I look for interest in a reply. Im wierd I guess.



The best profile pic i ever saw was caitlyn's original...... twas great!
A profile is a picture window of another...so we pay attention to profile content...return message content and interest.

Pics on here range from erotic to funny/silly.......
A pic can be deceiving, words can be as well....but combine both and eventually and you will receive a cleaner picture window.

i also believe Fangs sentence..... "A picture does add some value to trust." If i get pics only of gentila or eroticism and have simply requested a face pic...trust breaks in half.

Tears, i just love the beginning of the words you wrote i quoted. So VERY true!!

~~shy



southerngemmy -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (9/4/2005 3:58:07 PM)

I personally do not show a pic also is not important to me looks, yes to an extent it is am human, but it is the depthness of a relationship and true rawness and open honesty I seek ty, gem



caitlyn -> RE: Pictures in Profiles...does a slave care? (9/4/2005 7:07:57 PM)

What shy ... you don't like my new profile picture? [;)][;)]



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