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Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/12/2008 4:14:46 PM

AtlantaMistress

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I have a stable of subs I see on a regular basis (from at least once a week to a minimum of once a month) and I don't ever want our sessions to be boring. I am looking for ideas - ways to have them serve me - outside of the standard: clean my home, massage my feet, be my play toy (not sexually) - obvious things. Each relationship, although unique, is still about them serving me and getting pleasure from making me happy.

If anyone has any interesting ideas to help keep things fresh, fun, and exciting...I am appreciative for the input!

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/12/2008 4:21:14 PM

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I have one for you... go to this website: http://www.literotica.com/stories/stories_by_category.php?category=31&page=53

Pick some stories and make them happen!

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/12/2008 4:22:28 PM

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RFL, if you have a stable of subs, just rotate what you do to each of them, then you should be fine!!

Seriously, it depends on what they seek, each will have different hot buttons that work for both of you. What works between you and one, may not mesh as well with another.

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/12/2008 4:46:12 PM

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kc,

Thanks for adding in, but first, this is not about what they seek, but ways to keep it fresh and exciting for them to serve ME. You are correct though - the "hot buttons" I use for reward and punishment are totally different for each one, and it is not so much the play activities for a scene I am interested in getting ideas for as much as ways to have them show that they will do anything to serve me, pamper me, etc. outside of the typical things I have them do for me. As a Pro Domme, I am a bit unique in that I don't fulfill their fantasy - unless of course that fantasy is just to serve me and get pleasure from seeing me happy. Seeing the same subs over and over, developing true D/s relationships does take a bit of work - creativity, which don't get me wrong - I LOVE MY JOB - just want to always be great at what I do!

Faye,

Great link - thanks!

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/12/2008 5:07:55 PM

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ORIGINAL: AtlantaMistress

kc,

Thanks for adding in, but first, this is not about what they seek, but ways to keep it fresh and exciting for them to serve ME. You are correct though - the "hot buttons" I use for reward and punishment are totally different for each one, and it is not so much the play activities for a scene I am interested in getting ideas for as much as ways to have them show that they will do anything to serve me, pamper me, etc. outside of the typical things I have them do for me. As a Pro Domme, I am a bit unique in that I don't fulfill their fantasy - unless of course that fantasy is just to serve me and get pleasure from seeing me happy. Seeing the same subs over and over, developing true D/s relationships does take a bit of work - creativity, which don't get me wrong - I LOVE MY JOB - just want to always be great at what I do!

Faye,

Great link - thanks!

I understand what you meant,,,,but in the case of of prodomming, it is possible to make sure you enjoy it while also accessing their hot buttons, or it will get boring for both of you, and that would not be fruitful to your business. That's all I was saying, I have different things that I do with different subs...all of it pleases me, but some excel in areas that another does not, and if I am enjoying it, then I have no problem picking the sub that will enjoy it best(unless I am doing a session to achieve just the opposite results from them, lol)

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/12/2008 7:44:08 PM

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Try training them in new skills. Next time I see my boy, I'm going to teach him to give a mani-pedi. . .save myself $50 every month! He's thrilled with the idea, especially since I'm enlisting the help of another girlfriend. (Need some feet to train him with)

After that, since he gives a decent massage, I was thinking about making him read up on reflexology, if he takes to it, maybe sending him to a class.

Reading down, I see you are a pro-domme, so maybe sending your subs to class isn't the way to go, but you can still start teaching them things. Do you have any idea how many men don't know how to do laundry? How many people in general don't know how to change a tire or their oil? (mmmm, dirty oily boys, might need bathtime after that. Got any good bath slaves? Sorry, I digress) Hell, dust off the calculus textbook and take them back to school. Sometimes, if I'm feeling really sadistic, I'll break out the O-Chem. . ."Boy, memorize the IUPAC naming rules. Next week I'm giving you a quiz and for every compound you can't identify you'll be getting one stroke from the [insert implement of choice here]."

Who says learning can't be fun?

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/13/2008 12:09:33 AM

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Hell, dust off the calculus textbook and take them back to school. Sometimes, if I'm feeling really sadistic, I'll break out the O-Chem. . ."Boy, memorize the IUPAC naming rules. Next week I'm giving you a quiz and for every compound you can't identify you'll be getting one stroke from the [insert implement of choice here]."

Who says learning can't be fun?

ooo wonders if my boss would mind if I changed my classes a bit and taught English this way... I got a lil bit of Domme in me, and oooooooo that would be fun. Every mistake.... so many mistakes. Sigh.

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/13/2008 2:52:01 PM

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AtlantaMistress,

You are quite welcome. When I run out of ideas or don't feel like planning the scene, this is where I go. It's almost as good as having the recipe to a good meal.

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/13/2008 6:01:03 PM

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This is one of those areas that, I'm afraid, I'm not much help in at all. When it comes to what I do, I base it solely on what is happening with My submissive at the time. In other words, I take all of My lifestyle ideas from real life, that are specific to Myself and My submissive. I don't write out grand, elaborate scenes or take random punishments to give Me a giggle. I take life experiences, and incorporate them into My lifestyle. A lot of this is based on My interactions with My submissive. The personality, what's happening in life, thoughts, ideas, etc. An example of this is, this past weekend, I found there were a few times that My boy didn't listen to commands the first time I gave them. Therefore, I had more than one occasion where it was necessary to bite his ear. Easy enough, but it was effective. Another example was his stance. The order to kneel was given a few times.

It's My opinion that you can take anything from the day to day world and incorporate it into the lifestyle. It's entirely a matter of creativity from the spur of the moment. What's effecting you and the bottom you're dealing with? Take those things and stretch them. Trust Me. From a single seed grows an entire garden of ideas.

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/13/2008 7:05:04 PM

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Here are a few practical ideas you might like. You could try having them be productive, especially if they're handy with tools. Have them sort/organize/clean your toys/tools of the trade; design/build devices you'd like to have such as a new spanking bench or wooden pony, or make modifications to things you already have... and then try them out, of course, to make sure the items are to your specifications and work the way you want them to. They can help organize closets or dresser drawers... especially those containing the clothes they love to see you in most. Have them do those things around the house that you hate the most... not having to do them should make you very happy!

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RE: Keeping it fresh/fun! - 1/14/2008 3:52:57 AM

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Dear Mistress Sandy

Good BDSM is a mixture of anticipation and surprise, of course.

One suggestion is to take the scene out of the surreal and contained world of your dungeon (if that is feasible).

I like being taken to art galleries, exhibitions, theatre and lunch or dinner by subs and slaves. I usually trust them to choose something they think I will enjoy (and woebetide if they think I am going to enjoy Monster Trucks, Bruce Willis movies or the bloody football!!!!). Its a lovely way to be served and enjoy yourself.

Of course there's almost always some discreet and erotic D/s element (that they were not expecting), but nothing that would be noticed by innocent by-standers.

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